My good friend is doing drugs and becoming a big sl*t. I want her to stop being that way but nothing seems to be working! I used to be suicidal and she knows this so I told her that if she doesn't stop at least doing drugs, I am going to start cutting again. I even told her that as I was tlaking to her, I was going for my old razor I used to use. She didn't even care. She just said "If you can cut, I can get high." I told her I would stop if she did, but that didn't work either. I'm afraid she is already too far gone to even help anymore....HELP!!
2006-06-05 12:53:58 · 50 answers · asked by Juno. 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You have to sit down with your friend and have a long serious talk with her and tell her how much your nervous for her because of what she is doing and how she can get hurt from all her negative actions.You shouldn't try to make her feel guilty by saying you'll start cutting again because that won't help and it won't persuade her because she'll just say she has the right to get high as much as you do cutting.Let her know that if she doesn't get rid of her habbits that you don't feel comfortable with her having she could lose you as a friend.Don't get mad at her or yell be calm and be the best possible friend that you can and motivate her into becoming something better and hopefully she will reconsider.If she doesn't listen to you,you must tell an adult you trust and they can take it from there.
2006-06-05 13:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old is she? In school? Tell your parents, her parents, counselor, or some other adult you trust.
DO NOT START CUTTING AGAIN. This can start out mild and quickly become destructive again. If she doesn't care about you (or says she doesn't), that's all the more reason to get her help.
Do not feel guilty about "telling on her" and getting her in trouble for drugs. You may lose a friend in the short run, but you may save her life in the long run.
She is not "too far gone" for help. You need to get the adults in her life involved to show her how much she is loved and how much trouble she could get herself into.
Try to help her, but if it really doesn't work out in the end, keep in mind that you need to protect yourself and stay away from destructive people.
2006-06-05 12:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the similar situation. My friend became pergent and is kicked out of her house. She dropped out of high school and now walk the streets begging for money. I tried to help her. The lesson you should get from my story is you can lead the horse to water but you can't make it drink. I don't mean to be cruel, but even in your condition you have to know there is not much you can do. You can try a 72 hour watch from the local psych ward. You risk losing it all though. By the way DO NOT GIVE HER CASH! It will be spent on drugs if she is that hooked.
2006-06-05 14:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by caitie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs and sex..Just don't mix. Your friend may have a serious problem. Once someone is hooked on drugs it isn't easy for them to turn away, and especially if you told her you'll starting cutting yourself again.
Your friend could probably care less. The only thing she's worried about is getting her next hit. Your friend needs to be able to admit she has a problem with drugs. But until then...It sounds like you and your friend need to seek professional help.
There's a reason why some people chose to entertain certain behavior. You chose to cut yourself, and your friend chose to use drugs. There are deep issues you and your friend need to deal with before it's too late. Remember, whether you cutting yourself and your friend using drugs (sex) neither behavior is normal.
Get help...Once you get help, perhaps you'll be able to help your friend when she's ready to admit she has a serious problem.
2006-06-05 13:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have the freedom to make mistakes. But with freedom comes responsibility. And the more freedom that you have the more responsible that you must be. Or that freedom will go away. She is being selfish in choosing to be this way. She needs to know that it's not all about her and there are other people counting on her to be there. Like you for example. And her parents. And all of her other friends. And for anyone else that said that it's OK to be irresponsible because you have freedom to do what you want. You are wrong. Irresponsibility will come back to haunt you at some point in time. It's a fact. If you don't get in trouble with your parents you will get in trouble with someone else like the police for example. They aren't as tolerant as your parents BTW.
2006-06-05 13:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience, nothing can stop someone from doing something they want or need (because of addiction, or otherwise) to do. I have tried to help 2 of my "friends" stop doing drugs, to no avail. They are no longer in my life, I had to set them free. Sorry to say, that you will probably have to distance yourself from her, or be taken down with her. You can't help people who don't want it, and you will just waste your precious time and resources trying.
I hope that your threat to her was just an idol threat, and that you wouldn't actually start hurting yourself again to make her stop sleeping around and doing drugs.
If you truly want to help this person, maybe you should turn to her parents. She'll hate you for it, but if you care about her life more than your friendship, it may be the route to go.
Take care of yourself.
2006-06-05 13:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by Elizoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is under 18, tell someone who can make her get professional help. Get it before it goes to far. Drugs are serious and will ruin(or end) her whole life if she gets hooked. If she is over 18, it is her choice, she will have to deal with the consequences. All you can do is tell her how you feel. Having said all this, I hope you don't mean marijuana, because that is not serious at all. But any other drug is very serious and needs to be addressed.
2006-06-05 13:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by allknowing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe your going the wrong way about helping her, u should show her that because you are strong enough to give up an addiction like cutting then maybe she could have the stregnth to give up. it sounds like she thinks she doesn't need u, u seem like u want to do the best for her and want to help her but she won't listen drugs are hard to come off and she's not willing to try just back off and ket her do it when she come crying to u that she has a disease because she was sleeping around just be there to say i told you so.
2006-06-05 12:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is not a very good friend, but since you care so much about her...it sounds like you both need some very supportive other friends. Threatening to hurt yourself is not the way to convince her, it sounds like she is too selfish for that. Make her realize that what she is doing is stupid and self-destructive. Let her know that you are there for her if and when she wants help, but you are not going to grovel and beg. That's what she wants...
2006-06-05 12:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by dasiavou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say this but she is not your real freind if she wont be considerate. You might want to tell some more of your other freinds about it and try to sit her down and ask what is going on. If you have a guidance counselor in your shcool tell them about this but be anonymous and then maybe the counselor (or phsyciatrist) might talk to them and try to work something out.
2006-06-05 12:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by Fourtonfour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋