So my ex husband and my babys father keeps telling me that he wants to be with me. We have had trust issues in the past (he slept with girls why we were separated and who knows what else while we were together) Well he created him a myspace account and his talking to random girls he doesnt even know. I do not think it is ok(it would be ok if he actually knew them and they were just friends!). Am I overreacting? He keeps telling me that he wants to be in our lives and be a better man. Well for New Years he is going out and partying. I am not, I have to take care of our son. Do you think it is wrong for me to get upset that he is going out and partying instead of staying at home wishing that he could be with us (He could even be with us if he wanted). Am I overreacting?
2007-12-31 14:31:43 · 15 answers · asked by Courtney A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no you are not over reacting, if he really wanted to be with you he would not be going out, and if he was trust able he would not be chasing other women, he is not to be trusted under any circumstances, forget about him and move on with your life, it is a new year, move on and find some one who can be trusted, and will want to be with only you, Happy New Year and God Bless
2007-12-31 14:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by George 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be ultra mad. He'd rather party than be with you on New Year's Eve? That's exactly what he's saying here. I'd move on to the next chapter in my life.
Actually, I wouldn't want him to celebrate the new year with me!! He's already shown his true colors by sleeping with other girls. I don't care if you were separated, eww.... think of the crap he could pass on to you in the way of diseases!
No, I don't think you are overracting. I think you are an intelligent woman sorting out the facts!
2008-01-01 00:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by butterflylover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are overreacting. He's your EX-HUSBAND not your HUSBAND, of course he wants to hook up with you, and a million other chicks. Why even give a crap about who he hooks up with or what he's doing? He doesnt seem to want to continue his relationship with you, or else he would have changed as soon as he lost you. Also, he doesnt have to stay home with you for new years, cause your not w/him anymore. My advice to you is focus on your life not on his, and tell him the only thing you two need to discuss is your son, not your private lives, that way you wont know what he is doing on his personal time, and what your doing on yours.
2007-12-31 23:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by seximami 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um...NO!
2007-12-31 23:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by rugbyplayerseattheirdead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not overreacting and i would not get back with him hes hurt you obviously alot and do you want to put yourself in getting hurt again?yeah you should cause if he really wanted to be with you he would have been with you guys instead of going out but hes chosing to go out.
2007-12-31 23:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Amy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overreacting????? He's your ex-husband for a reason you two couldn't get along in the past what makes you think things can work out now. Apparently he hasn't changed if he's going out on New Years to be with others instead of you and your son. Move on, dump the loser and live a happy life with your son.
2007-12-31 23:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by oorah_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe that you are over reacting.
I would not give him the chance that he wants. I think if he really wanted it, he would be there with you. Honestly, he may have an issue with being "alone", and he wants you there in case something else doesn't work out.
Do not keep him from his son, but you should not be with him.
You DO deserve better than what he has to offer you, and what he is giving to you.
Good luck, and happy new year!
2007-12-31 22:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sapphire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your EX he is an ex for a reason..
Letting him back into your life as a partner again would be a set up for another big let down... i think it's time to grieve your losses, set some goals for yourself, and readjust to life. After a time, maybe you can start dating again.. but you really need to 'get over' this relationship first.
If the guy cheats, has a myspace (which means he is looking for women), and goes out partying leaving you behind, WHY would you want him around at all?
Hon, gather your dignity, put your chin UP and dump him.
However, there is nothing wrong with him visiting is child, so i guess those arrangements will have to be made... if he's a good father, let him be. He sure wasn't a good partner.
2007-12-31 22:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are stringing him along thne yes I think that you are over reacting.....
2007-12-31 22:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would sit him down--when you and he have plenty of time to clearly state what needs to be stated--in person. I don't like this guy---because cheaters are immature, lying, disrespectful, assh--es that do not deserve a second chance to just do it all again. I would tell that man that he is not wanted in your life, you have no desire to ever hear from him again--and you expect him to pay for the child--on time and in full--every month. He risks exposing you to AIDS--or any fatal disease he may have picked up--so there is no need to ever have contact with you again. Ask him if there are any words he did not understand......remember--not all men are cheaters--so why waste YOUR time with him. You should never accept second best----you should always have top shelf treatment--he will never have your trust--you will live with your stomach in knots---you will never forget. Why should you live like this??? Stand tall---demand his attention---demand that he leaves you and never talks to you about coming back. The subject is closed. If you don't do it--then you will always be sick and sad and weak. It has nothing to do with New Years EVE parties--it is all about your life and your future.
2007-12-31 22:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋