To start with HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! There was no sitter for my daughter so I stayed home with her for New Year's Eve. My husband wanted to go out and we made an agreement that he would spend New Year's at home with us then sometime after midnight he could go out with his friends. He told me he was going to make a trip to the store and come back. He was gone for 2 1/2 hours and showed back up at 10:30pm. I asked him where he had been, he told me he was at the bar with his friends came back to be with me and my daughter until midnight then was going back. Needless to say I was very upset and my feelings hurt because instead of being at home with us and waiting until after midnight to go out like we had agreed he was already out celebrating with his friends showed back up for a couple of hours then went back out. We ended up in an arguement and he is mad at me for ruining his evening and getting upset over nothing. He said, "I came back before midnight didn't I?" Was I wrong for being angry?
2007-12-31 18:17:34 · 13 answers · asked by monkey on my back 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I need to add that before his "trip" to the store he had already been gone visiting other friends for most of the day.
2007-12-31 18:18:18 · update #1
I would have been upset, too, and don't blame you one damn bit. Honey, most men are thoughtless slugs most of the time; it's just their DNA workup.
If you want consideration, honesty, and romance, get yourself a good woman! If you still want him, give him a dose of the same treatment. But, being a man, this would probably be wasted on him anyway.
Life is too short for silly arguments over things like this.
Love him for who he is and accept that some things in life you cannot change and him being a man is one of them. Without yelling and after he is sober, tell him as sincerely as you possibly can that he deeply hurt your feelings and ask for an apology.
Men create peer pressure among themselves and, if your guy is a 'macho' guy, he might have stood up and said, Well, time for me to go home and you know his friends would have said, "you're p*ssy whipped man if you leave". You know they would have! Just accept that there are some things you will never be able to change. And love him for who he is.
2007-12-31 18:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Peaches Always 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These friends, are they guy friends? My husband just did the same thing with me, but it wasn't just New years Eve, it was also our ninth Anniversary! Mine was a double whammy! He also came back before midnight and i did know where he was at and with whom. I am going to forgive him because i do not want to start 2008 off on the wrong foot. Also he bought me a teddy bear and a dozen roses for our Anniversary! Sometimes you just have to forgive and forget. Good Luck. Happy New Year 2008!
2007-12-31 19:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he totally ignored what you wanted to do
2007-12-31 18:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish you all the best in 2008. You say that you stayed home with 'your' daughter. When you dated and married, was he willing to accept her as his daughter? Does he harbour resentment against you for expecting him to act as her father? Is this his way of punishing you? If she is also his daughter, both of you will need to work on the issue of equal partnership in parenting. He needs to accept the responsibility of raising her with you.
2007-12-31 18:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by beenthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him bother you. Your the one who is right. I think hes a big baby! Whats more important to spend the New Year with my family or with my stupid friends. He needs to be reminded of that. Don't feel like your shut out you should have told him that you also want to hang with your friends. Let him sit with your daughter. Shes not your alone.
2007-12-31 18:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by Noel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset and to be angry. He is a married man with a child. His first responsibility is to his family. It was selfish of him not to consider how his actions would make you feel. He is not a single man. His priority should not be hanging in the bar w/his friends, it should be his wife and daughters happiness and well-being! Why was it so important to him to leave u home while he was at the bar knowing u had no way of showing up?
2007-12-31 18:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by merdle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a lady here, but it sounds like you have a cheater on your hands. Moreover, it sounds like he has 'friends' who would cover his back if asked. Sorry to say it, but I once got that phone call from a friend's wife asking about his whereabouts and I knew d*mned well he was with an old flame but just played dumb. FWIW, he was ultimately busted anyway. Maybe you need to press the issue and do some investigating, and yes, cell phone records are fair game. Start with phone calls made on the evening of 12/31/07 and go from there.
2007-12-31 18:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a jerk make him spent new years on the couch
2007-12-31 18:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by amt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be angry too. its all too simple and easy for some men. my partner pulls crap like that all the time and if i did that then I'd be the worst person in the world. I'm with you sista. bloody men.
2007-12-31 18:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by pussycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope.. your right..
2007-12-31 18:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋