Is it time for short term marriages?

Question

The only way marriage will become very popular again is to do away with the outdated forever vow and introduce something more appropriate for our time. Yes you read correctly. I believe the time for term marriages is here and now. The idea of forever is scary and un-appealing to many single guys and women. The biggest reason for our high divorce rate over (50%) is the vow of forever. The idea of forever is old fashioned and should be updated to fit the modern times. Consider how things have changed: no more stay at home Moms (over 85% work), many households now have both spouses working. Who cooks and clean is no more well defined. Love making after the first year is without passion because the pursuit of dollars takes a toll on perception of reality. To prevent and avoid the high divorce rate marriages should have time limits.

1. 2 years Term—A two year marriage will be a good way to determine if you really want to stay with your partner longer. This marriage will have no division of any thing; you get to keep what you entered the union with. In fact it should be clearly stated that the marriage will expire in two years. No lawyers, no bitterness and imagine how much couples would save.

2. 5years Term--- The five years term is the next best step for couples that have gone through 2 years term and still have the desire to be together. This commitment will help tighten up the bond and keep the relationship fresh and full of passion.

3. 10years Term--- This is the term for couples planning to have kids. Any guy that signs for this will be well aware of the commitment involved. Child support payments agreements should be built into this term to keep the courts and lawyers at bay.

4. 25years--- This is for true and known love. No couple should be allowed to sign up for this term unless one of the first three applies.


Progression in commitment is what makes sense and will make the institution of marriage popular again. I know some females might frown on term marriages but when you consider the present alternatives; term marriage is the way to go. What do you think? http://say-what-ever-you-think.com

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Answer 1

You may be on to something here. Hmmmmm...... This would work nicely for those that can't seem to be faithful too. Stay faithful for just 2 years and decide if another term is in your future or if it's time to move on. Though I am almost 125% that no state will ever allow this type of marriage any time soon.

Mary in Beulah, MI. USA

Answer 2

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This is the stupidest idea I have ever read.

People who commit to a marriage commit to it for life.

Answer 3

You make marriage sound like a hitch in the Army or something!

Answer 4

Thank God I never fell in love with you!!!! Thanks for the laugh though. Your idea of term marriage is quite entertaining.

The one key thing that you said was, "The biggest reason for our high divorce rate over (50%) is the vow of forever."

That's simply not true. The biggest reason for our high divorce rate is not the vow of forever, it is the lack of committment that we have as a society. It's too easy to get a divorce. To easy to not have to work at it. To easy to just say, "I don't have to deal with this."

Answer 5

Since marriage is to provide security the woman needs to raise children, the minimum term should be 20 years.

But consider the downside of your proposal: Most people will not be yuppies with enough assets at age +-40 to provide both with stable futures.

Men that age will want a younger woman, so the poor wife, having done her duty, is put out to pasture when her looks are failing.

Bad idea.

I see your point, people live a lot longer now than formerly. But a good marriage is more than time+$+kids. It takes a male half and a female half to make a whole team. This is the goal, to make a whole team and that, if found/made is priceless.

Answer 6

I understand why someone would feel this way. So many divorces and cheating spouses, but marriage is supposed to provide a safe and long term haven for our children. Marriage is supposed to be "forsaking all others" as well.

I think society has to change. We live in a world where no one wants to behave honourably anymore, and its all about instant self gratification. People break the law constantly, look at the movie stars arrested for drunk driving and alcohol, and athletes for drugs.

Society has changed to believe it is all about living in the moment and having a good time and no responsibility for how it affects other people. Not even your own children.

If you wish to have a short term marriage contact with a man why not just become his mistress? And ask that he make a contract to give you finanical award for services you perform over the two year period?

Answer 7

wow, you must have thought pretty hard on this.. Think your soo smart to huh? tell me then, why get married? whats the point in marriage if its only temporary. DId you even stop to think about the kids in the situation? I mean i can hear it now "my mommy and daddy and only married under the 10 year contract, so in 10 more years i'll have a new mommy or daddy." wow what a crock, grow up. Stop waisting your time and do something constructive.

Answer 8

Nice, maybe I'll enter sign on for a two year term...

Answer 9

I think the whole point of being married would get lost in these short term marriages. Isn't the whole reason to get married for that life long commitment and knowing that other person will be there for you forever??

I think now a days people don't feel the pressure to get married and have kids like they used to (because of things like women in the work force). So I think those people who are afraid to get married don't. I just think that what you are talking about here would have to be something a bit different than "marriage".

Answer 10

I think you have no morals or values. Your parents must be proud!