I want to end my friendship, but I don't know if I can.?

Question

I moved here about 3 years ago and the friend I've had the longest, my "best" friend, the only one I still have...I don't want to be her friend anymore. She doesn't need me, she has other people now, and a "boyfriend."

She hasn't done anything really wrong to make me feel this way, we've just been growing apart at rapid speeds..I can't help but want the worst for her, but at the same time I don't because I love her.. we used to (and still might) have so much in common, but our personalities clash like hell. Externally when we're together, we look like great friends..we talk in unison, have the same sense of humor (though it's changed now) and just seem to...work...

I feel guilty..
I guess one of the reasons I still want to be her friend is because I don't have any other friends, to be quite honest, nobody likes me...

but she sickens me sometimes, she doesn't deserve what I do..even though she does...matter of opinion, really...

I can't deal with her.
what should I do? Please help..

Answer 1

I've had one of those......you feel like that you have to move along..... I'd just go up to her and say something like " I think it'll be best when we're apart, for the best of us.... I mean, you have a boyfriend and other people."
Say something pretty straight forward. And for your reasoning that she's your only friend, then go up to other people and just say a friendly " hi!" and like ask things. Do surveys, to see which people have many things in common. It helps to greet people, so don't be shy. I'm a boy, so I do that a lot. Yet, no one rejects me or anything rude.. We just start talking about things like baseball or video games.. I don't know what girls think like, because most girls I've met are a little on the shy side. Really, just go straight forward, don't hesitate, and also, don't say anything in a rude or like bossy way. If you say like "I don't need you anyway, so go take a hike" or anything like that because that'll make her upset or angry. Then that would mean that you wouldn't be able to even get her to look at you. I've had a close friend because I said that we should still be friends, but not as close as some other people. Then he agreed that we wouldn't be too close of friends, but we still talk on the phone or talk to each other at school. Don't completely eliminate her, because you might never be able to talk to her again, get what I mean? Just say it in a soothing calm voice. Also, don't say something like " I don't think I should be your friend any more because blah blah blah...."
Say something like what I said. It's just my opinion... It's your personality, your life, not mine. Do what you want to do freely because it's not like there's anyone to stop you. I just know this by experience because I've run into messy hard-to-get-off tangles of friendship. I hope I helped!

Answer 2

You can either ended your relationship by staying away from her or just remain as "colleague" instead of "friendship". Are both of you working at the same dept/company? If so, you may ask for transfer to another dept or quit from the company. Get a new job first before you quit. It may be easier for you to forget & part from her. If she don't treasure the relationship, then she doesn't deserve to be your friend anymore. Try to know more friends from networking if you don't feel comfortable meeting in person. You can join this website:
http://www.friendster.com
http://www.facebook.com
Don't give up Sabrina. Nobody will like you, unless you like yourself first. :)
I would like to be your friend also. Is it alright?
M H

Answer 3

omg, i'm having the exact same problem w/ 1 of my best friends, cuz he doesn't seem 2 need me nemore. we get along pretty well and have fun 2gether, but we're different and i feel left out wen he blows me off 4 other friends. also, we had a lot of probs last yr, and i just miss him! i think th@ if u value ur friendship, u shud let ur friend no how ure feeling quick!! if things work out gr8, but if they don't, she wuz never really worth it and just no u tried ur hardest and make new friends.

maybe i shud do th@ w/ my friend, 2....o, and good luck!! xxxx

Answer 4

i had a friend like this we fought all the time but when it was just me and her we were best friends but when some one else was there she changed n when i needed her she wasnt there ,, i think u need 2 tell her wats happeneing and that u dnt want this 2 happen good luck x

Answer 5

Don't go to her face and go "I DON'T WANT TO BE YOUR FRIEND ANYMORE" Show signs. You will find better friends. Try talking to other people. Start a little joke or say an agreeable statement. If there is a certain reason people hate you, try hard to fix the solution. This might not be the best information but I tried.

Bye!

Answer 6

i think you should talk to her about how you are feeling!
if she really is [or was] your best friend, she knows you well enough to understand & maybe she feels the same way.

i really dont mean this in a rude way [as i feel this way myself sometimes] but is it possible that you're jealous? think about its possibility.

if nothing else works, just distance yourself from her slowly. dont hang out as much, dont call as much, etc...
this way, it wont be as painful as flat out saying, "i dont want to be your friend anymore." you know?

good luck! & HAPPY NEW YEAR! =] i hope this year brings you much happiness along with new, good friends :] !

Answer 7

end it quick