Okay, I grew up in Al and moved to KY earlier this year. I met and married the man of my dreams while I was there. Shortly after we were married we came back to AL for a couple weeks visit. Then I agreed to stay for a month and that was five months ago. Now my mother and little sister (the only reason I stayed) is moving to KY. I really want to go but my husband wants to stay here in AL. How can I make myself want to stay in AL when I hate it? I know I should be happy here where my husband has decided for us to live. But after this weekend my mother, little sister and my older sister who is the people I am closest to will all be in KY which is where I have always wanted to live. How cant I accept that I need to be in AL?
2007-12-31 15:02:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should have told your husband that you are a "packaged" deal. That your marriage consists of not just marrying you but your Mom, and sisters to, and whever they go, you both will follow. I understand that your family is important to you, but did you not think about what marriage is before getting married. Marriage is about starting a new family. Maybe there is a chance of your husband having a career similar to the one he has there, or maybe you will be sacrificing his happiness for your own. I have a hunch you still would feel like something is missing even if you move to where your family is.
2007-12-31 15:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you married the man of your dreams, and you have to be with him if you are to have a marriage. Your parents and family can visit you and you them, but you can live anywhere if you love the one your with.
Have you two talked about it and set up a home or are you still in a apt. maybe it will change, but talking is good nagging is not.
2007-12-31 23:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by John M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Al and ky, are not that differnt! You should just be happy you have a good husband and that yall are together!
Im in the Army and thanks to a assignment to korea followed by a 15 month deployment to Iraq, I have been away from my wife and little boy for 2 1/2 years in a row!! So when you think you have it bad....just rember, some one else has it a lot worst!! Best of luck, Happy New Year
2007-12-31 23:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by GaBoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move to Kentucky if you like it better than your married life.
that ought to solve the problem.
2007-12-31 23:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have been married nine years and when I first got married I told my husband anywhere would be fine to live so we moved to his home town .And all his family is here I wish I had moved somewhere in between where both of us could be close to our families .I love my husband dearly but I have to be honest I do wish I had moved closer to my own family.
2007-12-31 23:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by chorlettemo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband to give a chance to KY maybe he will think and he might want to move back or for AL just find a way to make it real comfortable that you will like it to be
2007-12-31 23:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is morally up to you. If you want to live close to your mother and relatives,good. If you want to live with your husband,good. basically you need to make this decsion.
2007-12-31 23:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by ninjaian99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Home is where the heart is. Your heart unfortunately is with your husband thus in AL. It may not be the best choice you make but may be it's for the better. 2008 is upon us...Relax tonight and see where you go from after 2007 is over.
2007-12-31 23:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by djdraino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. Maybe he doesn't understand that you need/want to be close to your family
2007-12-31 23:05:53 · answer #9 · answered by Brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋