My wife and I have lived apart for over 1 1/2 years, (divorce pending) but we remain friends and even get together about twice per month for a few drinks. Total platonic relationship.
I have started dating someone who believes I should not be seeing her anymore, and it is a source of conflict.
My new friend admits she is jealous, but that does not change the facts.
I say, my (ex) wife is just a friend, and has nothing to do with what we have together. ( which is pretty darn good)
What say you???????
2007-12-31 06:09:26 · 38 answers · asked by the-nurse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its all about the maturity level that your new friend has. I am friends with my ex-husband. We talk all the time and he is in constant contact with my daughter (he isn't her biological dad). My new husband doesn't mind because he knows that there is nothing going on between us. These things only become a problem when someone who is insecure gets involved. Let her know that you understand why she doesn't like it but she will have to get over the fear that you are talking to her. It is not wrong to be friends with someone that you LOVE. Just like you should be married to everyone that you fall in love with.
2007-12-31 06:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Vernita B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm going to play devil's advocate here: You have a personal history with your soon to be ex wife, you were married at one time, you've been intimate with her, you lived with her, for whatever reason, it didn't work out, but you've remained friends. Congrats, because I HAVE to be kind of civil to the father of my children.
If she had an ex that she was friends with, would that bother you? Knowing that they've slept together, no children together but they still meet up for drinks. That would probably freak most people out. Yes, she had admitted to being jealous because how many ex spouses' have stories where they get back together? I would be trippin' too.
It's your call, cut back on time with ex or lose new gf.
2007-12-31 06:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont think its a problem you being friends with your ex. The problem I have is your new friend being so controlling. The fact of the matter is she is still your wife IE DIVORCE STILL PENDING. U were probably friends before you were married. I think its ok to have platonic relationships. Reassure your new friend and tell her things are not going to change. I understand about closing a chapter in your book but always remember its still the same book your writing. Talk to her tell her there is nothing she needs to worry about. If she doesnt straighten out I say leave her alone. Jealousy is alot for anyone to handle.
2007-12-31 06:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want the new girl then you better end it
2007-12-31 06:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's 'so darn good' why are you 2 getting divorced? if you cannot leave her emotionally there may still be something there... and it's totally unfair to the new gfriend... jealous or not. I'm sure if the shoe was on the other foot you would not like it one bit! The only reason you and your 'soon-to-b-ex' should be talking or seeing one another is if you have children. Once you are intimate with someone you CANNOT be 'friends'. IMHO
2007-12-31 06:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by thenakats 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah what you say maybe the truth BUT you are in a NEW relationship now and you should respect the feelings of your new friend. you can stand firm and say look am friends with my ex and that is not going to change. you can introduce the two. and than all three of you meet for drinks. but you have to respect her feelings. and than at some point you will have decide is the friendship with the ex more important than you moving on with your life with some new. be mindful as to why you are divorcing her. GodBless
2007-12-31 06:17:58 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you are still married so you should not have a girlfriend and second your girlfriends actions should tell you how she will be in a relationship.
2007-12-31 06:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend you guys seems to be getting along and tell you new GF that you need some space and that she needs to trust you...you want to remain friends rmain friends...and you may even want to ask your ex Hope I helped
2007-12-31 06:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say she should grow up. If she can't actually handle you being friends w/ your ex then to save face she should at least become friends with her. And be thankful that he has a man who is open/stable/kind enough to stay friends with his X.
2007-12-31 06:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have children, you have no reason to see the person with whom you experienced a broken relationship.
Your choice is this: which is more important, your platonic relationship with your EX-wife or your romantic relationship with your girlfriend.
Choose one or the other.
2007-12-31 06:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋