Please help! low self esteem....?

Question

im 14 and i've had low self esteem ever since i could remember. I never feel pretty (at all) or smart enough. I dont know what to do anymore. I guess its because my dad yells at me constantly even for the smallest things and that really brings me down. My mom was never the type to say "i love you" (my whole family as a matter of fact) i mean i know they love me but...they would never say anything like that. Im constantly stressed out because of homework and school. im in advanced classes. (even though im horrible at math). My parents always need me to translate something or go somewhere with them to translate. They expect me to always get 100's in school and i try my best but i just dont seem to be good enough. i always feel like crying if i get a bad grade (mostly in math) and feel like im a failure. I never feel confident enough to talk to new people and always worry about what people think of me. i just feel their thinking about how ugly i am or something.

Answer 1

I have the same problem...it was a lot worst in HS! I got picked on a lot in school from 1st to 7th grade...it still effects me today, but I know that it is a problem. And I just try to work through it. For me it is my looks; I at times worry that people around me are think that I am ugly. Just try this...sounds stupid, but very time you are feeling down , reassure yourself. In fact get a little cocky......just don't over do it....tell yourself "I am a great person! No matter what people think or say". That is what I do...and it works.
Good luck.

Answer 2

I even have truly low shallowness, however the sole individual i'm abusive to is myself. I make myself a doormat for individuals. So i think somebody could nicely be abusive in the direction of themselves. i'm an exceedingly passive individual. many times conversing nonetheless, I trust what you stated a hundred%

Answer 3

There's just no use, is there? Unless you are lying a lot. Self Pity is so noble in the young. When you grow up you will practice something more adult, like Vanity.
As examples, use the people you admire. They are the vainest people on the planet, and have not yet been wiped from their own excrement.

Answer 4

thats the exactley like me when I was 14. I flunked english. I was born an amarican. acturally part native american indian. I was here before they were. I didn't care I flunked french too. I flunked typeing twice. I flunked science too. Then on time I got a really good teach in 6th grade he did some talking to my next 2 years teachsers it all clicked in just fine. I majorred in math. shop. was the first on in my whole family all the way back to indians in the coal feilds to ever go to college. in what archictetual engeneering. if that doesn't takd some math nothing does. now i'm a took grinder I can figure real life math around any one.
you have to find you. YOU. what is you What are you good at. What do you care about. Your young you don't know yet. maybe. Let your self let the pressure off. I admit I messed up. I wanted to be a mechanical engeneere. I didn't get to do that. because I couldn't afford to go to university of wisconsin. But I have a great job I love it. and I am ME. not what some one else wants me to be
NOT telling you what to do. but you should take a little time to think about it. your not old enought to know yet. I learned to be great at math and trig and algibra and never new it till I was about 19. your 14 stop and think. don't be in such a hurry. explore your interest. I said. explore your interest. NOt your options. not your abilities. not your freinds think you should do this. explore YOUR interest. what is interesting. whats gonna be a fun job. and maybe kinda investigate some of those jobs. see what it might be like.
if you can't end up going to work every day. and enjoying it. you may as well just find another carear right off the bat.
I love my job. i'm, never late. I pray for over time. its great. if the robots don't take over its the best job ever. The Ironic if that the right word. thing is that if I was the mechanical engineere. I would have made the robots. that got my job . i'm not using spell check. because this is me being real. The other thing was. ugly you said. thats funny. I thought no one liked me in high school because the girls didn't talk to me. turned out that they did I just didn't know it. they all thought I already had a girl friend. just because I hung out with this one girl. who I didn't even like. just because I was really hanging out with her dad and her brother because they helped me fix my old junky car.
chris

Answer 5

don't worry about what people think about u. I'm 15 year old boy and my parents are the same way. I have AP classes and they think I can get A's in every class. They always want me 2 do everything 4 them. just don't pay attention to ur dad and lay back 4 a lil while. take some time 4 ur self and hang out with ur friends u already have and go 2 the mall or something. I always felt like a failure in 8th grade but I went to tutoring and they helped out a lot.

Answer 6

concentrate on things you can do something about...

1)what can you do to improve your self esteem and confidence?

2)where can you seek help to do the above mentioned?

3)when are you willing to do something about your problem?

4)who (other than yourself) can help you to make a change?


these are the questions that you have control over....

that is power

Answer 7

first of all you need to stand up to your parentsa and tell them how you feel. just tell them about how stressed you are about everything and about how your dad nagging you and yelling at you makes everything worse. if there the type of parents who wont listen or who will make fun of you or hurt you then you need to get up the courage to make some friends. you need friends for soo many reasons and one of them is selfesteem and for counseling. you also need someone to make you happy because your parents arent doing a good job of it. ask them if you can drop a couple classes to just regular ones(like your math one) its better to ace a regular class than do bad in an advanced one. just tell your parents how you feel(if you can) and if you cant then work up the courage to get a friend. nobody can give you the courage though. you have to bring that out of yourself. and whats the worse that could happen? youll either get a friend or you wont. not the end of the world if someone doesnt like you.but you wont make friends by doing nothing. and about the pretty thing? heres a secret. boys, girls, just people dont judge somebody by how they look. they judge them by there attitude, how much self confidence they have. idk whether you really are pretty but if you arent (this may sound bad but im being honest) go get some makeup. even the cheap stuff. go get a tan on your roof. shave them legs, lose a few pounds(only if you need to! and do it healthy if you do!). that may get you self confidence if you need it and it seems like you do. and if you ever need to talk you can email me if you want :)

good luck!

Answer 8

i think that you should tell your parents how you fell
casualy say i love you at nights maybe they will say it back
and about the grades tell them you are trying your best
and that it is hard to be in advanced classes
they need to know how you feel
i know itsnot easy but i have been in your position before
i know how it is
you just have to tell them
communication is key
there are some harsh things in this world
but you have to face your fears
and do something about it
you have the power to change your life :)
i hope this helps

Answer 9

dont look down on yourself
be proud of who you are
as for everything else
you were not put on
this planet
to please anyone
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Answer 10

Honey the way I tell everyone to get self esteem is this way. Everyday look in the mirror and find something good to say about that person. After awhile you will began to believe the things you say and feel good about yourself. I used to have the same problem, but no more. I'm terrific and most people agree with me. Not conceited just convinced.