im not doin it on purpose but late at night ill listen to my parents conversations and about 97% of them are about me and how they don't know how to handle me. im only 13 what do i do
2006-06-05 14:42:14 · 19 answers · asked by brown_eyed_bombshell92 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
IM NOT DOING ANYTHING! its like my mom buys me clothes and my dad doen't think im old enough to wear them.im not causing this my parents are. they can't agree how to raise me
2006-06-05 14:46:19 · update #1
First thing it is not your fault. YOUR PARENTS are having the disagreement not you. They are doing it late at night so you don't have to hear it. It is important as parents to be in agreement on how to raise you. You are very important to your parents otherwise they wouldn't have these conversations. You are 13 you are starting to become a woman but in some other respects you are still a girl. It is a tough age to go through being a teenager as well as for your parents to raise you. Like I said they are trying to work on how to handle you respectfully and be in agreement. I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-06-05 14:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think you need to sit down and talk with them. Tell them you hear them fighting about you at night and that you can't take it anymore. Don't go into the conversation hot headed and ready to defend yourself no matter what.......go in with an open mind. Because believe it or not, your parents used to be your age too. And some parents are raised a whole lot different then others. So you don't know if one has the attitude of just let you be and let you do whatever you wanna do because you have a good head on your shoulders, while the other is out for protection mode because they know what hormones and life can push people into. So just consider both sides, and together work out a compromise. Such as if your dad hates the whole outfit and your mom is okay with it then keep the pants or keep the shirt and let your dad go with you to the store so that way he can say yes or no to the things you pick out. It won't be so bad just get it out and let them know how you feel.
2006-06-05 15:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're only 13, you cant possibly tear your family apart- you dont have that kind of power, nor should you ever feel that sort of responsibility over people who are supposed to be grownups.
That said, are you doing things you shouldn't be doing? If so, why are you doing these things? Are your parents loving and supportive of you? If so, please dont waste the opportunity to have a great time as a teenager, to make the most of these years. Trust me, it is never worth it to waste your time on boys/drinking/drugs or whatever it is that you may be doing that is so bad.
If your parents aren't really there for you, if they aren't that great, use this as an opportunity to rise above it, to be Better than that. Do your best in school, make good genuine friendships that are based on respect and love (and not the bad things; never the bad things). Trust me, it will be worth it.
Good luck.
2006-06-05 14:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sam3931 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a hint from what your parents are saying. I'm sure their expectations are not unreasonable or against the law--man or God's.
Have a talk with your parents and ask them what they expect of you. Never mind telling them you've been listening to what they've had to say. That will anger them and they'll feel violated and spied on.
Do your best to make them proud, after all, they are paying all your bills you rack-up, giving you a roof over your head, food in your stomach, and loving you even when you're impossible. Not all 13 year olds have that much.
2006-06-05 14:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by sassi_1_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents need to get on the same page or at least show a united front. They are the parents and if they don't know how to parent they need to ask somebody. I'll bet there's other stuff going on that you don't know about. It may sound like they're arguing about your clothes, but I'll bet it's much more that that and it's not your fault so don't blame yourself. It wouldn't hurt to tell them you hear them and it upsets you. You're 13, this shouldn't be your problem.
2006-06-05 15:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you acting out? You need counseling, probably family counseling. You are probably not the only one at fault here. The apple does not fall far from the tree.
0k - clothes.... be happy your mom is on your side. Usually, both parents gang up against you. At least you have someone on your side.
2006-06-05 14:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by geekgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going though puberty. This is so normal. You must talk to your parents openly. It is a tough time on every family. The best thing to do is to keep communicating - no matter what.
2006-06-05 14:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some headphones and don't listen to them. It's normal for parents to worry about how to handle their teenagers. I was nuts in my teens. Most teens are nuts. It's just the way it is.
2006-06-05 14:47:07 · answer #8 · answered by spudric13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let them discuss and don't listen anymore so you don't feel like this terrible. Don't worry its sometimes normal for parents to argue. They will deal with the problems you shouldn't have to worry about anything.
2006-06-07 14:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by alexia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is NOT yours it is your parents. they must work through these issues that sll parents have. the thing u need to do is not eavesdrop ontheir conversations. that is rude and will only cu\ause youmore grief that isn't needed
2006-06-05 15:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by abbytbw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋