I am engaged and I was talking to my dad the other day and he suggested that my fiance and i take time away from eachother ... like a week or 2... not talking or anything to see how we feel afterwards and to see is we still want to be together. Should I or shouldnt i do it?
I know i love him and i know i want to be with him and my dad said he did it with his current wife and they have been able to work things out SOO much better than he was able to with my mom (then again my mom is reallly stubborn). I know he is looking out for me and not trying to break us up, if he was he would flat out say we should break up..hes tried to break up an ex and me before and flat out said it...so he is just looking out for me.
so what should we do? should we take the break or should we just keep talking because we both have said we dont need to figure it out because we know?
2007-12-31 08:29:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
take a break
2007-12-31 08:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why take a break? Is there something wrong that needs to be salvaged? If nothing is wrong, don't go looking for a solution.
2007-12-31 09:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by chinamigarden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not take a break. I do not see the sense in it.
2007-12-31 09:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i agree when you know, you just know. what works for your dad doesn't necessarily mean it will work for you. it's always good to spend some time apart to enjoy each persons likes and get with some friends because when you get married you see each other every day. and i've been married to my husband for 9 almost 10 years and i love him but we both agree that it is nice to have a few days apart. my husband goes hunting alot or fishing. i'm more of a homebody so i don't mind him going, it gives me some much needed peace and quiet and he enjoys it as well but that doesn't mean i would want to be a way from him for a long time. try 3 days not long and maybe see how it feels. who knows your dad may have something there
2007-12-31 08:51:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break for what? girl get married and daddy needs to mind his own unless he their is a good reason for him to feel like that and i mean good, cheating, fighting, using u .so you need to just listen to your hart because daddy might not want his baby to get married and i no you said that he speak his mind but if you are talking about marring this guy he no that will hurt you if u love him and he love u do what u got to do because what works for daddy might not work for you and daddy needs to no that.
2007-12-31 08:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by Malisha B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the way it works: Take the break. While spending time apart you both realize that you are happier together and belong together. The break helped you come to that conclusion. Scenario B: During your time apart you both realize that you are happy without the other and it wasn't meant to be. The only reason not to take the break is if you are afraid of scenario B. If you don't take the break and the first scenario is the correct one then you win. If you don't take the break and scenario B is the correct one, but you weren't able to come to that conclusion then you're both screwed! Spend some time away from each other.
2007-12-31 08:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be young...
Just think.. if you split apart for one of those weeks and he gets killed by a car, you've just lost an entire week when you could have been with someone you love.
I'm not saying that you're father is wrong. I like the fact that he is trying to pass on a suggestion that helped his relationship. More parents should be this thoughtful.
However, I think that your relationship might be a little different. You don't need that time away from each other. Your in love and you should spent more time together.
But it doesn't really matter what you try. If you're open enough to realize that things aren't going well, you can always fix them in the future.
Good luck on the marriage.
2007-12-31 08:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is such good advice!!
My hubby and I have 5 weeks apart, then 5 weeks together(sometimes less if he goes in early) all the time, and it's true about absence make the heart grow fonder.
There have been times I wanted to talk to him or YELL at him, or I want HIM to deal with the kids, (it's kinda rough for him to sound like "dad" over the Internet on an IM..LOL),or just plain out cry and he not be there to listen, or when I totaled his new truck and wanted his comforting words of "it's ok honey" and he wasn't there, but when he is here and there are times that ALL of those things happen, he is there for me, and I learn that I love him and miss him more when he's gone, than I would if he was home every day!!
Take the break kid, it really will open your eyes!!
2007-12-31 08:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by THEMrsMinLa&Momof2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After two weeks ... who is it gonna hurt? Are you going to stop loving each other or something? Do you think it necessary? What does your fiance think about "taking a break"? It's really up to the both of you. Honestly I see no harm in it, neither do I see the necessity. Did you dad explain what good it actually does?
2007-12-31 08:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to dad. He has wisdom.....
2007-12-31 08:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
assuming you are and adult (age 18 or older) the decision is entirely up to you...is that what YOU want to do....just because it worked for your dad does not necessarily mean you need to follow in his footsteps...discuss with fiance and the two of you decide what is best for the two of you...
2007-12-31 08:38:24 · answer #11 · answered by sunbun 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋