I assumed my husband & I would do something? We only have $50 until payday (& for those of you suggesting another job, I have an interview day after tomorrow) & my husband is at the bar. Well, I haven't talked to him, but after work whenever he doesn't answer his cell then I know he's at the bar. His excuse for not answering is that it's in his jacket & he didn't have his jacket on. Anyway, should I feel a little hurt by the fact that he's at the bar on New Years Eve & I'm at home w/ the kids doing laundry? By the time he gets home there probably won't be enough money to do anything, but I hate calling him at the bar (since he won't answer his cell) to ask him to come home. What would you do?
2007-12-31 10:05:02 · 13 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
These are all great ideas, but at this time everyone I know already has plans & can't watch the kids & I have no way to get to the bar w/ him.
2007-12-31 10:15:29 · update #1
These are all some good answers here!
2008-01-02 17:38:20 · update #2
Exactly right Haroula!!! :)
2008-01-02 17:38:36 · update #3
You're right Sherb! I would!!:)
2008-01-02 17:39:49 · update #4
John h, you're a great dad! Sounds like a plan!
2008-01-02 17:40:07 · update #5
Janis B, you are much stronger than me!
2008-01-02 17:40:33 · update #6
It really is too bad that you married someone whom is only into himself and can not see the wonderful family that he has at home waiting for him. Karma will come back to him later in life and when he wants the family to be there for him on special occasions he will have pushed everyone away with his selfishness that he is showing now. Make this a wonderful night to remember with your kids and don't bother with him. The memories that you have with your kids will far outlive him and his selfishness. Play games, put on some music and dance with them, watch movies and start your own family tradition with them that you can do with each other for years to come. This will help to strengthen the bond that you have with your kids even more than it is right now. Here's hoping that the new year goes better for you than this one has.
2007-12-31 11:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make Ur new year's resolution .. be that u are going to living for Ur self and make Ur self Happy.. and allow him to make u happy as well.. U do all the work in the relationship..
Have a Happy new year/
2008-01-01 03:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an A&&wipe!!....Take the kids ,,Go down to the Bar & join him
Don't be Mad or upset..Just tell him You wanted the Family to be together ,,,.........See how he reacts & then enjoy Yourself with HIM & the kids .............Scew Him
2007-12-31 19:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by Andrew M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be really pi$$ed at him. But don't call him. Don't give him the satisfaction of looking at his missed calls and seeing you were trying to reach him. Pop some corn, start a fire in the fireplace if you have one, gather your kids around and enjoy them either in front of the TV or read books and tell stories. Then when he comes home drunk let him pass out in his cloths. Don't help him to bed or anything. Just let him fend for himself. And don't give him the satisfaction of knowing you are at all upset.
2007-12-31 19:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not call him. I would have to rely on my faith in God to get me through the time. Whether your husband comes home or does not come home should not change your life one bit.
Enjoy your children. Be self confident that this is your husband's problem and not yours.
2007-12-31 18:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by Janis B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay home i am going to be with my son and he is the only one would what to bring in the new year [hot girl wouldnt hurt lol] also when your husband comes home he will be drunk and sleeping by 9;30 ? also there are alot of cops and drunks out hug and kiss your kids happy new year
2007-12-31 18:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by john 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should come home to you and the kids,im sure you would if it were reverse! :)
2007-12-31 18:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by shrebee 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you, except that there should definitely be a dry spell for him for a long time.
2007-12-31 18:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by Allison L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow!!sorry babe!!but it seems that he's selfish and only interested in his having a good time!he should have been considerate and been with you!!and don't believe that crap that his cell is in his jacket!he is purposely not answering it!!i would get a babysitter and go out alone to another bar!!but since you don't have enough money,you'll just have to put up with it!don't bawl his ear off when he gets home,it won't do anything,cause he had his fun and he's expecting you to shout at him!what you could do,is not acknowledge his existence when he comes home!and when you do have money,start having fun without him!!he'll get the picture!!and start treating you like he should!!
shame on him,for treating you like this!!
Happy New Year,from me babe!!!may your new year have many smiles and lots of money!!
2007-12-31 18:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get in your car drive down to the bar, and ask him to buy you and the kids a drink and see how he reacts.
2007-12-31 18:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by amt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋