My fiance & I have been living together for about 5 months now. I moved into his home. I do pay part of the rent & provide all of the groceries for the household. However, I feel like he treats me like a child, & that my vote doesn't count. Our home is heated by propane & he is constantly riding me about what the temperature is set at in the house. He likes to keep it at about 62 degrees, but I sometimes get cold, so I will turn it up a couple of degrees (maybe to about 65 or 67 or something). It's getting to the point where I have to sleep with three blankets, flannel pajamas, & two pairs of socks on...but I still sometimes freeze. I mean last night my toes were numb. He also throws a fit if a light is left on for more than 5 minutes, & whines about the cat being in the house. Even if I'm sitting & petting the cat, he'll grab the cat & toss him out without saying a word to me.
I need some opinions here. Is he a control freak? Should I try to work this out or not? I'm fed up!!
2007-12-31 07:00:01 · 8 answers · asked by dmh1973 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds like a control freak. If he is willing to work on things then go for it, if he won't then get out because it may lead to more than him just being a control freak.
2007-12-31 07:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by ziggy_brat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're getting a pretty good idea about how things would be if you two got married.. and it's not looking too good. He obviously sees the place, as HIS place. I don't care if he was the one who was there first, when you moved in, it because both of yours. You said yourself, you are paying your share.. so I think you should definately have some say about how things go. It should be his choice on everything.. If that's how he wanted things to be, he should have said something before he ever let you move in to begin with.
And as for the temperature.. My goodness that's cold! I would freeze if we kept our thermostat down that low! At night, we keep ours on about 75 (sometimes 80) cause it's so cold this time of year (we live in Arkansas). There is no way I would deal with that. That's just ridiculous!
Like I said, it looks like you're getting a good view of how things would be if you were married. Are you sure that's what you want to get yourself into? You either need to have a serious talk with him, and work on some compromising.. or get out, and find someone you're more compatible with.
2007-12-31 16:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YUP indinia boys are like that! Its time to move on, 65 is too cold for a home! And he's mean to your cat too, what are you waiting on?
2007-12-31 15:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this time of year it is freezing in indiana and u need to turn up the heat. maybe he'll turn up the heat if u make him sleep by himself and buy his own groceries. just leave him.if he's that controlling and mean, u don't need him.
2007-12-31 15:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by lexi2080 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave asap- it will only get worse!
2007-12-31 15:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by zchi6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't stay it will only get worse it sounds like he can be abusive .
DON'T DON'T stay in some thing like that
2007-12-31 15:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by Bobby T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is his house - he pays for the propane - if he wants it at 62, then you need to keep it there. Also, if he doesn't want a cat in the house, again - it is his home.
These are things you have to decide if you can live with, or if he is just not the right guy for you...he is't a control freak by any means - he has his likes and you have yours, and they clash...
2007-12-31 15:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
leave him be like i cant deal with this anymore! You have to change or i gone forever go to a friends for a few days if he really cares he'll change.
2007-12-31 15:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by Hayle J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋