We only have sex twice a month if that. He blames it on our 1 year old child.Saying we never have time.Then he tells me I need to start dressing more sexier for him like I used to.He says he is not cheating, and was not aware he don't have a sex life.I'm always fighting with him about the lack of sex in our relationship. I think he's cheating. What do you think??
2007-12-31 07:45:28 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I lost the majority of my baby weight. unfortunately, he's gained a good 20 pounds.
2007-12-31 09:20:33 · update #1
Most guys do not have to begged to have sex.
Clearly something is wrong. He could be cheating, but it could also be:
1. stress and/or age has diminished his sex drive and/or ability to get aroused.
2. he's bored with you and/or your sex life.
I would take a look at your appearance and see if there are things you can or are willing to do. Maybe you've put on 20 lbs since the good 'ole days? Maybe you just throw on sweat pants and a T-shirt around the house? Maybe you stopped wearing makeup? Obviously it's not all your issue to fix, but these things could be contributing to the issue.
Cheating is not usually about sex, it's about being paid attention to, and clearly you are paying attention to him. If you want to rule out cheating, look for some of the other signs he might be cheating:
1. changes in dress
2. changes in work hours/schedule
3. starting arguments with you as a diversion from his actions
4. changes in his email passwords
5. being secretive about his cell phone and/or phone calls
If you don't see any of those things, I doubt he's cheating.
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I can also tell you that as the father of an 11 month old, my wife and I don't have sex nearly as often as we used to, and it is very hard to find time now when we are both wanting it, and the baby is content entertaining herself or asleep. We literally went from 2-3 x day to 1-2 x week. Neither of us like it, but we accept that as part of the deal.
2007-12-31 07:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Happy. Your baby shouldn't be up that long where your late night shouldn't be your own. Our daughter is only 7mo and our sex life has suffered because she's only now sleeping thru the night, and that's not every night. But at 15mo, not only would she not have a regular bedtime but it certainly wouldn't be as late as either my husband's or mine. Having little kids can be rough when trying to balance parenthood and adulthood. My oldest son, whom is 10, was about 2 by the time sex had become normal again. So, yeah.. it does take some time. My husband and I usually will get a quickie in here and there during the week but on the weekend, when both kids are in bed and neither one of us has to get up early, is when we play. We specifically set the time aside to do it because if we didn't, I'd never get any and be a b*tch of a wife. LOL
2016-05-28 06:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2008-01-01 13:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, maybe he is maybe not. you're the only one who can tell. but here are tips. is he paying a lot of attention to your child? is he so into him that he's not paying much attention to you? is he busy with his career. me, I gotta bond with my wife, no matter how busy I am with whatever, I make time for my wife. But not all guys are like me. So at this point, you're the only one who know the type he is. if you're clueless, just sit him down, look him in the eyes and ask him if he's cheating.
2007-12-31 08:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by straight_up 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok say he`s not cheating. He has said what he what like from you. So after the baby is down for the night go take a nice hot shower,oil up put on a nice teddy and seduce your husband. Light some candles , low soft music you know set the mood. Heck for that matter have a family member take the baby for the night..woohoo..
2007-12-31 07:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by tammy43mack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's not necessarily cheating.
A child definately changes things. So does dressing sexy! I am not defending him, but why not, get a hot outfit on and go for it!
2007-12-31 07:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men normally want sex more then women, kinda sounds like somethings up
unless the baby is in your room or with you both all the time, there is time to make time for sex - even a quickie
does he have time away from home unaccounted for? if so, and you are in doubt, have family and friends help you to be your look out
if he says he is somewhere and you are doubting it, drive by and see
don't invest in a PI unless you have the extra change, use your family and friends first
2007-12-31 07:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by Rant & Rave 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be happy with that. I'll be lucky if I can get some every six months with the wife.
2007-12-31 07:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Thunderman9 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont take this the wrong way, but the sexless guy probably is bored with you. its not your fault, thats probably the way he's thinking. think about when you actually DO have sex- is it exciting or a five minute done deal? if so, well...
2007-12-31 07:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he just doesn't enjoy sex as much as you and doesn't care if you have it. plus, maybe your nagging makes him want to tell you no more.
2007-12-31 07:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by HansonFan 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋