my wife and I are expecting our first baby in a couple of weeks... Fastforwarding a little it is our second anniversary in April and I was thinking of taking my wife away to the hotel where we spent our wedding night. My question is should I arrange for a friend to look after our baby overnight or arrange to take our baby with us?
2007-12-31 08:45:59 · 14 answers · asked by ydris5 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It is probably too soon for you to make plans - in my opinion your wife will not want to leave her new born baby anywhere without her.
You won't really know how you feel about it until just before it's time to go - the best option for your baby would be to go with you where it can have it's proper feeds etc, but there is no reason, if everybody is comfortable with the idea, that your wife cannot express milk for the baby in advance so that it can be looked after by a trusted carer for the night.
I think whatever you decide you'll be re-assessing your decision once your bundle arrives.
2007-12-31 08:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by Wannabake 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Really it is as soon as you can stand it. I promise it will be harder on you and your wife than it will be on the baby. I spent my first night away from my daughter Dec.15th and she was only 4 months old. If you trust the caregiver then go ahead. It's important to have "you and her" time too.
2007-12-31 20:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would be upset to leave my baby who is 3 months old. Why not bring the baby? Your baby is going to be a part of your new family and what a sweet way to bring the three of you together. It can still be romantic with the baby there.
2007-12-31 17:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
neither stay home! A new baby doesnt need to go anywhere! Your wife would probably not want to go anyway! There is a new baby in the house!
2007-12-31 17:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That depends one your wife. Personally I would never let my kids away for the night and my oldest is almost 2.
2007-12-31 17:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first night away from Keri was when she was almost 2, i was really nervous though when my husband and i went on a trip without her, but my sister took great care of her, so it really depends when your wife wants to leave because my husband kept urging me to go on the trip and finally i caved in, so when you wife feels comfortable
(3 year-old-daughter named Keri and pregnant with a girl named Lyla due on Febuary 14)
2007-12-31 17:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by i LOVE running! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be really tough, ok....it's definitely going to be tough, for the both of you to leave your little one at home, but by April, he/she will be about 3 1/2 months old, definitely old enough for Grandma or Auntie or someone as equally trusted to watch her. It's not like your wife is giving birth and then rushing off to her anniversary. You will very much need a breather, and a reconnection with your wife, after 3 1/2 months of newbornness. Remember, the number one mistakes new parents make is never taking time for themselves and for each other. So go, enjoy your anniversary, pamper each other, and come back the next day refreshed and re energized, ultimately being better parents for it.
2007-12-31 17:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by saxcat00 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's a romantic thing to do for your wife. So around the time you are wanting to do this your baby will be about 3 months old. If your wife has no problem leaving the baby with a friend or relative then I'd say go ahead. In fact, now that I think of it, my son was 3 months old when we left him with my mother in law overnight for the 1st time. I would probably say 3 months is a perfect time to do this.
2007-12-31 16:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by a_bai04 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
As long as you are leaving the baby with someone you trust completely you should be okay. It is after all just "overnight". When my baby gets a little older (she's two weeks now) I plan on letting my parents have her for a night every now and then.
2007-12-31 16:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really, really wouldn't arrange anything like that right now. Looking after your first baby isn't just tough, it's tougher than you can possibly imagine.
When and if you feel like going away in April, then arrange it nearer the date. You may just be exhausted and want nothing more than to stay at home.
2007-12-31 16:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋