my ex broke up with me and i still love him but he dont talk to me anymore!!! and he is gone 4 the summer except he comes home on the weekends and my friends got me to go out with his ex best friend and i dont like him...i cry because i want to go back out with my ex!!!!!!!!!! what do i do???
2006-06-05 11:41:50 · 40 answers · asked by Jaycie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he dont know im going out with his ex friend
2006-06-05 12:41:47 · update #1
Isn't it surprising how easily one gets into a 'situation' without really meaning to? It´s time to move on, you'll survive. Stop seeing the 'ex-best friend' and maybe you two will get together again in the future, much wiser for the experience.
2006-06-19 05:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry for your lost...What I mean by that is that your ex will find out about the best friend thing you have going on.
Now as for your dilemma I am not really sure how old you guys are but, I will be honest with you, when a female breaks up with a guy, the last thing you do is get involved with his friends (any of HIS friends) it's call respect, not just to the ex but, for yourself.
It's not right just look at it this way:
How would it affect you if let's say your best girl friend decided to start messing around with your ex-boyfriend?
Most of us would be highly upset with the both of them because you just don't mess around like that, everyone is suppose to have loyalties to those we call friends, if there was no reason for such things why are we not friends with those we call enemies?
I wish I could give you some secret fix all but, there's none all I will do is suggest that you make sure you tell your ex about the situation with the friend and try to explain to him why it happened and tell him how you still feel for him.
I do indeed hope that all will turn out well for you two but, if not just makes sure you do learn from this mistake and don't let it happen again okay?
2006-06-18 10:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it would seem that you've gotten yourself in a bit of a pickle. I would have to say that your first step would be, stop dating your ex's best friend, you obviously don't like him like that and that isn't fair to him for you to be giving false signals. Secondly, if your friends pressure you into dating somebody you aren't interested in then either get new friends or a new backbone. Stand up for yourself, you make your decisions so pull up your socks and do so. Ultimately I think that the chances of you getting back together with your ex are slim to none, especially since you seem to have moved on so quickly. If he comes home every weekend then chances are he already knows you are dating somebody else and is either hurt or relieved but the point remains, you aren't his anymore, you are somebody else's. I know it really hurts and it will for a long time but it's time to start making your mind realize that there is no more relationship. Do things to get your mind off it, keep busy, and cry when you really need to. Perhaps after a few years you guys can be friends again, but only that. My first love broke my heart and it took me almost 2 years to get over it, now Im engaged to the greatest man alive and my ex and I are still friends, granted it always hurts a little to see him, but it gets easier every time. Just know that you aren't alone in heartbreak, almost everybody has to deal with it, but there is a treasure waiting, just make the journey. Good luck Darling, and do what makes you happy.
2006-06-18 12:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by the blue olive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should'nt be going out with your ex's ex best friend. Just being in that scenario, your ex woudn't believe that you still loved him. even if you told him so. If you wanted to have a chance to get back with your ex you'd have to dump the guy that your with. Who knows maybe the guy that your with really love's you. You've created a little mess, with the help of your friends. Next time Think and follow what's right for you.
2006-06-16 19:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by ianthra2010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out with his ex best-friend is definitly not going to get him back! But the worst part is is that your leading his ex best-friend on. I would break- up with the guy your seeing now and then date when your really ready for a new relationship.
2006-06-17 09:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by gracefulfall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up, and stop letting people decide your life for you. #1, why would you go out w/someone your still in love with ex friend, and #2, why do u think he would be interested in someone who is so eager to be with someone that she would just let other people set her up with the first thing that came along.......Work on maturing, and maybe just maybe you'll have a chance at true happiness....If you didn't think what you are doing is wrong, why would you keep the fact that you're dating his ex best friend from him???...
2006-06-18 14:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you still love boy ex like you say you do. you wouldnt be going out with anyone. esp. his ex best friend. first off you need to break it off with the ex best friend. thats a slap in the face to YOUR EX . guys dont like that kind of thing and thats the best way to run him off for good. then you should get up enough nerve to tell him you still love him and that you want to be with him. dont lie about being with his ex friend cause he will find out soon enough. if he still dont want anything to do with you after you poured your heart out to him. then you tried. chalk it up to a life lesson learned. and move on. there are more fish in the sea.. good luck to ya
2006-06-19 08:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by tx_lady_806 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going out with his ex-best friend and take the time to figure out what you want to do next. Hang out with your friends and spend some time on your own to get over the one who broke your heart. You won't be ready to find the next "Mr. Right" until you take some time for yourself first. Good luck!
2006-06-18 03:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can answer this question from expierience. My ex cheated on me with one of my best friends and to this day I still dont talk to the person she cheated with. Its more that u wonder why the friend did it in the end because you would think that one of ur best friends wouldnt do that to you.
2006-06-18 17:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by kgsm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all get rid of the ex friend and then talk to your ex and let him know how u feal u should get some reaction from that if he still cares maybe u will get him back but if he is like most men he may not sorry
2006-06-19 10:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by babyangel_1705 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋