My dad has been such a jerk to my mom lately. She's getting really sick from her diabetes and stuff and he just doesn't take it seriously. So my mom moved in with me so that I could watch her a little better than my dad would. And then she decided she was leaving him for good. At first I was very supportive, and i still am, but part of me feels bad for my dad. He's 47 years old and is complaining about being lonely and stuff. He's been divorced before and has this divorce coming to him (although it's not even a for sure thing yet), but I just don't want to see him in that house alone for the rest of his life. Should I feel bad for him or what can I do?
2007-12-31 11:16:12 · 8 answers · asked by goshimwaycool 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Suggest they go for couselling. He may have come to his senses as a result of the temporary separation. It isn't fair for your mother to expect you to be the one looking after her so I think she should at least give him another chance - for your sake as well as his.
2007-12-31 11:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is an adult male capable of caring for himself, looking out for himself and has no right whining to his daughter that he is lonely when he made his bed.
Tell him you are his daughter, not his wife, not his mother, not his buddy and to handle his own problems, that it is not up to you to care for a healthy parent.
I am sorry but he sounds like a real loser. My friend's exe did this to his daughter, he had her coming over and doing his laundry and cleaning his house because the wife he had used as a maid for years finally left him.
Tell him you will not talk to him until he starts to act like a grown up and take responsibility for his life and his mistakes.
2007-12-31 11:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to feel bad for him, but also remember that he's brought this on himself. If he treated your mother better then he wouldn't be alone now. Some people have to learn their lessons the hard way. He will either straighten up and win her back or he will treat the next one better or not learn anything and move on to someone else he will mistreat until she leaves him.
2007-12-31 11:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents relationship is their problem to sort out. If they want to work on it they will.
You're dad is an adult, he'll learn to cope. He may even find another wife that he will treat better than he treated your mom.
2007-12-31 11:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by krinkn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can feel bad for him, but he is still being mean to your mom, and she needs someone who will support her
2007-12-31 11:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by amt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if the two of them cannot work things out, then they don't need to be together. Tell your dad to be more caring to your mom and maybe then he wont be lonely. A lot of time men tend to shut down when their wives get sick, they just cannot handle it. Tell him if he doesn't want to be left that he needs to take better care of his wife. Good luck.
2007-12-31 11:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by Brittney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you should not feel bad for him. First of all he brought this on himself with his own actions. Second of all, I don't know your age, but honey, 47 is not old. Not at all.
And if this is his second marriage it is probably the way he treated his first wife. Do you see a pattern going on?
Help your mom out she needs it.
2007-12-31 11:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can feel badly for your father, but apparently, he's caused his own problems.. and you can't fix him...
Don't waste a lot of energy on feeling sorry for your father, it's not worth the stress. His life, his choices. So, if he wants to make improvements, there are many resources for help out in the world... maybe he can look into it?
If your father finds someone else before he makes some adjustments in his life, he will get divorced again.... doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results, is the definition on insanity.
Take care of you and your own life.. can't repair anyone else.
2007-12-31 11:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋