I can hardly approach someone i find attractive...i never made the move and just assume theyre not the one...but now i just wanna go out there and talk...but when shes there i get tongue tied and fear looking creepy or desperate or goof the conversation...how can i maintain confidence and not get the mental block?? starting next year, i wanna make the move from then....
2007-12-31 10:29:15 · 3 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
it sucks to feel vulnerable for someone you really like...
2007-12-31 10:29:50 · update #1
Here are some tips on how you can get rid of the jitters:
Make it a point to smile and acknowledge girls that you meet on your way to work or in your office every day. It would be great if you'd greet them with a simple hi or good morning. Breaking the ice especially with a stranger helps you get over the initial nervousness. Do this often enough and it becomes a habit and soon, you won't even feel nervous anymore.
Volunteer to be in the organizing committee for any event that your company is hosting as that would put you into contact with ladies from different departments. The aim here is to help you to be more comfortable in the presence of women.
Visualize yourself talking to the girl that you fancy. Visualization helps because when the interaction actually takes place, it is something that is already familiar to you and it helps to get rid of the nervousness.
Do not put the girl that you are interested in on the pedestal. Do not idolize her. When you do that you create unrealistic expectations, thus making her out of reach when in fact she's just like any other ordinary girl that you know.
If you have not come to this realization yet, you have been interacting with women since the day that you were born. You grew up with at least one woman in your life; i.e. your mother. Some have sisters, aunts, grand mothers living under the same roof.
Therefore technically, you should not be nervous when talking to women. Just think of it as if you are talking to your mum or sister. Practice, practice and more practice till it becomes your second nature.
2008-01-04 03:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sal SR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're a shy guy. That's OK. Nothing wrong with being shy. But you still have to be willing to take some chances in life. Just be yourself. Don't worry that you might screw up. We all do that. Nobody will die because of it. Just keep working at it. You'll get the knack of it all soon enough. These things take time and a little practice.
2007-12-31 18:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the mirror, start talking to yourself, asume you talking to your gal, im not joking , good luck , every guy go thru that stage. I believe in you , go get gal in 2008
2007-12-31 18:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋