I'm 30yrs.old, and my son is 8 yrs. old. Should I go ahead and have a baby so he can have a sibiling?

Answer 1

sure, why not.

Answer 2

I think this is a very personal decision that only you can decide. (Sorry if that sounds like a cop out.) I do have two points for you to consider: Not all siblings are friends. I know some people who still don't speak to their siblings because they fought so much in childhood. Also, you only have 12 years left until you have a grown son. You are almost finished! (I'll be 50 before my son reaches 18.) Below follow some thoughts from the experts. Best wishes to you and yours!

“Only children are like any other kids. In fact, in some ways they’re better off. They’re more motivated in school, more likely to continue higher education and more driven to succeed. They also tend to be more healthy,” says Pete Stavinoha, Ph.D., a neuropsychologist on staff at Children’s Medical Center of Dallas. “Only children are no more spoiled than other kids. They don’t need siblings to learn how to get along with others,” Stavinoha says. If you have one child and are thinking of having another, Stavinoha advises: “If you want to enjoy the second child and have time and energy to devote, go ahead. But if you just are worried about your only child lacking siblings, there is no need.”
http://www.yourchildshealth.com/family/onlychild.html

http://www.usaweekend.com/03_issues/030420/030420relationtips.html
http://www.keepkidshealthy.com/parenting_tips/parenting_an_only_child.html?Cat=&Board=UBB43
Edited to say-PS I'm the proud mom of an only child. : )

Answer 3

Sure, if thats actually what you and your husband want. If you do want more children, now is a good time. After 35 your risks are greater in pregnancy. But keep in mind, just because you child has a playmate it won't mean that he will like it. Some siblings fight more than they ever played. He will be in the "i'm too cool for my little brother (or gasp.. sister) stage by the time your youngest gets old enough to play. Not to say that he won't be happy about a sibling or love helping out with baby, just don't expect a built in playmate.

Answer 4

If YOU want another baby, go ahead. If it's about having a sibling, you really should have done it before your son turned 3.

Answer 5

Yes

Answer 6

It is brilliant and I would say essential for a child's upbringing not to deprive him or her of brothers and sisters. Go ahead, give your son a brother or a sister (or both, LOLOL)

Answer 7

You should only have a baby if YOU want another child. Your son will be fine either way.

Answer 8

i certainly hope you would not get p.g. JUST to give your child a sibling. there are so many things to keep in mind, and the first thing should be,WHAT DO YOU WANT? you are the one to raise that "maybe" baby, not any one else. only you can make that choice. good luck!!!

Answer 9

talk with your son about having a sibling first. sometimes when there is a big age difference, kids get used to being the only one or the youngest one... see how he feels about it, if he is your concern. if you want one, then you want one.

Answer 10

Are you ready for another child?. If married is your husband ready too. Don't do it just to have a playmate for your child.

Answer 11

MAYBE SO! JUST IN CASE ANYTHING HAPPENS TO YOU ARE THE FATHER THAT 8YR. OLD CHILD WILL HAVE SOMEONE TO LEAN ON! I'M IN THE SAME BOAT. I HAVE ONLY 1 CHILD AS WELL. 7YRS. OLD! SO WE NEED TO GO FOR IT BEFORE THEY BE SO FAR APART!