I'm pretty sure one of my flatmates knows about my depression etc. He's been in and out of my bedroom and I'm sure he's noticed the tablets sitting on the bedside table and the appointment cards for my psychiatrist etc.
Recently, over the past month or so, he's been "checking up" on me quite a lot, when we're alone he'll ask how I'm doing, if I've had a bad day, things like that. If I look a bit down he'll come and ask if I'm alright or give me a hug.
I don't know how open to be with him though. I used to tell one friend a lot and I think I scared her away a bit, I don't want to do that again. How honest should I be with him when he asks how I am? I usually just say I'm fine, even though I'm not......I just don't want to push him away by telling him too much and making him feel like he has to always look out for me.
2006-06-05 11:50:17 · 10 answers · asked by Jen 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I never discuss my real feelings with anyone in person - now I don't think I am able to do this anymore. I would tell someone exactly how you feel if you are able to because everytime somone asks me if I'm ok I say "not bad, not bad at all" straight away as a mechanical answer when what I reallyshould say is that "I am miserable beyond all reason, my mind is old and tired and I am utterly alone moreso than I ever believed possible" or something to this effect.
If you actually tell him you may be better for it and by listening he may help far more than antidepressant tablets ever could. He sounds like a decent guy and will be more worried by what you are not telling him than by the real situation.
Good luck and have a great future!
2006-06-05 13:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by monkeymanelvis 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You can test the water by telling him a little at first, and see how that goes.
If he seems keen to know more, you can tell him more when you feel so inclined.
This way you control the situation, you decide.
Sometimes people with depression feel that they have no control over events, but you always have.
You decide how much information you want to give, if any.
2006-06-05 12:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by emeraldisle2222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like hes trying to be a friend, nice guy. Dont tell him more than you want him to know, just answer his questions but if you want to share more then off you go. Youve def got someone here who cares about you
2006-06-07 02:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. It's the best thing you can do, it sounds like he wants to be a friend, not "looking" after you. Friends are good and I think you will know through your ownself that it is genuine. Good luck!
2006-06-05 12:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by bingolil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's concerned about you and would probably like you to tell him, its no big deal, millions of people suffer from depression including me, Good Luck, Mike
2006-06-05 11:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by mike k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell him how you really feel when he asks? My guess is that he knows something is wrong. He may think he is the problem. He seems to care about you .
2006-06-05 12:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get it said! Just tell and sit back and wait for the reply, it wont be bad, you will see.
Good luck!
Just say it !
2006-06-07 08:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by ?Master 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i had a friend like that. i suffer from severe depression and have no one to turn to. sounds like he really cares about u. just tell him how u feel like u just did to us. good luck!
2006-06-05 13:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by crophilia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds a really nice guy and he cares how you feel, tell him the truth it may help you to have someone to talk to
2006-06-05 11:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Trish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he asks bec he is concerned and if you do decide to confide be strait up and tell him to let you know if he is uncomfortable. it sure is nice to have someone to talk to about something that may be bothering you. i know from experience
2006-06-05 12:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by calgal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋