I am 22 and my fiance is 23, we both want an engagent pary, to annunce our wedding day. This is also an apportunity for us to ask for help in the wedding, such as; cake, photography,D.J, video. The problem is I don't know how to approch the guest.
2006-06-05 13:18:20 · 14 answers · asked by J.J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
They will be approaching you to congratulate you.
2006-06-05 13:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We threw a small engagement party for our immediate family and the wedding party as a chance for everyone to get to know eachother before all of the wedding festivities. It was very informal, at the clubhouse where I lived, and we made Mexican food and had cake. We also told everyone NOT to bring presents, just to come and enjoy themselves.
I would suggest talking to parents at a seperate time to ask for help with the wedding. The last thing you want to do is make them uncomfortable at an event. Maybe take each set of parents out for dinner or have them over for dinner and ask at that time. Then there is no pressure or embarassment for either party.
If you end up having to pay for it on your own, there are many good resources online. You can get flowers from a local wholesaler, find a student/upcoming photographer on craigslist (my sister found one for only $600- the photog was trying to build up her portfolio, and she had GREAT work!), have the ceremony at a local beach or park, and believe it or not, you can get dresses & tuxedos on ebay.
I was able to have a wedding & reception for $10k in Southern California for 165 guests. It can be done with a little bit of research.
Good Luck & Congrats!
2006-06-18 20:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off never ask people for help at the party. It is a little tacky. After they see how happy you both are you will have people ask what they can do.
Most importantly hire a professional event coordinator to go over your budget. We think out your plan with a critical eye that you may not see. We also can save you money by suggesting vendors that will still meet your needs but on a budget.
After you have the budget sit down with both of your families and show they you plan. They will be impressed and more likely to fork over more money because you are showing a responsible attitude toward planning the most important day of your life.
After you see what you can afford, how much your families will be able to help then start with your friends.
In order to ask friends I suggest that you state simple that instead of gifts that they can donate to the wedding. They will feel less likely to feel pressured and you will keep your friends. Make sure you do not ask your bridesmaids or your groomsman. They are already paying for gowns and shoes or a tux.
Who to count in your family meeting – both mom’s & dad's, older sisters (only if she is not in the wedding party-but include her in the discussion) and brother's, grandparents, and anyone that you feel is closed family. Do not include others. It will get to be more than either parent can handle, especially if they are having financial problems.
Good luck and blessings on you wedding.
2006-06-19 12:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by alltheextras2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can straigh out ask people to pay for services like "Hey Aunt Mary can you buy us photography?" I guess you can make a general statement to everyone that rather than gifts the day of the wedding, you would prefer financial help towards having it. If you can manage it though, I would get a credit card for a short amount of time, charge everything on there and pay it off completely with wedding gifts. Then essentially you are doing the same thing (getting help paying for the wedding) without the awkward question.
2006-06-19 06:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sara K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such an elaborate production for one day. Money spend you you will pay for things you will never see again. If I had to do it all over again... and I had a cake, photographer, someone who was videoing and Deli plates and a reception and a rehersal dinner and much more.....I would have taken the money got two close friends and gone to my minister and the jp and saved the money for a good start rather than throwing it away on such pagentry. If a bunch of relatives want to come together have a pot luck reception.
2006-06-05 20:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually someone else hosts an engagement party for you. Why not sned the guests save the date cards so that they can reserve the date. If you want to ask someone to be your DJ, make the cake, do it in person, not at a party in front of everybody.
2006-06-05 20:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've said it, the engagement party is a day to "announce" your wedding day. Not a day to ask for requests. Save that for another day. Approach them in person I would think.
2006-06-19 12:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by h2o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and ask if anyone knows of a person who can help with this or will help you with this. Many people want to help. They just need someone to ask them for it. Go Girl!
2006-06-05 20:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and ask if anyone knows of a person who can help with this or will help you with this. Relatives and Friends will be glad to help u.
2006-06-19 00:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by sugar_guy84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just announce that you need some help and if anyone is willing to help then they can. if you dont want to do that have a sign-up sheet for those who would be willing to help.
2006-06-19 16:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and do your best take a deep breath
2006-06-05 20:21:30 · answer #11 · answered by Pinkigal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋