For quite sometimes now I've seen this guy who I now care about. We dated for a brief period of time 6yrs ago. But things didn't work out because I was too young so I broke it off with him. We went our separate ways. Thereafter I got married to now my husband. During our marriage, my husband had done so many unfaithful things. To make the story short, I met him again during my rough marriage time. I start to care for him and I want to end my marriage. I told my husband what happened but the thing is that my husband seems okay with it. I meant he wouldn't get mad if I go to see this guy. He still treat me like a wife. This isn't what I'd in mind when I told him the story. Some other husbands would've already shown the wives the doors, but not my husband. Why? He even let me go to see the new guy if I want then pretend that everything is okay and still says he loves me and continue on ourlives. I'm shocked!
2007-12-31 08:08:49 · 26 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like whats good for the goose is good for the gander. While youre going out the front door your ole hubby is probably going out the backdoor to his girlfriend or whomever. This is why hes not getting mad, how can he , when hes doing the exact same thing but isnt man enough to tll you about his other life. Now hes probably expecting the same courtesy when you find out about him so be prepared. This however cant go on forever like this so one of you is either going to call the marriage a failure or both are going to have to stop the affairs and fix the marriage. This is definitely a huge disaster waiting to happen.
2007-12-31 08:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, its not normal. If he's drinking like that every day there's a good chance he's an alcoholic. People don't have to be fall down drunks to be alcoholics, if they're dependent on it then they're usually alcoholic no matter how much they drink. Even if he's switching between pot and alcohol so not drinking every single day there's still something wrong. If he needs to get high or buzzed on a daily basis he definitely has a problem. Some people do continue smoking pot when they have kids, and I don't really think its so terrible personally though I wouldn't do it. But the only people I know who do it are occasional users, its not an everyday thing. They have the sense to realize that being out of it like that every single day is not a good idea in terms of parenting their kids, being responsible adults, etc. Same with the drinking.
2016-05-28 06:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by cornelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 100% right.Something is really wrong in his mind,for sure.Good question.
2007-12-31 08:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We could go on guessing forever. Ask him whats going on.
If he won't talk go get some counseling and see a lawyer. This is strange behavior. Happy New Year!
2007-12-31 08:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by psi2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe he's living with so much guilt for the things he has done that by you going to see this other man he feels his actions might be justified. Either way it isn't healthy and I think you need separate.
2007-12-31 08:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because he wants to do the same thing with other women. You both are wrong.
2007-12-31 08:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably cheating on you...that's why he isn't too upset about you seeing your male friend...because he has a piece on the side.
I bet he is of the "It's cheaper to keep her" school of thought.
He'd rather continue on with the charade of marriage, than go through a divorce.
If he isn't cheating on you, he's just oblivious and naive as hell.
2007-12-31 08:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not normal behavior. Especially if he thinks something is up between you and your old guy. You know, it sort of sounds like he may have a bit of something going on on the side himself. Most men are very very posessive of their women (even if they dont show it, they want the world to know that you go home to him every night) and it is a blow to the ego to see their woman being close with another man. Does your husband know that you want to end things? Does he know that this other guy is the reason you want to leave? If he thinks that the two of you are just friends, then he is doing right by telling you that it is ok, but if he knows the same story that we do... then well... it sounds like he could care less if you stay or go. Think things through before you decide to leave your husband some counceling may just be the ticket if you both want to work things out. However, always stay true to yourself, your wants and your needs. Good Luck and Happy New Years.
2007-12-31 08:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im shoked to! As if he doesnt care who lays a hand on you. Most guys are protective, and wouldnt let their woman go with another man. Maybe he doesnt have much respect for woman, or doesnt have family values or morals.
2007-12-31 08:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he's seeing someone else
2007-12-31 08:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by 12345 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋