what is the best way to get a five year old to listen to you
2006-06-05 12:15:25 · 12 answers · asked by baby 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i know this sounds crazy but whisper. he will have to be quiet to hear you. it even works with my 9 month old, when she is cranky and fussy, i whisper to her and magically she is quiet. :)
2006-06-05 12:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use active listening techniques and make sure they know what your saying to them. First you get eye to eye with them. then you make sure you have eye contact. You tell them something, simple command or explanation. Then you ask them what did i say so they can repeat it back so you know they know what you said. Then you say OK I know you know what I am saying so go do it (If it is a command) If he still ignores you he is being rebellious. You need to follow up with an appropriate punishment immediately. If he does listen reward him by saying great job and if he does command say that is great thanks for obeying you did a good job. If it is an explanation say wow you got that right you are a smart kid and and I am proud of you. Positively reinforce good behavior and don't give attention to negative behavior. Punishment is swift and responsive. No pomp and circumstance on your part for bad behaviour like yelling or a fit , you or him, becuase that is attention you are giving them and they precieve this as a reward believe it or not. They should have to obey the first time every time! Barring externals like they could not hear you because the ac was on or something like that ( you must be the judge) they should respond the first time. Also as a parent you need to be constantly vigilant and observe what is going on. Don't tell your five year old to do something when the last five minutes of their TV show is on or if they are already doing something you told them to they get confused. Be aware of what is going on. Remember what is important to you is different to him be aware and be reasonable when making requests. Your five year old cannot make Pasta Puscanetta lol.
2006-06-05 19:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im not totally sure.. if u find out tell me cuz i have the same problem with my little brother he nvr listens...i usually put him in time out if he doesnt or ill talk like im a bit angry with him but not like yellin bcuz my brother will usally bust out in tears cuz hes scared and yeah so....and really it all depends on the kid
2006-06-11 11:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bre R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a gallon of his favorit Ice cream and start spoon feed him while talking to him.
2006-06-05 19:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kamran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reward system, Praise for doing something good, and discipline if nothing else works!
2006-06-05 19:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away privileges. Make sure there are consequences for every action that you don't approve of.
2006-06-10 19:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bribery, rewards and a stern, but calm voice
2006-06-05 19:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be on his level i agree, and have a stern voice with them i have found it easier
2006-06-05 19:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
put them in the coner
2006-06-05 19:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on there level:)Good luck:)
2006-06-05 19:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋