is it OK for a 31 year old guy to still live at home with his parents?

Question

Do you think it is OK / NORMAL for a 31 year old man to still live at home with his parents and stay in the same room he grew up in
accross the hall from his parents.
Assuming the guy makes good money, has plenty in savings, is physically healthy, and has had the same stable job for 10 years.
The Parents can take care of themselves also. Please explain {why or why not} you think this is/isn't normal.

Ok...I'm female..and have lived on my own since I was in college. I obivously do not agree with the situation. I think it so unhealthy and pure WEIRD. Seems like most people agree. So I would like to know WHAT COULD BE A POSSIBLE MOTIVE FOR HIM LIVING THERE? I think it could be explained as a "person who is too afraid to take care of themself and responsibility."

Answer 1

Chances are there is something keeping him there. Perhaps his father tends to be abusive toward his mother and he stays at home to referree?

Probably something like that.

Otherwise, if it's just because...you're dealing with a mama's boy. Run!

Answer 2

I do not see anything wrong with that kind of set-up. For all we know, maybe they have very close family ties. As far as I know, amreican laws permit 18 year olds to leave home and start on their own but its really all a matter of choice. Some people may think it is not normal maybe because if they were in that situation, they would do the opposite..... because they want independence or freedom from being told what to do or hate the idea having parents sticking their noses at the things they do.

It is not at all abnormal. It becomes abnormal if at that age, the guy still has no work and is still dependent of the the provisions of his parents...... There is nothing at all wrong about staying with your own parents for the rest of your life if there is nothing harmful in the parent-son relationship. People with close family ties according to statistics do better in life and live happy and fulfilled lives.

Answer 3

This is not normal but, more "normal" then it seems.
The reason why I say that is because these guys are called a "Mamma's boy". They can not do sh*t for themselves.
Sometimes it is the mothers who can't let go.
Yes, I have met men who lived in the basement of their mom's house until 28 or 29. But, they left because they were about to get married and move into their own place.
Then again, I have seen men with their wives live in the same house because they were saving money to get their own place and for the time being, had only that place to stay in.
As for this case, this man is a loser! He really does not have to pay for anything, he dose not have to cook for himself, or, does he ever have to wash his clothes.
I worked with a guy like this. He is now 52 years old. Not a slob, a virgin still (he never committed to a woman because he said he never found the right one) and he still lives at home with his mom. She does everything for him. The only thing he knows how to do by himself is to drive a car, buy groceries and work!
SAD!
I hope the hell you are not going out with this guy. You deserve better!

Answer 4

I can see if he's fallen on some hard times & it's only a temporary thing, then that's fine... I had to do it when I was 26 for a few months. But if he's been there for a signifigant length of time and/or has no plans of moving out, then I'd say that there's something wrong with the guy.

Answer 5

Although most people do choose to live on their own once they reach adulthood I don't see anything really strange in his situation. You don't describe him as a mama's boy or antisocial. It's certainly possible he's never truly grown up. It could be that he cannot cut the apron strings. Is he someone you are interested in? If so, is this a deal breaker for you? If you are not interested in him, why does it bother you so much? If it works for him and his parents, what business is it of yours?

Answer 6

I think it is odd that he wants to stay under his parents wings. It is kind of sad really. I work with a few people who are the same way. I would want to ask him what keeps him at home. I would want to know why he never married. The parents need to cut the cord also. It is time for the little birdie to be shoved out of the nest. What happens when they die? Where will he be then?

Answer 7

Its normal because he has a choice. He chooses to stay with his parents and they don't mind. Its abnormal because society says once you're 18 you have to leave home and go screw up your life and end up on the 6 o clock news in a remote growth of weeds or on Oprah. Obviously, if he's doing fine financially, physically and otherwise then wow, sounds like a happy guy to me. To each his own.

Answer 8

I wish any of my children would have stayed longer. It's fine if a man cares to live with his parents at 31 or any age. Particularly if both he and they are self-supporting. It could be out of love, or in order to save money. In either case, there's nothing wrong with it.

I knew a girl who moved out when she was 17. She went back and lived with her parents again at 29. It's her home--even if she was gone for 12 years.

Answer 9

Depends on the reasons he has. Is he saving up for a house? do his parents rely on him for things that you are not aware of.

It's unusual to still be at home at that age, but with the economy as it is and other factors it may be OK.

If it's just a matter of having a hard time leaving the nest, then there are probably other factors at work there

Answer 10

I had a guy that worked for me once that was pretty much in the exact situation as this person you expalined. He was just a little odd, not real odd...just a little. I think it is okay but not normal. My dad is my best friend for the most part. However if I lived with him thinking I would loose my mind.

Answer 11

No, absolutely not. At his age, he should want to have some privacy and independence from his parents. I have no problem with someone helping his parents, even if they don't need help, but living with them? That's just ridiculous. I know because I dated a dude OLDER THAN THAT who still lived at home. Even some of his siblings - his older brother in particular - thought he was weird.