2006-06-05 12:15:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
My friend seemed to be happy...he was always joking around...always laughing... he was the life of the party always... he had almost everything goin for him...he had sooo many friends and family that loved him and cared about him...just help me understand y
2006-06-05 12:20:22 · update #1
Some people are good at hiding the way they really feel. A lot of depressed people pretend they're doing fine and even try to appear happy. A suicidal person is very seriously ill and can't handle the pain and misery that comes with depression. They are desperately looking for a way to end it all and only see one way out, suicide.
Sometimes it comes as a huge surprise and shock, because some people simply hide the way they really feel, they hide their depression and don't want to talk about it. They're seriously ill but may manage to hide that from others.
People can be depressed despite having a great, loving family and having everything going for them in their daily life. Depression is caused by chemicals in the brain being out of proportion. Usually there is something that triggers it, something that gets the chemicals out of balance, for example sorrow or some bad events. Once the chemicals hijack the brain it doesn't really matter how great your family is or how bright your future is, depression is an illness that can lead to suicide if it's not treated.
It sounds like your friend managed to hide his depression well, so I don't think there is anything you or his family could've done to help him, you obviously didn't suspect anything was wrong. I'm sorry about your loss.
2006-06-06 02:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People may be happy on the outside and show that happiness to people but may be extremely depressed on the inside. This type of behavior is not very healthy psychologically because having everything bottled up inside can eventually lead to complete unhappiness and a want to commit suicide. The best way to help yourself when you are depressed or feeling sad is to talk to someone so you can start to feel better about and if neccesary get yourself professional help. Its not your fault that this happened, nor is it his fault, he just had a hard time telling people his feelings.
2006-06-05 14:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by zack86_16646 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well might i answer from the perspective of yoru friend. I have been suicidal and depressed for the better part of nine years. Never took any drugs for it. Always preteded to be happy because i had a great life. But sometimes it is a problem with the person
2006-06-05 12:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by marishka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know? Are u having thoughts of it? If u are don't do it,even if u re the least suspected person to do it, just think of all the people that will miss u and cry about the accident, that's what i do. And i don't know why the least suspected person does it i guess because of what's going on behind close doors. And don't blame yourself for having thoughts to tell u the truth i have thoughts also. And if your ever close to actually doing it just e-mail me at anna_antoinette_griff@yahoo.com. My name is Antoinette but some people call me Anna!
2006-06-05 12:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because deep down they aren't happy. They get so used to putting on a brave face ,it becomes their normal behaviour, they hide how they are really feeling from everyone, even the people closest to them. A man my sister worked with hung himself eveyone was shocked, even his wife and his best friend. The only thing they knew was he was having relationship problems with his son, but they didn't know it was affecting him that badly. They often keep their feelings bottled up, it all builds up inside.
2006-06-05 13:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they don't want to show it. they are dying inside, but they believe that people won't accept them for who they are, i know because i've been there. i pretend to be happy even though i feel like dying just so that people don't abandon me like they always have when i actually let them in.
2006-06-05 13:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by physco_spomati 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are severely depressed and see suicide as the only way out.Alot of times people get happy before the suicide because they have decided to go ahead and do it.
2006-06-05 12:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know, but i have experienced something similar. i know how bad that hurts. if there's anything i can do for you, please email me - chichuskeychick_89@yahoo.com. God bless you.
2006-06-05 12:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by allyson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋