I have read somewhere that our confidence is deeply hidden in our unconsciousness. So, if a person wishes to improve self-confidence how are they going to reach the unconsciousness?
I have heard it is important to repeat things over and over again like 'I can do it.' Is that the best way?
How do you work on your confidence?
2007-12-31 12:47:48 · 18 answers · asked by Jovan J 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
by saying 'I can do it' i mean it, but it is just an example...any other ideas
and one more thing, I am confident, however sometimes some things can back me down (people that say bad things to me)
2007-12-31 12:59:03 · update #1
Well my first thought is about the unconscious. I don't think psychology uses words like that anymore because it's such a nebulous thing, what the hell is an unconscious? And where the hell is deep in it? There are many ways to improve your self-confidence. And many of them are simple. But it takes having the ability to repeat the things you need to repeat over and over again. " I can do it" statements are what's called affirmations. These are really techniques and work. So is what is called re framing. An example of re framing happens when you think something like, "I'll never get this right". So you must catch yourself when you think something negative like this and re frame it, i.e. "I haven't gotten this right so far, but I have no proof I can't get it right." "I'll never have a girlfriend" is changed to something like "I have had girlfriends before, I don't presently have one, but it's very likely I'll have another again in the future." This is about using logic also, thinking with logic rather than thinking with your negativity. So, you monitor your self talk, listen to what you say to yourself and when you hear a negative thing, re frame it. You do it every time, are almost every time and you can notice your self-confidence getting better. Again the trouble is most people want change but they want it to just happen magically without putting any time or energy into it. So, there it is.
2007-12-31 13:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by krowtap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With so many responses,I am sure you would know what to do and how to go about it.However,I would like to only add that any method one uses,it should be using realistic targets and be in a graded form(from lesser to more a
and more).Don't bother about unconsciousness and let it sleep.
2008-01-01 01:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open a new window!! Open a new door!! Try new things..like try out for a play or help with the stage crew, take a new class about something you are interested in, join a club with an interest you have, take dance classes and so on!!!
Develop skills! Becoming skilled at things increases your confidence. Take a speech class, drama, music or art class. Practice makes perfect. Perfect makes you feel good about yourself!
Learn to dream of what lies ahead with your hopes and dreams. Tell yourself that your feel so much better about yourself each day.
Most importantly develop a prayer life. Talk to God. Ask Him to help you excell, to guide you and learn of God's ways and will for your life. The next thing you know you will be right where you want to be. Praise God!
2007-12-31 21:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By having a close relationship with God. If He loves me enough to get me saved and to provide all my needs and loves me just the way I am of course I can be confident.
2007-12-31 20:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u want to work on your confident then heres what u need to do :
work on yourself ! Physically , moraly and emotionaly
Physically : go to the gym , train hard , get into kung fu and bodybuilding
moraly : study hard , learn about new thing , red books surf the internet like en,wikipedia.org and lean about new styff
emotionaly : get a girlfriend , go to parties with friend , even if u don't have friends invite people that u like to go to a party with u then u will become friends
2007-12-31 20:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I believe in self confidence starts with trust and believing yourself. Yes it may in our unconsciousness, but where can we reach to this deep point is when our confidence is put to the test. Confidence is not physical but deeply mental, it affects nearly everything in our actions and words.
Some people prefer to repeat positive things to themselves as long as they know and believe its going to help them.
I work on my confidence by starting mentally, what I should avoid what is a threat to my mental health and so forth. I make my strongest points about me stronger to withstand anyone willing to break what I have built and I focus and work on my weaknesses to form myself together into a well being. I try not to doubt myself even if at times I don't notice I am, and am determined and I refuse to give up to anything. This is how I deal and make my self confidence.
Self confidence also takes experience with life and being aware of whats around you.
2007-12-31 20:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by Nani Banani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that I cannot answer your question, and reading this probably feels like an inconvenience to you.
But I've heard that repeating 'I can do it.' helps =] And also, whenever that 'voice inside your head' starts saying something negative, correct it and say something positive.
I have low confidence. I set extremely high standards for myself... impossibly high standards to reach. But that's just who I am, and it keeps me pushing myself. It depresses me a lot though... I beat myself up for not reaching my standards and become depressed.
Also, it may sound weird, but Yahoo! Answers has helped me a lot with my confidence. There are millions of nice people on here... some not so nice people xD But you learn to ignore them...
Maybe ask a question about whatever you feel unconfident about... if it's your looks, then you can post a picture... if it's your singing, post a video... There are many people who will give their honest opinion, and if they're mean, you won't be embarrassed and can merely dimiss their nasty gestures. Because remember, nasty people find it a lot easier to be mean, because they're talking to a computer screen. But that's just because they're even more unconfident that you. They're low self esteemed people who take it out on others.
Anyway, Good Luck!
(And Happy New Years =])
2007-12-31 20:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by *DAMAGED --x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you're kinda right. BUT YOU NEED TO START REALLY MEAN THAT. take something you really like about yourself and draw your confidence out of that. and also let everybody see how good are you in that and how good can you be in other things too when u decide to be.
2007-12-31 20:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by anitomic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do some things that will make you proud of yourself, accomplish some things and continue until you feel the confidence you desire.
2007-12-31 20:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by shajones41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell yourself to be confident in a situation and don't back down to yourself. That's the only thing you're really fighting with to be confident.
2007-12-31 20:52:21 · answer #10 · answered by fwerds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋