what can i do about the sex ?

Question

i have been with my partner for 8 years and our sex life is good, but latley i alway feel that the fore play is great but the actual sex doesnt last long enough i just start getting in to it and he ejaculates but i dont want to keep on at him about it because i dont want him to get a complex. what should i do.

Answer 1

The only way to get him to take longer is to tell him about it. This is a common complaint women have. Alternately, you could be on top, and control things, and that might make it take longer for him and be the right motion for you.

Answer 2

Try a different position.

Answer 3

does he know how you feel. how can he change if you don't tell him..try the up nose stuff spray.. see if that will help.good luck happy new year.regards daz.

Answer 4

He needs to learn better control. Tell him to pace himself and take proper full breaths to the best of his ability. He also might need to go slower at times and should take breaks - rather than just going for it. A 5-10 second break from stimulating you is better than only a few minutes of sex.

He also can do certain exercises - I think they're called "Kegel exercises". Also maybe you shouldn't go on top of him so he has better control of when to pull out and pause.

Answer 5

Id say you get him way excited during foreplay so when the sex rolls around that it. I had the same problem, but my BF was getting me way to excited and I would be the one getting one to quickly.

Answer 6

I dont really know, but from mans perspective, I find that the foreplay excites my girlfriend more than it does me. You said that it lasts a long time, but which partner is the foreplay most directed at? Do you actually get a good chance to excite yourself? Cause I guess it would be obvious that if you are concentrated on him maybe too much, he may get overly excited and finish a bit quick once you go to intercourse. I dunno, maybe you should focus a little more on yourself during the foreplay and remind him at this time to mentally review the presidential candidates for 08 while he is simultaneously helping to stimulate you. This question obviously does not have a set in stone answer, being as everyone is different. I have also dated women that cannot acheive climax when they are having intercourse, I dont know if that is the case specifically with you, but in our case, after 5-10 minutes of fooling around, she normally can climax after 5-10 minutes of intercourse. Most of the time, I can accomadate that, but hey, we are guys after all! :)

Answer 7

I think that instead of saying to him" our sex sucks" lol
You change it up a little, you know.
If during sex something he's doing doesn't feel right, move his hands for him or go on top and he doesn't have to do anything at all. Then you know it's good for you, and they love that anyways.
Make a romantic night out of it. Blind fold him and have candles lite. Put his hands where ever you want them to be, move them to where you want. switch it of and let him blind fold you.
Give him pleasure how he likes it, who know he might change how you pleasure him as well.
I hope this helps!

Answer 8

Nice guys finish last.

Encourage your man to extend the foreplay. Or, could it be that your attitude has been tinged with resentment? 8 years and no marriage.

A wise woman once said "it's not how big it is, it's how big it feels".

You are having a harder time getting excited. this is an emotional issue, sex is only the symptom.

Answer 9

Try a Cock ring.. Its supposed to slow him down some.. but not take away from anything for you or him... if that doesn't work then talk to him... remember you guys have gotten this far by being honest to each other..

Answer 10

make him blow his load wait about 15 min then get him aroused again then he should be able to last longer to satisfy you