your husband came home from work and not ten minutes thru the door announces he wants to go to the CASINO? .....Did not ask if I cared to go.
(Maybe because I'm 34w4d pregnant and barely getting around seeing as how baby is already estimated to be about 8lbs. 13ozs.)
But then gets an attitude because you don't want him to go.
One of us is being selfish do you think it's me or him?
And why do you think so?
2007-12-31 09:16:57 · 22 answers · asked by THIC007 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me add that were suppose to be working on our marriage since he just admitted to having an affair a couple of weeks ago.
2007-12-31 09:20:03 · update #1
GET this he left ANYWAY!!!!!!!!
And is not answering his cell phone or my txt pages.
I tracked his phone thru the sprint family locator and sure enough he's @ the CASINO!!!!
2007-12-31 09:54:56 · update #2
Both. If he's been giving you the support you need, you should let him go. He shouldn't ask to go, that would be something noble. But you shouldn't get angry just because he wants some time off. If he hasn't been doing anything, then no. He shouldn't even ask to go. But if he's giving his fair share, give him a break.
2007-12-31 13:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by Helloooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand...why do you care if he goes out? Let him go and have some fun. It is OK for him to go out byhimself sometimes (you are pg afterall).
I find so many woman smother thier men.
I am always happy when my husband goes out and has some fun - he always comes back happier and I have a bit of quiet time while he is gone.
Like I said I just don't get it - I have never cared if my partner whats to have a social life - I always give my men thier space and they come back and appreciate me even more for not being a clingy over dependent woman.
Anyways have a good New Years.
Jade
2007-12-31 18:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would leave and never look back.
2007-12-31 17:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jai 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The minute I found out about that affair, that marriage would of ended and going to the casino would be the least of his problems
2007-12-31 17:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oh man...girl, my heart goes out to you. A big bun in the over and your husband is acting like a 12 yr old. He is being very selfish and immature.
I suppose he must be pretty terrified over the whole 'becoming a father' thing. Pregnancy seems to really separate the men from the boys.
I can understand his desire to go out and have some fun. You both will be pinned in at home pretty much for the first month or so after the baby arrives. But, you two need to work out a solution that you can both be happy with. Maybe he goes out to a bar to watch a game with his buddies. Or maybe his buddies go to the casino with him for a short while instead of you having to do the dull duty. He needs to understand that because he screwed up by having an affair he needs to regain your trust. Acting like a 12 yr old is not a good way to earn your wife's trust.
Best of luck to you - I know this isn't easy. Congrats on your baby - I know you'll have a blast raising it.
2007-12-31 17:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by krinkn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At first I was going to say you're being selfish, what's the big deal you're pregnant and he wants to have fun.
But if your marriage is on the rocks and he had an affair, then he's absolutely ridiculous. Instead of telling him he can't go (your not his mother, so don't order him around), tell him you would prefer if you guys did something together - to strengthen the marriage. If he doesn't understand this then he's got a lot of growing up to do.
2007-12-31 17:35:37 · answer #6 · answered by Peace 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry kiddo, but you married an a$$hole
2007-12-31 17:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by burnttoast97 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be mad. But not that he wanted to go to the casino. I'd be more mad at the fact that he didn't approach the subject in a better way. I would understand that he might want some guy time away if he had said, "Honey, I know you're going through a lot, but I'd really like to have some time away. I'd really like to go to a casino and wanted to discuss it with you." No prob. But when he walks in and that's the first thing out of his mouth, "I wanna go to a casino", yeah I'd be irritated. As for the part about him having had an affair, that's a whole other can of beans. Are you still upset over that? Do you trust him? And would you trust him at a casino?
2007-12-31 17:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The affair is not over. If he TRULY wanted to work on the marriage, he would cater to your emotional needs. Why he can't take you (if you wanna go)? He is the one being selfish.
2007-12-31 17:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he isn't a very caring person. You need some attention. He is wrong and not very thoughtful. I hope you figure out what is best for you.
2007-12-31 17:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by Hgual2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋