what do you do when praying doesnt seem to work.?

Question

Trust me, I haven't lost faith. It's just that I'm praying for guidance and trying to look inside myself and all of that, but I still feel so lost.
Today is my 2 yr wedding anniversary and I still don't know if we're gonna make it passed this point. I don't think we should be married. Rather he doesn't give me what I feel all wives deserve and that's communication and respect. Apparently i wasn't stringent enough when qualifying him to be my husband, but love got in the way of all that... what do I do? Am I just not seeing god's answer?

i was being sarcastic when I said I wasn't stringent enough, I mean I totally followed my heart into this marriage and its my mind that keeps doing all the figuring.
its getting to be a real pain in the a$$

apparently nobody on yahoo answers gets sarcasm.
I didn't really "qualify him" i was being ironic. all of my friends said oh girl he's so not your type. well my type was giving me nothing but pain.
S.A.R.C.A.S.M. people, look it up.

Answer 1

Keep looking up to God. Sometimes we look too hard for an answer and the answer is actually within us. God does answer we just have to "truly and sincerely" listen. Listen not with your ears but with your heart. And in order to "hear" we must humble ourselves and be willing to accept HIS answer. Alot of times, I don't "hear" God because I'm too busy focusing on what I want the answer to be. I hope this helps you. I'll say a pray for you.

Answer 2

Your marriage may not be the best or easiest, but you got married in God's presence and if you ask him, he will help you. In case you haven't, talk to your husband about how you feel. Use more 'I' statements (I'm hurt, I feel ignored, etc.) than 'you' statements (you hurt me, you ignore me, etc.). The problem is rarely one-sided, and there may be things that both of you can do to improve your relationship. At the same time, however, don't let yourself get into a relationship that is abusive - emotionally, psychologically, or physically. If he truly won't respect you as a human being, then you may have to consider leaving him. Make this your last choice, though, when it's been proven that nothing else will work. A couple things to try first? Look into going on a Marriage Encounter weekend together (though this isn't meant to save a relationship, it does help in many ways, especially communication - I highly recommend it). Consider marriage counseling; so long as both of you are willing to try to make it work, a counselor will help show you ways to do that. I know many couples who've had very rough times in their marriage, but who have pulled through. Hang on and keep praying for strength, wisdom, and guidance. Tell him your problems and ask for help.

Answer 3

I recommend reading a book called "Too Busy to Pray" by Billl Hybels. The title is misleading; I have more time on my hands than everybody I know put together, but it's still extraordinarily applicable to me. I bought it because I needed some guidance for developing a disciplined and productive prayer relationship with God, and it's helping me do just that.

In the book, Hybels discusses many reasons why prayers may not be answered, including "prayer busters," or certain things that can inhibit a true conversation with God and/or prevent us from truly hearing him. It's really invaluable information and advice. I don't believe that God is ignoring you, or that prayer doesn't work. It's just too complex to write out here, though to give you a brief summary, there is this little outline that is given in the book:

If the request is wrong, God says, "No."
If the timing is wrong, God says, "Slow."
If you are wrong, God says, "Grow."
But if the request is right, the timing is right, and you are right, God says, "Go."

He then goes on to explain all those points in excellent detail, which I can't reproduce here for lack of space. Sorry to seem to be pushing this book so much; I just find it fantastic and I think it would really help you in your current predicament.

I'm sorry, by the way, to hear that things are going so poorly. I really hope things work out and that God shows you a way, whatever that may be. God bless!

p.s. If you are interested in some of the content of this book, but can't find it or don't want to buy it, just email me and I can send you larger portions than what most people would care to see typed out here!

Answer 4

You hold the answer and God is letting you find it yourself. Think negative and you end up alone and empty. Use what you have to get what yo want. The old man will give you as little as possible to get as much as possible. Just as you train children the other half in you life must be taught that when you are happy he will be happy. Spend less time with the bible and more time wrapped up in your husband. Make him want you more than ever by taking him to new places in pleasure and also limiting the trips. Good food and great sex must be earned. You knew how to play him to catch him well improve your effort and fire him up again. Get nasty and let him know the free pass has been used up. He has to earn what he is getting.

Answer 5

Pray for a divorce and hope your next husband doesn't mind someone who thinks a good marriage is based on being "stringent" enough when qualifying him to be your husband.
You don't need a mythical creature's answer, you need marriage guidance and maybe a good lawyer.

Answer 6

Sometimes it's hard to hear what God wants over your own thoughts. It's not your - fault, we all struggle with it. The Holy Spirit comes in many packages and sometimes we miss it.

I'm not a councellor, but you have to tell him that no matter how much you love him it's not going to work without certain things in the marriage. If he really loves you and you're both willing to work, you might be surprised what God has in store for you. His response will tell you where he is spiritually, and that is sometimes God talking to you!

Good luck to you. Keep praying.

Answer 7

maybe God is giving you a answer , by not answering you yet, I ask would God want you to quit this marriage ? would God give up on you that easy? Get you heart and mind on the Lord more , and follow His lead and you marriage will start to get better . pray for help in your marriage and with your husband, don't ask if you should get out.

Answer 8

God answered your prayer. But you weren't listening. If you deserve communication and respect, so does he. If you qualify prospective husbands like a job interview then he deserves better. If you don't think you love him anymore then give him wings and let him go. You may have married for love in your eyes but it may have been lust. Your answer from God is in your questions. You already have the answer.

Answer 9

I know exactly what you mean. Don't give up, God is still there...it isn't a matter of "not enough faith" or "not deserving." But it is a matter of God's time....during timeslike these, pray that God reveals Himself to you in some other way that will make His intentions known to you. Jesus loves you, don't loose faith!

Answer 10

That is because God has had enough of your freeloading. He told me he wants you to stop asking stuff of him, and start making it happen on your own. That means use your head, and let your gut make the right call, it always does. Leave God alone, he is on vacation, take responsibility for the bad, and deal with it or move on.