ever since i started taking them i cant seem to "fall in love". i know it sounds stupid but i feel so ambivalent and it's driving me crazy. i also don't feel really happy anymore. sure i don't get depressed as often, but i feel so hollow and flat, like dead...
2006-06-05 13:05:56 · 20 answers · asked by physco_spomati 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i am on zoloft 50 mg in morning and 100 lamictal / lamictin at night.
2006-06-05 13:12:33 · update #1
marijuana is not going to help me
i have been taking them for over a year. and i am 18, i dont think that a relationship that is 1month old would mature that quickly, especially at my age.
2006-06-05 13:16:31 · update #2
Which antidepressant are you on? How long have you been on it? Have you tried others?
2006-06-05 13:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it would be good to know how long you've been taking them. Sometimes it takes a while for your chemicals to adjust.
Second, the feeling of "Falling in love" is largely chemical. There is a great article in National Geographic Explorer that explains how for the first year or so you are running around on these chemicals made by the brain to make people feel so good about love. It isn't really real...it's there so the human race will not go extinct. After about two years the real emotions are there without any help from mother nature.
That being said, real love is about looking past people's mistakes and being willing to sacrifice. It's sounds hard because it is. Getting married is fun...staying married can be fun but it's also work. So don't get worried about that crazy love feeling. It's more important to feel stable and live your life and be with someone you can build a life with, have kids with, sit on the front porch in rocking chairs fifty years from now with.
Good luck!
2006-06-05 13:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by stacieldavis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Zoloft is a anti depressant that can cause people to be suicidal so you need to be careful when you're on it. The problem may be that Zoloft is not the right anti depressant for you. Anti depressants work with certain body chemistrys and there are so many other antidepressants out there so many zoloft isn't right for your body chemistry. I suggest going to your doctor and telling him what you're feeling and he will get you another medication to try, sometimes it takes awhile to find the right one. As far as the sexual side effects I reccommend Wellbutrin because it has a low risk of sexual side effects in fact I've been on it since September of 2004 and I haven't experienced any sexual side effects.
2006-06-05 14:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety drugs so I know what you are going through. Depending on how long you have been on the meds, you may feel that way. I did in the beginning. I was very tired a lot and just plain lethargic at times. Once I got used to them that went away though and I am feeling much better.
I would talk to your doctor and tell them how you are feeling. Anti-depressants are a game of hit and miss untill you find the one that works best for you. I am on Lexapro like one of the other people, and it works for me, but not well enough. I may have to go on something else because my depression is being helped, but I still get those really bad funks at times. MY anti anxiety works pretty well, and I think that I may be okay with that one, but we will see.
They should not supress healthy emotions. Your brain is learning a whole new way of thinking. It is finally learning to be happy, and as my couselor told me, when you feel bad, now you know it because you know what it is like to feel good.
Feel free to email me and talk with me directly if you have any questions, or just need to chat about life and things. Good luck!!
2006-06-05 13:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by Raistliin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor about the different possibilities. I do know that Zoloft can totally kill one's sex drive but is generally great for it's intended purpose. A friend takes Cymbalta and has no problems. Of course, not everyone reacts the same or has the same results with the same meds.
2006-06-05 13:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by randyboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have taken the meds before and they do change some of your behavior and sleeping patterns but I dont think that it can change your emotions. I honestly think that the reason your experiencing this is because you have to much going on your life to be focusing on falling in love, but I think once your life comes to a point your comfortable with yourself and sorroundings you will be able to fall in love.
2006-06-05 13:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by casparin0324 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anti-depressants can effect you way different than another person. Loss of libido or sexual desire is a common side effect. You are saved from the really low lows but you are also rejected from the really high highs. Prozac does this. I know from experience for me.
2006-06-05 13:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that same reaction the couple of times I tried them. I felt like I really wasn't "alive" anymore and it increased my impulse to cut.
I've gotten tremendously better results from a change in diet and exercise regimen.
2006-06-05 13:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't, but as others have said, you may need to switch your meds. Also, some of the antidepressants do reduce your sexual drive, and can also inhibit orgasms.
Best of luck
2006-06-05 13:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by SolMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-07 13:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by marketingexpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im on anit-depressants and it doesnt change my attitude, i think it depends on which one you take, ask your doctor if there is anything else that might make it different. Also some anti-depressants make you worse rather than better, so definetely ask your doctor.
2006-06-05 13:10:08 · answer #11 · answered by Brittni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋