What are some fun things to do on a date night with JUST your hubby??

Question

Please serious answers!

OK..I get the SEXUAL part that IS NOT A PROBLEM...

Please real answers!!!

Answer 1

Movies, Go for a walk, Ride 4-wheelers, make Ice cream Sunday's, Dress up and chase each other around the house, Drink and get wild, go camping, go mountain biking, karaoke, skydiving, fishing, go dancing, or make a home made spa night.

Answer 2

Take away his cell phone so he doesn't text his mistress.

Answer 3

Do things that you haven't done in a long time. Go to a lake and park for a while. Look at the stars and talk. Go to a hockey game and have a drink. Just go and have fun no matter what!

Answer 4

Watching tv and movies and talking..

Answer 5

whatever you guys like to do when you're out/about. There's no right/wrong answers. It depends on the couple. Do you guys like the movies? Walking around the mall, shopping? Playing bingo? Having a video game night?

Answer 6

Time For Your Husband
by Tamara A. Fackrell The setting sun once again casts its orange and violet rays on the glowing horizon like a skilled artist. My husband and I are walking down a meandering gravel road, holding hands and gazing deep and knowingly into each other's eyes. Romance is full as the rising moon and a candlelight dinner await us in a secluded mountain setting. The meal is perfect, and the flowered china and fancy, gold-trimmed silverware add just the right ambiance to the crystal goblets and night of full etiquette and delight. The true love between us is so strong you can practically touch it.



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On the ride home, we reminisce about days gone by and our wonderful romantic outing. A few days later, a large white truck pulls into the driveway to take away the romance and delight. A shabbily dressed man walks up to the door and knocks. The handyman has arrived to install our new television service!
My husband and I did go on a date similar to the secluded candlelight adventure, and our home had been television-free for eight months. But then we found out we were hosting Thanksgiving dinner. The football games were imperative to the happiness of our guests, so I capitulated and we put television programming back in our home.

Love is an Action Verb

With kids, schedules, and television, who has time to foster love with a spouse? We need to make time! I mediate many divorces, and I have seen too many cases where the parents were so focused on the children that somewhere in the mix they forgot about each other. Marriages that are not cultivated usually die shortly after or even before the last little bird leaves the nest. When you have an empty nest, you’ll still want to have your lovebird and be in love, so put your husband on your list ever day.

As I have worked with at-risk youth, who are usually hard to love, I have thought deeply about how to build good relationships with them. The secret can be applied universally. If you want a person to like you, then you must truly like that person. The same goes for your husband and your children. If you want your husband to love you, then truly love him.

Focus on your husband’s strengths and do not nitpick his weaknesses. Rekindle your love weekly by constant love shown through your actions.

Fill Your Husband’s Love Bucket Daily

Little things mean a lot! Learn how to fill your husband’s love bucket. I believe that all men have two major areas that fill their love buckets: food and intimacy. If your husband is grouchy, it is probably a sign that you need to fill his bucket. Becoming a great chef can help!

Women, I think, are a little harder to figure out. Sometimes we are not even sure how to fill our own love buckets, and it varies from hour to hour. If you do not know how to fill your own love bucket, then no wonder your husband cannot figure it out! Some ideas for filling women’s love buckets are gifts, talking, spending time together alone, compliments, sleeping in, naps, hugs and kisses, and intimacy. Women have to be great communicators to show their husbands how they can be pleased. One of the ways my love bucket is filled is through talking, so my husband and I have decided not to have a television in our bedroom. This allows us to talk in our room at night with only little interruptions (that would be my children). When communicating with your husband, do not leave any of the details out.

My husband likes me to pack a lunch for him. I also try to make a hot breakfast for him at least once a week. If you have dinner ready on the table for your husband at night when he gets home, that is a great way to fill his love bucket. I have my husband call me twenty minutes before he comes home so I can have an idea about what time he will arrive.

If you feel that your husband does not do enough to fill your bucket, remember this: men usually cannot fill women’s buckets until their own buckets are full. Initiate intimacy with your husband often. If he has to initiate intimacy with you, that is a sign that you should initiate intimacy more frequently. Be creative with romance. (Hint: Wear silk or satin at least once a month.) Everyone should have at least one creative dating book for their home library, such as 101 Nights of Grrreat Romance, by Laura Corn (or another romance idea book), and don’t forget to star your favorites so there is no guessing for your husband.

If you are experiencing marriage difficulty, try this plan: Fill your husband’s love bucket with intimacy and food every day for one week. Then at the end of the week go out on a date without the children. After this week, reevaluate your situation.

I know many women who would like to improve the intimacy in their marriage. If that sounds like you, plan on taking several nights to figure it out. Buy a book on intimacy, such as The Act of Marriage, by Tim and Beverly LaHaye. Because intimacy is what fills your husband’s love bucket, it is imperative that you enjoy it too. The more you enjoy intimacy, the more your husband will be satisfied.

Be intimate with your husband, and get him some food!

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate

Figure out your husband’s love language and speak it daily. Figure out your own love language and communicate it directly to your husband. You and your spouse definitely need to spend time getting fluent in the language of love.

Is your husband your best friend? My husband is. Some nights my husband and I stay up late laughing as hard as teenage girls at a slumber party. I truly want to spend an eternity with this man I love! Take steps to communicate effectively with your husband. Ask him about details of his day. Most men will give generic answers to questions like “How are you?” “Fine” is the reply. Ask your husband about the details of his job and understand the dynamics of his profession. My husband has lots of business lingo: MA, LOI, and EBITDA all mean something in his profession. I asked him about the particulars of each item so I can intelligently talk to him about his role at work.

Does your husband know how to soothe you? The only way he will learn is if you teach him and tell him step by step what you need. If you do not like something he is doing, say so in a positive way and give him an alternative that would please you: “I like it when you . . . better than when you . . . .” Tell your husband about your problems and encourage him to not try to fix the problem unless you want it fixed. A few years ago, if I had a headache, my husband would say, “Take an aspirin.” That was before he was properly trained. I just wanted him to say, “Oh, you poor dear,” and I told him what the correct response should be. So now we have this running joke in our marriage, and when he listens to his worried spouse, he will often say, “Oh, you poor dear” instead of instantly coming up with an obvious answer. But husbands do not instinctively understand that women do not want solutions, and talking may be enough to solve the problem. Therefore, women should educate their husbands about how they should communicate.

I talked with a friend who was having marriage difficulties. She expressed frustration about how her husband just relaxes when he comes home from work and doesn’t do his share with the children or the home. I asked, “Did you tell him what you just told me?” She answered with a no, fearing the consequences of telling him. Men are not mind readers who can pick up every subtle hint. Once our family was traveling to Las Vegas. At a stop in Mesquite, I asked my husband, “Are you hungry?” He replied, “No.” The insensitive clod. Couldn’t he see that I was hungry? I was a little annoyed and thought about sitting in the car and pouting. Instead, I decided to give him a clue: “Honey, I’m hungry. Can I have some money to get a treat?” He quickly got out his wallet, and then we were both happy. Don’t make your husband guess what you want. Instead, tell him!

The Savior said, “Go thy way unto thy brother, and first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come unto me with full purpose of heart, and I will receive you. Agree with thine adversary quickly while thou art in the way with him.” (3 Nephi 12:24-25.) In other words, talk about your disagreements quickly and don’t let your problems get worse by avoiding them.

In a marriage, it is better to be straightforward, tough-skinned, and open. Instead of getting frustrated because your husband does not know how to help, be direct and frank and give him an assignment with all the details. If you do want to leave hints, it is helpful to leave a decoder as well. I asked my husband, “If I cut out an advertisement for Ballet Utah and left it on your pillow, what would you think I was hinting about?” I coached him and told him this would be a clue that I wanted to go to the ballet.

I love the final scene in the movie Bed of Roses. The main character refuses her boyfriend’s marriage proposal but then, after many months, visits him again, wanting to rekindle their love. He doesn’t respond, so she turns to leave. Then she turns around again and coaches him: “This is the part where you are supposed to hold me tight in your arms and say, `Wait! Don’t go. Everything is going to be okay.’” Then her boyfriend says, “Oh, I was not familiar with the procedure” and does exactly what she told him to do. This is a classic example of how to open up lines of communication with your husband: Tell him exactly what he should say. Sometimes, even though we have lived with our husbands for years, they are still not “familiar with the procedure.” (For husbands, the thanking and praising done through intimacy works well, but be careful not to withhold intimacy as a weapon.) Do not nag. The more you nag, the less likely he is to perform the task. Direct communication can help create a relationship of love and caring.

Learn to communicate openly with your husband. Do not present the lemon without adding the sugar (a small compliment of course)!

Walking on Eggshells and Making Them Crack

Another area I have had to work on is being less sensitive. Sometimes I am easily offended, and my husband feels that he has to walk on eggshells around me, especially when I am pregnant (which has been most of our marriage). There is an easy, two-step formula to solve this problem. First, ask, “Did he mean to offend me?” If the answer is no, try not to be so sensitive. Think how awful it would be to constantly be with someone who got offended at everything you said. You would have to bite your tongue often, and friendship would be hard to develop. If the answer is yes, and the offense was on purpose, then you do not want to be offended because that would mean the offensive statement worked!

On the other extreme, we should not insult our husbands, especially in public. One couple my husband and I went out with made numerous insulting remarks to one another and then proclaimed they were “just joking.” When one of the spouses was insulted by a jab, the other would say, “You can’t even take a joke.” Remember, when you insult your husband or anyone in your family, you are insulting yourself, because you are all part of the family team. Control your remarks to your husband and fill the gaps with love instead of joking jabs. Do not joke about things that would insult him.

If you want to be treated like a queen, treat your husband like a king.

Doing Things Together

Find events or hobbies you like to do together as a couple. My husband is an avid BYU fan. I, on the other hand, have always been only a little interested in football. I decided we needed to have some hobbies in common, so I became a fan. I go to all the games, buy BYU paraphernalia, keep up on the statistics, and memorize the players’ names. My husband will often tell people, “My wife is a BYU fan now.” We have a lot of fun sharing this hobby together. Similarly, my husband has learned to love going to live theater performances, because that is something I love to do. Other couples water ski, scrapbook, mountain bike, do jigsaw puzzles, dance, or read books together. Start a new hobby together and spend quality time with one another.

I did not realize how much a mission prepares a man for marriage until we started implementing some of the mission companionship habits in our own marriage. This is a great way for the priesthood holder in the home to feel some sacred responsibility. We have implemented prayer, planning, journal writing, and scripture reading. Every night we hold hands as we kneel next to one another and communicated with our loving Heavenly Father. We plan our schedules and talk about any concerns in our planning meeting once a week. We also study the scriptures together. Currently, we are studying the book of Revelation with the help of a study guide. These three ingredients—prayer, planning, and scripture reading—bring a wonderful spiritual closeness between marriage partners.

Have more things in common with your husband than just your kids. Develop hobbies and have fun doing them together.

Expect the Road to Have a Few Pebbles

Although I like to focus on the positive aspects of marriage, every marriage has its ups and downs. This is normal, so do not be discouraged and think you are alone when those rocky times come. I am actually thankful for the down times because they usually bring a stranger bond between my husband and me. When my husband and I do not agree, we use the famous line of my Great-Uncle Curly: “You might be right. But I don’t think so.” This is essentially saying we agree to disagree and still hold hands. Have open lines of communication with your spouse so you do not have to deal with problems after they have become mountains. Instead, start dealing with issues while they are still molehills. If you don’t react well to conflict, recognize your problems and try to replace your usual reactions with positive skills of active listening, brainstorming, and talking things through without being offended.

I have also learned it is important to keep adult conversations private, as they may include concerns about finances and major disagreements. Children can really get frightened if they see their parents argue. I remember one of my friends growing up thinking her parents were going to divorce because of a huge fight they had. It affected her deeply, even though her parents were not considering that option. Divorce is one thing my husband and I decided will never be an option in our marriage. We will work through problems that come and never even mention or jokingly tease about the “D word.”

It is good for children to see their parents solve problems together, so we must balance. (My friend told me her six-year-old is worried about money. Why? Her daughter overheard a conversation about their continuing financial struggle. Children should be taught to be frugal, but they should not have to worry about adult problems. Even though my parents occasionally had financial struggles during my childhood, I was never conscious of them. Thank goodness, because I am good at worrying.) My husband and I are open about many discussions, especially when it involves the family. We discuss many family issues in our family home evenings and do not sweep problems under the carpet. Whenever we get in a calm and controlled “discussion” in front of the children, we also make sure the children see the increase of love and support, including dancing in the kitchen or a loving hug, which ends the conflict. Let your children see you and your husband working together so they can model your problem-solving skills. If you are using negative methods to solve your problems, change them. Always show respect for one another.

Learn to communicate positively during difficult times.

Weekly Date

My husband and I often have a weekly date. Many couples complain that getting a babysitter is too expensive, but time alone with each other is important. I live for it. I love the romance, and I love my husband. Every marriage needs an element of fun, and a babysitter is much cheaper than marriage counseling. Don’t just keep your marriage alive; instead, make it thrive!

I have found some creative solutions about babysitting. For example, you might go out two nights a month and stay in two nights a month. On your nights in, put the kids to bed promptly and establish the rules of date night: No interruptions! Then you can watch a movie in a homemade tent, go on a scavenger hunt, eat a crazy theme dinner, or watch the sunset from your balcony. As I write this, my husband and I are on a date or sorts. He bought burritos for our dinner, and he is playing computer games while I am writing. As I finish a section, he reads it and offers suggestions. Not exactly pure romance, but he shows his love by his support. You can also trade babysitting with a friend. And if you are lucky enough to have Grandma or an aunt who loves to babysit and lives nearby, you have even more options! A weekly date keeps marriages thriving.

Summary

Keeping your marriage alive is essential even when you are dead tired while raising children. Start by filling your husband’s love bucket and communicating your needs directly to your husband. Demonstrate spiritual commitment together by praying, reading scriptures, and planning together. Have a weekly date and make a goal to start participating in a hobby together.

Making It Work

Give your husband a decoder for your cryptic messages. Instead of hoping your husband catches subtle cues, give him a decoder by giving him detailed instructions.

Access the romance in your marriage. Any woman knows there can never be too much romance in a marriage. If money is tight, plant a rose bush (on sale they are easily in the seven-dollar rule) so your husband can give you roses any time—at least while the bush is in bloom. Tell your husband exactly what you like and make him a list. The list may include flowers, gifts, cards, love letters, and a daily telephone call just to say the endearing words “I love you.” Remember that many men expect their wives to be responsible for the romance, so if you need more of it in your marriage, coach your husband about what to do. Say something like, “I love you so much, and you are a wonderful husband. I am anxious to spend time alone with you and would love for you to plan a surprise date for Friday. I hear the local theater is playing The Sound of Music, and I would love to go to the Olive Garden. I will get the babysitter for Friday and you plan the date. Thank you for being so romantic.” Okay, maybe he still will not do it, but do not lose hope, because you could still plan the whole date by getting the tickets and dinner reservations yourself, and then you will get exactly what you want.

What do you want to do? My husband has sometimes asked me, “What do you want to do?” and I have said I do not care and it is up to him. But secretly I’m craving Mexican food and want to go to Café Rio. I just want him to guess exactly where I want to go. When my husband chooses an Italian restaurant, which is usually my favorite, I know his efforts are to please me but I am not giving him enough information. Women are sometimes hard creatures to figure out. Let’s give our husbands as much as we can, because boy do they need it!

Hot Date 1 (Activity 73): Candlelight Dinner and Sunset

Materials needed: Babysitter, dishes and silverware, tablecloth, table or blanket, music, blindfold, candles, and matches.

The Asking: Start by creatively asking your husband out on a “hot date.” For example, you might write him a poem on paper with scorched edges. Here is a helpful example you can use or alter by keeping the rhyming words on the second and fourth line and making the third line whatever you desire.

To My Love:

How much do I love you?

Only my and your heart know.

You are the man of my dreams.

I love you from head to toe.


How much do I love you?

I love you as far as the eye can see—

Up to heaven and back again.

You were meant for me.


How much do I love you?

I would count to infinity

If numbers could express my love.

I want you for eternity.


How much do I love you?

I tell you with all my might.

Yet words cannot convey my love.

Will you go out with me Friday night?


The Preparation: Put your folding table or picnic blanket, complete with china and silverware, in the trunk of the car. (Wrap the dishes in towels so they will not get broken or use the children’s china.) Before your husband comes home, call your favorite restaurant and order takeout food to be ready at a specific time. Also write your husband a short love letter to read on a romantic walk. Go to the place of the walk beforehand and hide the letter in a secret place, or just bring the letter with you.

The Date: Tell your husband you are going on a date-night adventure but it is a secret. Together go into your favorite restaurant, where your husband will be expecting to sit down and eat. Instead pick up your takeout food and then go to the site of your candlelight dinner. Open your trunk, set up your beautiful dinner, and embellish with your best china while he helps or sits in the car blindfolded. Eat dinner together and have some beautiful music playing either on a boom box or car tape deck.

After dinner, take a romance walk with your husband. Walk around holding hands and then spot your romance letter. Ask, “What is that?” Have him pick up the letter and read the endearing message.

After the walk, either go out for dessert, rent a movie to watch at home, or get some bubble bath!

My husband and I have done this, and it was a night full of love and romance. We got takeout food from the Macaroni Grill and had our candlelight dinner near Sundance Ski Resort. A car stopped, and a man rolled down the window and exclaimed, “I do not know if this has made your night, but it sure has made mine.” We laughed and agreed we did have a wonderful night.

Hot Date 2 (Activity 74): The Romantic Getaway

Materials needed: Babysitter, money, and night pack.

The Asking: Call your husband on the phone at work.

Say, for example, “Hi, is Jacob there?” After he answers, use your maiden name and say something like, “This is Tamara Ashworth, remember me? I sat next to you in church on Sunday. I was wondering if you were busy on Friday night at 5:00? You’re not? Would you like to go out with me? I share a car, so you can pick me up at my house at 5:00? See you then.”

The Preparation: Find a hotel with reasonable rates and book a room. Bed and breakfast accommodations are always fun for this type of date. Use coupons if you have them. Pack up for a romantic night at a hotel.

The Date: If possible, meet your husband at the hotel on his lunch break. Have candlelight fast food or a homemade lunch ready for him. After his workday, meet him at the hotel again. Swim, go to dinner, read, spend time together, have a night together, and have a lot of fun.

For my husband’s birthday, I booked a hotel room. With a coupon book, I found a room, near his work, for a very reasonable price. He met me there for lunch and we had burritos by candlelight. I had arranged for a sitter for the day, so I slept while he went back to work. It was wonderful to get a nap with no interruptions. That evening we went out to dinner and went swimming. I could not find anyone to watch the children all night, so we went and picked up the kids at home. We took the children swimming that night and in the morning. It was a great rendezvous even though we did not get to spend the whole night alone together. The day at the hotel was romantic and the evening was fun for the entire family.

Hot Date 3: (Activity 75): A Night on the Town

Materials needed: Rose, paper, babysitter, and money.

The Asking: Write a note to your husband asking him to go on a date with you. Leave the note and a rose on his pillow.

The Preparation: Purchase tickets to a local play, opera, concert, or sports event.

The Date: Go to dinner and then to the play, opera, concert, or sport event.

Answer 7

Bowling, mini-golf, window shopping, movies, restaurants, concerts, sports events, plays, bingo, pool, ...

Answer 8

You're in LA as in Los Angeles or Louisiana?

Louisiana? Well, you can always check out the book at the library. Stay away from any bar with ground up sea shells in the parking lot.

LA? Getty @ night, tons of jazz bars with live trios, Fashion Island stroll, walk the beach @ Newport, Spaghettini brunch, Hollywood Bowl, Angel game, Dodger stadium, Rose Garden, MOMA, LACMA, CityWalk, Downtown Disney, D-Land/DCA, East Lake, OC Arts, galleries in Newport, Mozart & Mocha - sheesh! That's the tip of the iceberg!

Answer 9

Anthing out of the house where you don't have to wipe anyone's nose or any other part of their body-getting away is necessary -hotel stay-day at the casino, dinner and dancing, movies, anywhere that you can be just you!

Answer 10

Dinner and a movie, ice skating, roller skating, comedy club, there are so many fun things to do!