i reguarly use this chat room where i have made many nice friends, its a clean chat room, and any s e x talk is banned (maybe not in private) though i hardly talk in private unless a friend has a problem or query.
my husband doesnt like me doing so, especially cus i never chat online in front of him becus i think thats a bit rude. (manner way). i go chat wen i come from work 8pmcus hes still at work til 1030pm so i hav nothin to do!
once when i did chat in front of him a person i knew was in private chat and he was askin me where i work and though i told him im married and not to flirt with me he said 'bet u look sexy in ur uniform' my husband went mad, thinkin all sorts. i told this person and he was really sorry by then it was too late. i ALWAYS make sure everyone knows im married so its not like i pretend to be available. i dont like to go on in front of him cus if i enter + a male says hi and 'xxx' then he thinks there 'is somethin goin on' please help, any views r appreciated.xx
2007-12-31 06:46:34 · 41 answers · asked by [вαвÿ løṿε] 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i chat with girls/woman too. its all mixed, i know people from diff religions, status, some r married, some in relationships, i talk to both sexes not jus males.
2007-12-31 07:02:46 · update #1
my husband has all my passwords too. i dont have ne feelings for ne1 on chat.
2007-12-31 07:07:24 · update #2
Hi,
He doesn't like it. Who has the greater feelings in the matter? Who has the most to lose? Why cause problems in the marriage?
Is he more against it? Are you more for it?
2007-12-31 06:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by heartsarebad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it Wrong? No.. Is it PLaying with Fire? Yes. Its a real slippery slope. Many ASSUMPTIONS are made and TRUST tends to "bite the dust". I understand the "Rude" part, but, as I say, Turn that apple around. If you have nothing to hide, it shouldn't matter. As I said, an extremely slippery slope.
2008-01-01 01:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use the online chat when I get technical support for my internet services, but that's where it ends. If it's taking away from your marriage, you might want to reconsider if it's worth it.
A good rule of thumb is: If you can't do it or say it in front of your husband, it's probably not worth doing.
2007-12-31 07:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you ought to find a chatroom where women are at that way you won't have to constantly be reminding men that you are married and your husband can have a peace of mind. Some men will want to be friends with people online and want no harm done, others will pretend to be all nice but they really only want to flirt and possibly meet up in person and yeah. Trust me, I used to go in all sorts of chatrooms and I'd see guys doing this to girls. Plus I'd hear about it too. With an all women chatroom maybe he will be okay with it more because you are chatting with women and you won't have to worry about reminding guys that you are married. Staying at the chatroom you are at would be okay but you'd have to block people who are saying things to you that make your husband mad. Some sites have a certain # of people you can block and other people would just make up a different username and find you. Some people are really good at stuff like that when they get desperate. Or you could just move to a different chatroom or create your own and invite the friends from your current one over to your new one. Whatever you do, just be careful cuz crazy people get online and make sure your husband knows that you mean no harm in the marriage by chatting online. Discuss it with him and see what he thinks. It's alright to chat online as long as you aren't glued to the computer and are aware of the people who love and care for you in real life and how it's important for you to spend just as much (if not more) time with them.
All the best!!!
2007-12-31 07:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you did marry in heart,mind,body and soul ! Your hubby just feels threatened !
2007-12-31 06:57:08 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MM no there isnt anything wrong with chatting on line but
your husband is not secure in life for him to go thur this..
have him watch you chat so he can feel like your not hiding anything from him...or are you
2007-12-31 06:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by shayhi 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
seriously, if you love your husband and value his friendship and trust, i would recommend getting another hobby. the online chat isn't worth the drama. chatting online with a man you aren't married to can be a slippery slope with unpleasant consequences.
2007-12-31 06:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by Michael 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some people are strange especially when they have no repercussions for their actions as no one does on line. talk to ppl on line when your husband is away working (no need to be secretive either) but when he is home find some family things to do or chat in other rooms with women only or that have a themed room so there is a specific subject matter that won't upset your husband. that is an easy fix,
2007-12-31 06:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by MrsMagee 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
your marriage is more important than some unknown people in a chat room - if it is upsetting your husband, then you should stop going into the chat rooms...how would you feel if he started talking to some strange girl on a phone chat line - anytime you weren't around?
find other things to do on the computer, play games, get on here and answer questions...stay away from cyber chatting.
2007-12-31 06:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to chat online with the opposite sex as long as you are upfront and honest with both them and your spouse about it.
You should be able to chat with others even if your spouse is standing right there. IF there is nothing at all going on. Maybe he gets mad because he is jealous and insecure. Either way, you shouldn't do things like that if they obviously make your husband upset. I chat online all the time..and not ONCE can I not do it in front of my husband. I keep it on the up and up.
2007-12-31 06:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by Christine 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋