We will be spending next weekend at my wife's sister's house. The mattress in the guest bedroom is old and sags in the middle. We bought a new bed recently, and have no use for our old pillow top. I want to throw it onto the back of the truck and take it over there. My wife says that there's no way in hell, I'm doing it. The pillow top is only 2 years old and a good mattress. What's wrong with giving it to my inlaws?
2006-06-05 14:39:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There is nothing wrong with giving the mattress to your in-laws. However, I would suggest that you don't just take it over there when you go. Call them first and say you bought a new bed and would like to find a good home for your old mattress. Ask them if they would like to have it or say that you would like to give them "first chance" at it before giving it to someone else. Since you sleep on it sometimes, they may appreciate the new mattress. They probably don't know how bad the guest bedroom mattress is since they don't sleep there. Don't have a sarcastic attitude about the bed at your in-laws, it may put everyone in a defensive mood, especially your wife, and you don't want to put her in a tough spot between you and her sister.
2006-06-05 14:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 12⤊ 2⤋
Just be careful how you approach it. Call them casually this week and just mention that you've bought a new bed and have a two-year old pillow-top mattress in good shape and were just thinking that they might be able to use it. If they say no, then don't bring it, because then it would seem rude. But if they mention that they'd like the mattress, bring it with you (just don't be surprised if it ends up going on their bed, and their ten-year old mattress gets put in the guest room.
You could always bring an air mattress and sleep on the floor. Remember, it's only for a weekend, and a sore back might be worth it if the alternative is hurting her sister's feelings.
2006-06-05 18:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call up your in-laws and tell them that you bought a new mattress.Tell them that your older mattress is only two years old and in very good condition and ask them if they would like to have it. It is not rude to offer the mattress to them;it would be rude just to show up with a mattress without telling them first.
2006-06-05 15:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd think the inlaws would appreciate it. But maybe you could tell them that you just thought they might want it since it's only a couple of year old, not that their mattress is awful.
2006-06-05 14:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by GAgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WIth both operating finished time and her no longer desirous to do her percentage why do not you've someone are available once a week to assist out. possibly she is a grimy lady and doesn't thoughts residing in a multitude. I understand no longer needing dishes laying round, the dirty bathing room ingredient ought to deliver me wacko, I quite have 2 teenage boys and im on all of them the time with their bathing room, i'm eliminating the internet..they sparkling. i do not imagine your being rude, you do say your doing stuff interior the domicile...i ought to %. up my personal stuff, do my personal laundry, at the same time as she has no longer something to positioned on then she ought to get inspired...that or employ a house keeper, maid or maybe with the undeniable fact that they are noted as those days.
2016-12-06 10:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the sister and ask if she could use a new mattress, that you have your old one that is pretty new. If she wants it to replace the old one that good if she doesnt want it then yeah its out of the question.
2006-06-05 15:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by jeno75831 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont see anything wrong with it. This is a nice gift! I'm sure your sister-in-law knows that her guest bed isn't that great; that's why its the Guest Bed and not the Master Bed. Unless she's a very sensitive person, I say go ahead, bring it.
2006-06-05 14:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sam3931 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it can be done tactfully, besides if ya'll are close enough to spend the week-end at each others house then surely the sisters are close enough to pass on out-grown, or no longer used articles with honesty.
2006-06-05 15:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Grandma Susie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Irish
8 minutes ago
Report Abuse
It's rude because you're married to your wife and not your in-laws. Priorities my friend
^what he said
2006-06-05 14:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by damnnearperfect5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there are some intimate memories etched into the fibers of love?
2006-06-05 15:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by WhiteNacho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋