went on vacation for 8 days, everything was fine, came back been calling no phone call, talk to him while i was on vacation and he said that he was very busy he works sometimes 36 hours in a day should i be patient thinking about relocating to where he is, he hasn't told me that he doesn't want to be with me. what do i do?
2006-06-05 11:08:49 · 13 answers · asked by sandra_smith757 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey there..
I think you have a yawning communication gap.
He has his life, you know. My Girl friend wants to talk to me every waking hour, and it came to such a point that I was ready to break up. We were fighting every single call. We simply didnt have anything new to say. But now that she works, she is as busy as I was. And she does nt mind even if I dont call her in a day!!
So here's what I was trying to say, He really might be busy, and you may not be as busy as he is, Hence you dont understand. You might crave to talk to him, but trust me, as a person whos done that and been there, let me tell you that, just because he does not talk to you, that does not mean he loves you any less. He might be so tied up with his work and with the little time, that he gets in between, he is going to weigh his options: Whether to call you and risk hearing your rebukes and answer your questions on why he didnt call you. Or whether he should just relax and call you later (or never).
You do the math.
The key here is empathy. Stand in his shoe. Dont crucify him if he does not call you. Understand that he is busy and when he is not busy and is relaxed enough he will call you. (Remember, been a drill Sergent is NO easy walk in the park)
Relocate, if that is an option for you. That way, you can understand the stress and the way that he lives his days.
Love him is what I would suggest. No matter how often he calls or does not call.
Cheers!!
2006-06-05 11:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not relocate until you talk to him. Stop calling him he may be really busy. Not all men are liars they especially a drill sargent come on now you know that is a lot of work and time.He will call you when he has free time if it is over 2 weeks then give him a call and no answer then let him be.But I bet he will call, what guy will talk to his girl while she is on vacation?
2006-06-05 11:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by Amry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing there is only 24 hours in a day, and he's working 36. Some lies are being spun here.
Time to give up, and find some guy, who isn't as busy, and spend some of his day with you.
How hard is it, to make two minute or longer call. Surely no one is that busy. There has to be a break for lunch or dinner.
2006-06-05 11:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With out knowing more of the situation i cant say for sure but from experience as someone who went through basic training and was in the service no one is busier then a drill Sargent they are on duty 24-7 from wakening recruits at 3am for fireguard duty to getting them ready for more punishment.
2006-06-05 11:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by thebubbleking2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready to take on the responsibilities that go with dating a military man. He is very sincere when he tells you about those long shifts, and he will have several days like this. In reality, he could be gone for several months at some point, without the chance to call. If you can't handle what you are seeing now, you are not going to do well with a long term session. Although I believe that you feel that you want to be with him, please do yourself, and him a favor. Think about this and how you are dealing with it now, and what it would be like if you couldn't speak at all for a month or two.
2006-06-05 11:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what planet are you from that has 36 hour days....lol. Anyway, drill seargents are busy all day. 'Specially if they're working with recruits in basic training. I'd write a letter and in it just simply ask him to call when he has time. If he doesn't call. Well, you got your answer. BUt remeber. If he is in basic, he's up early every morning and has to go to bed early as well.
2006-06-05 11:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
36 hours in a day???? does this song wrong to anyone????
there is only 24 hours in a day/ guy like to work because of some unknown reason, but they should find time to commciate with their girlfrriend. and if they can, you need to consider what you want. i mean if if you relocate, would he still have time to spend with you over there or is he still going to work 36 hours a day????
think how much you are willing to give up for him and how much you can get in return. i mean you want to spent time with him of course, but once you relocate, the only time you can see him is in bed, where he is sleeping next to you and doing nothing. i mean nothing. if that is want you want or not want. you have to decide and think for yourself.
2006-06-05 11:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do?
Wait and see what he does. If he just never calls you again, then you know it's over.
If he calls in a couple days, you know he's told you the truth about being busy.
Patience. .. It's a hard thing to learn but you can do it.
2006-06-05 11:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DO NOT care how busy someone says they are. The truth to this is.... If you or anyone in general is "digging" (CRAZY) about another person, you/they will DO ANYTHING to speak/be with them. In other words: You will MAKE time, swim to the ends-of-the-world, sacrifice your most prized possession just for them no matter what.
2006-06-05 11:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out who the sargent has been drilling
2006-06-05 11:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋