I have a wonderful husband and all but when it comes to romance
it's DULL !! We have three wonderful children !! All our time revolves around working,cleaning and them !!any advice for us ?
2007-12-31 07:01:23 · 36 answers · asked by Sarah Sugar butt 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You stated what the problem is...all your time is spent on the household "chores" and meeting the kids needs. You aren't focusing on what you should do to meet your own needs, and they are just as important as the day to day grind.
Counselors say that the happiest marrieds continue to date (each other) after marriage. My sister and her husband are like that. They make dates, get dressed up and take extra time on their appearance, leave the children and take off for an evening together. They go our for romantic dinners, hold hands, flirt and talk like they did when dating. They go for walks alone, and take weekend getaways to renew the romance.
Romance is lost when you stop working at it and making it a priority. Talk to your husband and change your life, you can make the time and effort if your marriage is important to you.
2007-12-31 07:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-31 09:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by gozef_pode006@yahoo.com 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Women have been asking that question for 2 million years. Let the world know if you find and answer.
2007-12-31 09:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can't make him into something that he is not. More than romance, you want passion. Your entire lives are focused on the needs of your house and your children and that is both noble and necessary. However, someone paid a price for that and it was not necessary. No one was asking to permanently shelve your desire for each other or to quell the court and spark that joined you a long time ago.
I know this because I went through it. I was always a hopeless romantic, somehow lost it, and then found it again but even more so fueled by an unbridled passion. People asked me how I did it and the only thing I could tell them was that I did not want to die and be known as a man who did not have passion.
2007-12-31 07:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make time. Schedule a time. Get a baby sitter...YOU get the sitter! And tell him "we're going out and have some fun, just the two of us" with a twinkle in your eyes. It gets difficult when you're busy. I'm sure he doesn't want to bother you. Make it easy for him and I'm pretty sure he'll go along. I'm glad you care enough to ask!
2007-12-31 07:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by Proverbs twenty7 7teen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key. You both need to sit down and discuss what it is you both want out of your romantic time. Then make it happen. As a wife and mother of three kids myself.. I make time for my husband and I to be alone and romantic/intimate. You have to. Otherwise, the marriage will suffer.
2007-12-31 07:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Christine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Date nights. Hire a babysitter and go out. Have the sitter (grandma or grandpa?) keep them overnight, if possible.
Make it a monthly thing, at least. Fun habits like that keep marriages fun. He'll start getting into it and plan some dates himself.
2007-12-31 07:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix: Princess of Cupcakes 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same predicament. He is not romantic at all. Never has been. I don't know that we can change that. Sighhh.......
2007-12-31 07:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take your time try not to go to fast it will come
2007-12-31 07:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your husband is who he is, so you can "make" him be anything.
Why not find shared activities that you both enjoy?
2007-12-31 07:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by Tikva 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋