should i try to look for a man closer to my age. or won't it matter. i want kids and he has 3 kids. it's kinda weird
2006-06-05 12:25:10 · 22 answers · asked by hotone_2005_25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he makes you feel like you are the only one, then go for it. If you feel uncomfortable because he has kids the are like 10 years young that you, then just talk to him and end it. never buckle down to what anyone says about your relationship. You decide who you care about and who you chose to be with.
2006-06-05 12:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Almighty Malachi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A little unorthadox, perhaps. But you're both adults, so there's nothing "wrong" with it.
Men in their 30's or 40's are generally more self-assured and established in the world compared to guys in their 20's, and being that chicks dig confidence, this probably appeals to you. Similarly, a man your boyfriend's age is probably absolutely giddy that he's enjoying the company of a hot twenty-something such as yourself. If it works for you both, great!
The real question to ask if you want a long-term relationship: does he want more kids?
2006-06-05 19:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by twiceborne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuck. Personally, I think it's a little weird. Unless you totally think he's just the PERFECT one, I say go for someone younger. And, has he ever been married, is there a reason he's 40 and not married? If you were a little older it might not matter as much, but since you're only 25, it just seems kind of wrong, but then again, if he's the right one.....
2006-06-05 19:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Jesus Freak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say the age difference is "wrong," but if you want kids, and he doesn't, then you've got to decide whether you want to forego children for him or not. When the man is a generation older, he may not take your opinions seriously. There are lots of differences in culture, even values that are implied in age differences, which you should sort out.
2006-06-05 19:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by marsvenusgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see your 25 and he's 40...ummm
If neither of you are serious about marriage this could be interesting. Have you asked God what He thinks??? Check with I Corinthians 6:9 in the scriptures. It may shed some light your way. Be Blessed.
2006-06-05 19:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by blakelycollierbrown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, you have to ask your self...when you're 35 he will be 50, if you do have kids with him, he will be more like their grandfather...will you be okay with that? Forget society and everyones opinion, this is something you have to figure out for yourself. You're young and the possibilities are endless. You have at leat 10 years to find the one you want to will be forever and make all the babies you both want. Enjoy life for now and if he is the right one eventually in time you'll figure it out.
PS. how old are his kids now and what's the relationship with his children and his ex wife now.?
2006-06-05 19:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by driver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to some age difference.Since he already has three kids it would be a huge responsibility.Depends on how strong your relationship is also.
2006-06-05 19:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is nothing wrong with having a boyfriend that 15 years older. I think you should find some one your age that is not older then 30 years old.That doesn't have kids.
2006-06-05 19:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, whatever you want. Just remember, you CANNOT discipline them. That's a huge responsibility. I think you should reconsider, even if he seems like a nice guy. Speaking with experience, I was a single parent. She walked , kids were 5, 8, 11. I wouldn't let another woman into their lives, I did the right thing. They thank me now, it was not easy.
2006-06-05 19:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's wrong because he's 15 years older.
2006-06-05 19:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by beauty#1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋