My daughter will be 17 years old at midnight. She just called me at work and said that her best friend whos birthday is on the 4th is saying negative things. First, we planned this party late because she really wanted to go to a teen club and prefered she have a little party with friends at home. So she started planning and went to the store got things she needs, order pizzas. Her friend wanted to have her party with my daughter and said she would help get things. She now is telling my daughter her parents is having her a party this weekend and that she didn't want to help with her party. She is saying things like we should have went to club and just being really negative. I told my daughter to put her foot down and don't let her spoil her night. What else do you think I should tell her to help get out of that mode of agravations?
2007-12-31 14:00:45 · 2 answers · asked by springful 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thanks, it seems i am always in a funk with her.
2007-12-31 15:00:55 · update #1
Oh, honey, your daughter is caught up in the "teenager's funk" and you're getting caught up in it, too. What ever it takes, get her and yourself out of it. I know she's your baby and you want to give her a good party, but the folks she's hanging with are too shallow. Rein it in now while you can. Hopefully, you still can. Don't stay in this drudge you're in. She needs to get out of this, and it's your job to get her out of it. Get her out, do something fun and personal, and talk to her seriously about what means something...and what doesn't. Be butt honest with her. Let her know what you're feeling. Listen to her. Enable your daughter to deal with negative darts being thrown her way. Do that with a vengeance....she needs it. Let her know that she's good, regardless of what anyone has said or done. Do any and everything you can to keep her healthy.
2007-12-31 14:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by rb29440 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sure looks as though the friend offered to help, but then "other plans" came up that she prefers better - or that her parents are pressing her to help with - and so now the friend wants to back out. It's too bad, because the friend really isn't being very reliable. But, one good thing to tell you daughter is that "should" doesn't get anyone anywhere. Tell the friend to stop "should'ing" all over her (say it out loud to see what this sounds like, LOL), and to follow the commitments that she made first, because that is what TRUE FRIENDS do!!
2007-12-31 22:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋