Where do you draw the line...?

Question

When helping other people?

Answer 1

I have been burned so many times when helping people, that except for a select few people, I don't help anyone. I hate that. I am a helpful and giving person, but I can only take so much.

The last person I helped, used to be my best friend. She said that she had to leave her husband, due to abuse. I let her move in with me, asking nothing of her in return. She left her husband with nothing but her cat. I went and bought her a new wardrobe, fed her, helped her with her bills, paid for her divorce, and two weeks after the paper work was finalized, she went back to her husband. I have only received a handful of text messages from her, the last one asking if she could move back in, as his drinking and abuse had gotten worse than it ever was. I changed my number that same day.

It makes me feel bad, but enough is enough.

Answer 2

This is a great question. Astrological compatibility is a touchy subject for me. Just because astrology might indicate that two people would be perfect for each other doesn't mean they will stay together or even have a good relationship. Since the position of the Sun, Moon, planets, etc. are only influences on the personality and since upbringing, free will, and environment are the other factors in determining who you are then any compatibility reading is open to have anything happen. That is why I always say no astrological match is impossible, just because it indicates that a couple is incompatible doesn't mean they couldn't be happily married until the day they die. So I generally stay away from those questions unless they are specific about what they want to know and unless they have enough info. If all they know are Sun signs I find it quite useless because Sun signs mean very little in relationships as a whole. I stick to just talking about how their Moon, Venus, and Mercury signs work with each other and focus on trying to show them where they may be alike and different in those areas. I don't do synastry or Davison charts or any of the others. That is not my specialty and I think this area is where people tend to rely too heavily on astrology as the be all end all and astrology should never be thought if in that way. Skeptics love to get into this area in a way to "disprove" astrology and bad questions add fuel to the fire cause they get answers sometimes that are not relevant and give those haters something to use, IMO.

Answer 3

help them with the understanding that its a one time deal, weather it can be paid back or not.....just one of many ways to draw the line.

Answer 4

I "draw the line" when it comes to compromising myself, my morals and my beliefs.

Answer 5

I don't make ultimate decisions for them. Most of the time we may have to go through a process before we arrive at the right personal moves. I will give an opinion, if asked, but even if I know what would be best for that individual, I won't tell them what to do.

Answer 6

Never I give as our Lord if it kills me I Will die happy and in His Name! Giving money is not helping. Helping is loving by doing good, giving to the homeless shelters working there and helping to feed them, going to visit the elderly, donating time at the animal shelter and checking on your neighbors and getting then food and cooking them a meal when they are sick. My love knows no bounds, I see good in all people. Some are just more desperate.

Answer 7

Case by case basis. Depends on many factors...

How I was treated by the person needing the help in the past is a major factor.

Have they helped me or were they willing to help me?

What is their intent?

Answer 8

If helping others puts my children out, in any way......there's my line.

Answer 9

when i'd break a nail

Answer 10

I also don't loan money unless I really know that the person will pay me back. I will not do anything that'll jeopardize what I have such as my job, family, love....