i've had this rule since i've been with my husband-no hanging out with the opposite sex one on one.if a third person is there it is fine. my husband thinks it is silly. he says he trusts me but i don't want to put the IDEA in ANYONE's head that i could be cheating on him. Well, my husband is out of town tonight with his band and i am stuck at the house by myself (i had to work) a fellow employee and good friend has nothing to do either and offered to hang out......i told my husband and he thinks it is completely fine. i trust myself and trust my friend and wouldn't do anything to hurt my husband BUT i don't want to put thoughts "subconciously" in his head....so what to do???
2007-12-31 12:23:20 · 18 answers · asked by Toni H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm against drinking anyways!!!!! so no problem there.
2007-12-31 12:29:12 · update #1
Fidelity has nothing to do with trust, nor will power.. It has more to do with opportunity. Everybody will have a week moment, so its better not to be in a position to have to count on your "will power" to keep "anything" from happening that could damage your relationship. If your going to hang out with the opposite sex,,, do so in a setting where the opportunity for hanky panky is limited.. Public places,,, like shopping at a mall or something along those lines. Hanging out just the two of you at home is an invitation for opportunity...and sometimes opportunity will knock when u least expect it to.
2007-12-31 12:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by ckgene 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I say go for it! I'm married and I have a really close friend that is of the opposite sex. My husband is friends with him as well, and sometimes we do things one on one. As long as your husband is comfortable with it there shouldn't be a problem. Just be careful. Best of Luck :D
2007-12-31 12:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by Louise 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it is the opposite sex, then you have to follow your own rule. If you expect your husband to turn away potential female friends who may want to meet for lunch, have a cup of coffee, or just hang out, you had better do the same. It is wrong to hang out with the opposite sex. It eventually asks for trouble. Sorry.
2007-12-31 12:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
if ur man is happy with it, why are u so concerned about it then? just enjoy yourself!
2007-12-31 12:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by melanie_lanc 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would not hang out with a guy without my hubby there with us, because I sure would hate for him to hang out with a female friend alone..
2007-12-31 12:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by Brown eyed girl 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Two things to consider.
1 he said he's fine with it, so go ahead and do it.
2 he could subconsciously want something to happen, so go ahead and do it while fostering his imagination. Either way, you should be in the clear.
2007-12-31 12:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by K M 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
YES!
YES!
YES!
You didn't get married to keep the same social activities you had prior to the marriage.....
2007-12-31 12:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by george s 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Have a good time with a friend.
2007-12-31 12:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by wrknprgsat47 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I see nothing wrong as long as,
a) you're in a public place,
b) the spouse knows who the other person is and has no issues.
c) no alcohol!
2007-12-31 12:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
the man told you he was fine with it - go have fun - if he had a problem with it he would have told you so. Stop feeling so insecure.
2007-12-31 12:26:55 · answer #10 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋