I found out that my boyfriend is still friends with his ex gf. He has been with her 10 years ago and they were together for 8 years. SHe is married now and has a child and I found out that she visits him at his house with her child! He told me that they are just friends and that her husband knows about it, he sometimes even comes along, am I weird to have a bad feeling about this? I admit, I hate the fact that my boyfriend gets visits from his ex!
2007-12-31 05:52:33 · 69 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the prob is that he gets along great with his ex her daughter ( she is 4), and he plays with her, so I would be the wicked woman to take that away from them! but tell me, am I really weird to feel bad about the fact that my boyfriend gets visits from his ex? He also told me that she even visits his parents still...
2007-12-31 05:57:30 · update #1
I immediately asked him if the kid is his and he said no, the reason his ex and him split up years ago was cus she wanted kids and he didnt... he says they are just friends, but it just feels weird to me, its not natural, maybe Im not open minded? but it gives me a bad feeling
2007-12-31 06:11:46 · update #2
You are not weird to feel this way. If he is worth keeping, tell him it bothers you. Ask if he minds if you are there for these visits. He's either cheating or trying to rekindle a romance, or he possibly really likes her as a friend and you might like her too.
2007-12-31 05:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Duff Man 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She defiantly sounds like a psycho, she should of been over this some time ago, but Im betting that because your guy has feelings for you now shes getting even more ticked off. Your right she could be doing far worse off things, but have you or your boyfriend tried nicely talking to her and telling her to back off? If not, its worth a shot. Other than that your guy should get his number changed. If she continues to drive past the house she could get into some legal trouble. Make her aware of that when you both tell her she needs to let go and move on. If she doesnt listen than getting the police involved maybe your only option.
2016-05-28 06:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it gives you a bad feeling then something is wrong. And yes, i totally agree with what you have discribed, something is very wrong here. Did he ever discuss not wanting children with you, before this? If these were his true feelings, it would be very important for you to be aware of. Does the child resemble him?, although it needn't be the case. It sounds to me like this is his child, the same with visits to his parents. It does not make sence for a man who doesn't want kids, to spend time and play with someone else's, at his home. I get definately get a strong feeling you being lied to. This makes absolutely no sence at all. Chances are he's also paying child support.
2007-12-31 09:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um No this is not normal I mean first of all Is the kid His or her husbands child
If he's got nothing to hide why is he not including you i would get a weird feeling about it too
Not so much that he stayed friends with his ex but that he's excluding you and keeping you in the background
Cause some relationships can end with the 2 staying friends but in this situation yea i'd feel wierd too
But if the kid is his then yes he would have to stay in contact with each other
but if not then yea i would say if you got nothing to hide why not include me
2007-12-31 06:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by rebel_angel031 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your gut sweetie. they are still seeing each other right under your nose. dont fall for that just friends crap. GodBless
2007-12-31 06:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. You are holding on too tightly, you will lose control.
2007-12-31 06:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
o my huni you need to have it out with him and tell him u aint happy and tell him you wanna b there every time she calls around after all she has no need 2 b there realy n as 4 takein her kid 2 that is very weird it makes me think that child could b his sorry 4 bein forward but i dont trust any 1 lol
2007-12-31 05:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by becky d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if her husband sometimes goes as well, i don't really see a problem. ask him if you can be there next time so you can get to know them. who knows, you might even make a new friend. you do have one thing in common! diane.
2007-12-31 05:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by diquarry 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dude! tell HIM that! u shouldn't be asking other people for help! do what YOU feel you should do! but if you want my opinoin, i think you should let him have his space! he needs his friends, and I think it's a good thing he is still friends w/ his ex! i'm friends w/ most of my ex's! so just talk to him and try and work it out w/ him. he deserves to no how you feel. don't make him guess.
good luck!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
2007-12-31 05:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
thats shady invite then over to dinner and talk about there vist's *evil laugh*
2007-12-31 05:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by naty Pants 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋