What Should I do (THIS IS A VERY SERIOUS QUESTION)?

Question

Me and My dad dont get along together and im afraid of him cause he use to be in the military and is very strict. He use to use a pattle on us to teach us a lesson and when he got mad sometimes he would push me and my brother around. Now me and him get along a little better now that im 15 and not young anymore what should i do still stay with my dad who im afraid to do certain things with him around or should i move in with my mom full time! i love my dad but i dont want to live with someone that im scared of or cant feel safe living there!! My mom is really nice but she also punishs me for bad grades or things i do that are wrong but she is always there for me when i need her!!! (PLZ BE SERIOUS) thank you very much!

Answer 1

This is really serious. I would say you live with your mom. If ur dad beats you then it is called "physical/child abuse". Punishing is different from beating. From your description of your dad and mother, your mom sounds like the one that really cares for you. She wouldn't be punishing you for bad grades if she didn't worry about your future. She loves you and that's why she wants you to grow up to be nice, respectable man with stable job. You need to be with a person that you can feel safe and comfortable talking to. During teen years there are already enough "pressures" from the outside, im sure your mom would be really glad that you talked to her. You really need somebody that you can talk to you and your mom is the one. I would definately recommend your mom because she is always there for you and you can discuss whatever is bothering you with her. Hope this helps! =)

Answer 2

You said your mom punishes you for things, do you mean in a regular way, or like your dad does? If your mom doesn't hurt you like your dad, then I'd say talk to your mom and some other adult about it. You might think about talking to your dad about it too if someone else was also there, but only if you don't think your dad would do anything to you once they left. If your mom doesn't abuse you, then I think the safest thing would be to move in with her. I'm so sorry you have to go through that! I won't say " I know how you feel" because obviously I haven't been in your exact situation, but I did use to live with an abusive dad (who I don't live with any more) and everything has turned out fine. So good luck! I really hope that everything turns out okay.

Answer 3

Parents often teach their children in ways similar to how they were taught by their parents. First of all, you should live with whoever you are comfortable with; your mom. Nevertheless, you should try your best to have father-son interactions with your dad. If your dad is punishing you for things that you know you did wrong, try to learn from the mistake. If your dad uses 'suitable' or minor punishments, you should be strong and not run away from the punishment. No the other hand, if it is clearly abuse rather than mere parenting, tell your mom or some other authority. Never use physical force or weapons to retaliate against your dad. Take some time away and your dad will not be as strict because he too would like to see you more often. One thing about parents is that as they grow old, they would like their children to spend more time with them. Over time, you will be able to over come your childhood fears. If there is anything you dislike about your father's parenting style, be sure to learn from this in your own parenting skills when you grow up.
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Answer 4

Sweetie, all in all you have to do what you feel is right, but by what you have said I would definitely go live with my mom if that was my situation, its good that you and your dad get along better but its obvious that you are happier with your mom. Not too judge but it sounds like your mom is a better parent. Your dad sounds kinda mean. Your mom is just lookin out for you when she grounds you over bad grades, she just wants you to do good in school. And when she grounds you over thangs you shouldn't be doing well you shouldn't be doing them. I never really had a mom like that growing up and sometimes I wish I did. Maybe I would of finished school instead of having to get my GED. I always said that I would finish high school and go to college but it didn't happen that way,maybe I would of if I had someone behind me encouraging me. Your mom does it because she loves you. This is all my own opinion, I don't know everything about your situation, but this is how it sounds to me. You can still have a relationship with your dad without living with him full time. If you don't feel safe living with your dad you shouldn't be there, Your mom is the one who seems to really care about you I would live with her. Hope everything works out for you.

GODBLESS!

Answer 5

If you are afraid of your father then don't hesitate to move in with your mom, for your dad should know that being a father is totally different from being in the military. Tell him what you really feel and make him understand that he should accept your decision. Have your mom by your side when you tell him your true feelings, then there can be nothing he can do to you in order for you to change your mind. Have courage and good luck!

Answer 6

Son,it truly sounds as if you already have made up in your heart what you truly want to do and what is in the best interest for you.I know that military fathers or mothers have a different system when it comes to running their home,they think of their home as the headquarters for order in the family as well.However,there is nothing wrong with discipline when needed either.Just make sure that you are not playing your parents just because of misunderstandings and punishments.It will back fire right in your face,my daughter did the same with me and her father,of course i was the heavy when it came to the discipline,but i did it out of love for her,which at 15 years old she nor anyone at that age for that matter could understand,now today she is an adult with 2 kids that she doesn't have anymore,due to choices that she picked by running from the punishments of home when she was younger.Her father was more laid back than me and this is the bearing of her fruit.I feel so bad for her,but she played a game and lost in the end,so please again,don't play your parents or run from what seems to be hard at home at the time.It truly is hard to being a good parent,just as it is hard for you to understand the ways that is used in your discipline.Hang in there and do what you feel in your heart and stick with your choice and do good in all you can.Best wishes and Good Luck to you in your decisions!

Answer 7

It appears like you will have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. One of the advantage indicators of PTSD is a form of emotional numbing and lack of ability to believe whatever. However, you are going to ought to get a extra thorough assessment by means of a psychiatrist to verify if this what the drawback is. You say you did not revel in any demanding parties however then you definitely describe parties that might be demanding to any individual. You will have to search medication at a Veterans Administration health facility. You say that you do not believe guilt or regret which might point out a character disease unrelated on your battle however you additionally say that you simply cry whilst you whilst you believe of anything unhealthy taking place to anyone. This turns out to denote that you're able of empathizing with others and probably you're simply suppressing your emotions approximately those parties. . A certified psychiatrist will likely be in a position to aid you establish your drawback and deal with it.

Answer 8

I think staying with your mom would be a good idea. You can't be comfortable with your dad if you have to worry about making him mad all the time. You can still visit him if you want to, but in my opinion it sounds like your mom's is the place to be.

Answer 9

You know what Thomas , you are young. They are parents you've gotta listen to them
you have to undesrstand that if they do that is because they love you and they
are trying to make you into a better person. If you love them you ought to listen to them.
Or do you think someone else out there is going to love you and treat you better than them?.
I mean if you think that they are bad for disiplinin you then go ahead and go somewhere else where you could get physically abused , mentally abused verbally
Hey! at list its your parents not someone else who is not even related 2 U.

* Parents who don't care they let ya do whatever cuz they don't whant 2 deal with ya*

Answer 10

i would have someone with you that you trust and is close to your family and tell him how you feel and it sounds like to me you would be better with your mother i know you love your father but you shouldnt be afraid of him and that is no way to live believe me i didnt have an abusive father i left a very abusive relationship and litterly ran away from my home and havnt been back because i fear this person it is not worth living in fear and you should feel safe where you live it sounds like to me your family is in need of help,counciling or something because it could get worse and your father needs to know that his behavior is unexceptable i feel for you but you will have to leave him for your safety and if your brother is still at home he needs to leave too i hate to say this but if it gets to bad i would call the police on him and get the dhs involved if he raises a hand to you again good luck sweetie