my bf who was very sweet, told me he luved me, wrote me a luv poem, (well....tried lol) he seemed so perfect. then my friend called yesterday and told me that he liked someone else and things weren't working out and he wanted 2 dump me. i cried hysterically. it was bad. i rolled back and forth in my bed screaming running out side thinking of wut 2 do then running back in dicovering that there was nothing out there i could run 2 or go or do that would make me feel better. i slit my wrists scared 2 death. immediately after i freaked and called my friend who was his sister. i guess i was on speaker cuz soon after that i got a phone call from her bro (my ex)
(him) hey, i just wanted 2 say that im really sry about this its just that i like other ppl 2 and it would ruin our relationship. but i do still wanna b friends but if u dont want 2 i totally understand. but everything i said was true and i do luv u. plz dont do ne thing stupid bcuz of my dumb mistakes.
he still acts like were...
2006-06-05 13:45:17 · 115 answers · asked by sweet_pea1024 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
going out. he emails me things saying he luvs me, says he luvs me more than i luv him,he says how hes gonna miss talking 2 me the way he used 2. wut do i do????????? i luv him sooooooo much!!!!!!!! plz help me.
2006-06-05 13:47:09 · update #1
(serious answers only)
2006-06-05 13:47:24 · update #2
if i get a new bf he'll get mad and get a gf....then we'll both b depressed...:(
2006-06-05 14:04:01 · update #3
I think it sounds like you're way, way, way too young to get involved at all with boys. Grow your own confidence first - you don't need a boy, a boyfriend, or a man to be whole and complete. Get strong on your own before you venture into that world.
Otherwise, you're a target, and you're on track for misery. Take a different path. Grow up strong and confident and single, and men will fall all over themselves trying to be near you. Best thing is you'll have your pick of them, and you'll be strong enough to move on when they don't suit your needs.
You can do it, girl, but cold-turkey the guys for a good long while.
2006-06-05 13:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by jackmack65 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This I can relate to. I also slit my wrist b-4 when i thought i was losing the one man that i TRUELY LOVED! He is my first. We have been through thick and thin and yet we are still together. Honestly, what's meant to be WILL BE! Tell him even though he has made mistakes that you already forgave him. If it's meant to be for you and him to be together then it will be in the end you will see. Don't sit around doing nothing, if you love someone you will FIGHT till you WIN! I almost gave up a battle in my relationship. I was a FOOL to even think such a thing! My boyfriend told me, what are you going to do, leave me like my other girlfriends do and his wife and kids years ago? (Let me tell you, Im NOT a women, I'm a 19 year old male from VA and my boyfriend is a 36 year old filippino. I gave up my job, family, everything to come here. I was raised in a church so i know its a SIN!...My family dont seem to care and my boyfriends family doesn't either!) But HOW CAN I CHANGE HOW MY HEART FEELS? I replied to my boyfriend, unlike those people, if they truely loved you, they would have stood beside you and would have fought harder! TRUE LOVE CONQUERS ALL! The would can take away all my possessions, but they can't take away the love we share. So, if you love this guy, FIGHT FOR HIM! Show him that you will do whatever it takes to win him over! Show him that your heart is TRUE and PRUE! Be HONEST and FAITHFULL always! Be forgiving no matter what, and no matter how much pain may come. I hope this helps you. Good Luck! I feel SORRY for you especially if he is your true love! They is nothing like your 1st! To me, age dont matter, race dont matter, only thing that matters is how your heart feels and what it desire's! FOLLOW YOUR HEART! God Bless
2006-06-18 15:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by town_hall_office_clerk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not one guy worth slitting your wrists. You should probably get some counseling so you can become a stronger person. Let him go if he wants someone else. You know there are plenty other guys out there that you wouldn't have to slit your wrists for. Is he being truthful about all this that happened after this call-after hearing you on the speaker phone? This is serious for you to get so upset. There is way too much emotions in this relationship, it is not evenly balanced. He told you about other girls so you also have the freedom to meet other guys, never, never let another guy tell you what you can or can't do, if you're single. It works both ways. Best of luck.
2006-06-18 14:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by ddy'sgrl77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I know you are gonna read what I have to say than just go on about your business. But please take some time and think about what I am saying please please this may help you in the long run. I am in a relationship where all kinds of crazy things are happening you know why because we love each other so much that we make each other crazy and that can some times be a bad thing it's bad when you hurt yourself over a man but I don't know what is worse hurting yourself or hurting him not to long ago my bf and I got into a really bad fight were I almost killed him these kinds of relationships are not healthy. I don't recommend staying in one like this unless you have something that willl hold you to him forever any way like we have 2 kids there fore I will now have to deal with this man for the rest of my life. I am telling you all of this because you need to know if he is not happy with just you now he will never be happy with just you ask yourself do you wanna end up with a man that lies and cheats on you all the time cause he stays with you because he is afraid of what you may do honey he will cheat he will lie but he may feel bad right now that is why he is kiss major butt. But honey you deserve a man that will love only you want to be with only you and there are still some guys out there so I know you are most likely young so enjoy life right now move on there will be so many guys to come and go you can pick and choose so don't ever settle for less than you deserve you are better than that I'm not saying you have to stop talkin to him just not as much and go and enjoy the summer have fun while your young you won't be young for ever so enjoy being young and free now . Good luck honey remember have fun first than worry about love later.
2006-06-19 02:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, take a deep breath and just stop for a minute and think about this. NO man is worth slitting your wrists for... He has hurt you yes, but you are a strong girl, you can handle this. Get the crying out... it'll help you feel better. Talk to your parents or friends about how you feel. If he is interested in other girls then he is not boyfriend material. He is a player and you'll be lucky to get out of the situation. Don't fall into his "i'm sorry... can we be friends" crap... You can do better.. you ARE better!!!
If you still feel the need to cause yourself pain, please talk to someone right away... a parent or grandparent, aunt or uncle or a good friend. Don't stay alone.
2006-06-05 13:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you slitting your wrists? He is not worth it!!!!!!!! He did not even have the guts to talk to you face to face. What kind of guy is that? You need to learn that some guys will break your heart. But you deal with it and move on. There is no need for drastic measures.
Besides there's somebody out there just waiting for you who will love and appreciate you. But you just gotta get through the 'bad weeds' first in order to find what you've been looking for.
You should also talk to someone about you slitting your wrists because it is not healthy. You cannot keep doing that every time something goes wrong. You'll get through whatever problem you're dealing with. You just have to believe in yourself.
2006-06-05 14:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes other people. That's cool. I don't think he's really into you. Or you wouldn't have found out from a friend. For real, you really should get over him. I don't think he is worth all this grief. I'm sorry to say this, but I don't think he loves you at all. I mean, he loves you yet he likes other people [I hope that means he likes other girls, if you know what I mean], and still want to be friends. Well, there is only one way to solve your problem. Talk to him, and see for yourself how well, how unworthy he is. Then you cry, wallow in your misery and then you move on. We always move on, that's the best part. So, give it some time, then go talk to him. That's the only best way. Goodluck and I hope it turns out for the best.
2006-06-05 13:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's really tough. First of all I'm really sorry and I know how all that stuff feels. Please don't cut your wrists. Even if this is a joke or if it's not I would love to help someone I don't even know, if I can change that much within the world I would be happy knowing I helped. If you love him to I think you should remain friends with him. Blow off steam some how, work out. Or better yet I know it would be rough.. talk about it with him. Come up with something clever, if you love him to, you should try. But just for something extra, this guy is not worth your tears if he makes you cry.
2006-06-05 13:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by Xx_I<3RocK_xX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said serious answers.. so first of all if you slit your wrist over this guy.. you are too unstable to be dating anyone..and should be concentrating on getting professional help. second.. you did all of this because a so called friend telephoned you... and you did not even know if it was true. so again.... you are not mature enough for a real relationship. third this will not be the last breakup in your life... so you had better toughen up... or you are on the path of destruction. stop letting this guy play games with you... and if you are so in love with him.. being friends is out of the question. his sister... is not a favorite of mine in this story either... she is not a real friend. anyway... the main thing is that you need some type of counseling or guidance.. and you need it yesterday. this is as serious as i can get.
2006-06-18 10:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the best way to get rid of serious feelings for one person .. is to find someone else ... not to be in a relationship with but to go out with and have fun so u wont be at home stressing over someone ... u cannot worry about things that u cannot change ... if u both are meant to be , u will be together in the end .. if u ask me it sounds like u are young, u have ur whole life ahead of u ... dont slit or wrist or do anything inthat matter over a guy ... ur life is more important that anything and u shud love urself ... men lie, im not saying he is lying but thats in their nature ... WOMEN'S RULE NUMBER 1.... TRUST NO MAN ! i wish u all the best ,, and like i said .. please stop worrying over things that you cannot change ... sit back and take care of urself and let everything fall into place ... and finally .. pray
2006-06-18 06:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by vivrantthang70807 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋