just because she's my mother, why does everyone think were supposed to get along. we are two different people, with different ideas, if i had never met her before, i still wouldn't like her. we just don't get along. is there anyone else like that?
2007-12-31 08:52:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK I am married with children, and for me, she's still not right, her ideas of life are as long as you just pretend your OK, then your OK, she let my grandmother raise me mostly, and didn't even stop smoking when it caused me to have lung and throught problems, now she's a super christian that loves everyone as long as their in the room with them. he advice was never how to raise a kid, more like a watch me and learn what not to do. she never huged me, never kissed a "boo boo" never was a mother till i was about to move out of the house at 18. i can over look that, and forgive her, but i cant force myself to like someone, she was never there, she never cared, and if that would have just been a friend of mine, everyone would tell me to drop that friend, but because her blood is in me, they act like i should feel a certain way about her that's just not going to happen. i know she did alot for me, and i still do alot for her, whenever she needs me i'm there.
2008-01-01 16:22:18 · update #1
Haha, thats how I feel and have always felt about my mom. If I had just met her and she wasn't my mom I would definitely not like her nor would I want to know her.
2007-12-31 08:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by Benita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get along with other people,in particular aged people is an art.You should develop this art in you.You should not forget the huge sacrifices she has done for raising you since birth,and let no one in the world think that you are ungrateful to her.
2007-12-31 17:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same deal with my mom. Here's the thing...people who are different can get along...the old adage of 'opposites attracting'. As long as you can accept that she is different from you and you from her you have a shot at developing a good relationship with her. Instead of ranting and raving about how different you are...look at what she does and maybe ask why she does things certain ways...you may learn something new. The one thing to remember is that she is your mother, not an older playmate that was put here to be your buddy. If God is gracious maybe you can be buddies later on in adulthood.
2007-12-31 15:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by tlw733 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont have the best relationship with my ma....so I feel u on that.....theres just ppl u get alond with and ppl u dont!! it dont really matter if they related to u or not....so dont let anyone get u down becuz of dat!!
2007-12-31 09:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by Gotta Luv Me!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt like that until I had kids of my own, then I realized her advice had always been right on target.
Now she is in her 70s, and not too healthy....and I am sorry I wasted those years when we were younger and stronger.
I spend as much time as I can with her now, and I will be devastated when she passes away.
2007-12-31 09:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you feel that way. She is your Mother, and you should try to develop better feelings toward her. She may not be with you for very long. Happy new Year to you and your Mother
2007-12-31 08:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by pooterilgatto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋