i have been told by her that i have made alot of change and she sees it. but i dont see any in her, its a 2 way street. she used to be so affectionate and now its like shes here because she has to be. it hink she has gotten too comfortable. we've only been married 6 months. and when i told her i was getting lonely she got upset and turned it on me as if it was my fault. she wont communicate with me and thats not working.
2007-12-31 05:42:18 · 14 answers · asked by misty k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only thing I know you can try besides leaving is take a trip by yourself for a week or two and see if it's what you really want. It will give her time to think also. JUST DON'T CHEAT WHILE YOUR AWAY. If things don't change while your gone then make a more perminant decission. You to might not have loved each other as much as you thought. Follow your heart it's not wrong to often.
2007-12-31 05:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by frank61799 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you incredibly would desire to take a seat down along with her and tell her...of direction, on a similar time as the babies are absent. you have not articulated...yet is she a taker not a giver? Self-everyday? Lazy? you at the instant are not asserting and we can not wager, and yeah, it concerns on how anybody responds with a helpful answer. i'm going to tell you this, besides the incontrovertible fact that, this is totally, very silly to have 3 babies in 4 years of marriage...VERY. too plenty, too quickly. i'm guessing this is too plenty for her too, yet she's concentrated on the babies and not you...that is? comprehensible. So are you feeling sorry for your self because of this or are you 2 only trouble-free stupid which you probably did not seek for protection and WAIT a functional time till now even having a 2d baby...you may desire to think of approximately it. you may desire to attain the load this places on ANY marriage. You sound like a sufferer, and to 3 degree? you may desire to in all probability be in case you at a similar time did not conform to have 3 babies in 4 years. do not provide me the twist of destiny rubbish, i've got heard all of it. we've had birthcontrol for over 50 years now guy...NO EXCUSE. the prospect does exist here, that she is only too BUSY with 3 infants to take heed to to you and that's the actual reason you at the instant are not chuffed. SO WHOSE FAULT IS ALL THIS? the two. undesirable making plans (as in none) Grace
2016-11-27 00:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by gnegy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling
2007-12-31 07:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by bigtoe12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie maybe you both should seek professional counseling. something is going on with the both of you to not be happy and its only six months into the marriage. seek some professional help. maybe its how you say things to her that makes her shut down, or maybe she is scared of the changes you have made and think that you dont want to be with her anymore and is afraid of that reality. being alone and just got married. what would friends and family think. you should try to see things from her point of view. maybe the things that you both are going through can be resolved with an objective view. GodBless
2007-12-31 06:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can definitely understand some of that fear and why you'd feel like bailing out. But remember, the first years are often the hardest in marriage. It takes time for two personalities to mesh together, no matter how long you've known each other. Simply because you have made changes so quickly doesn't mean she can follow your same pace, and one of the things you have to remember is patience. You married this woman because you loved her and loving someone means more then just changing together. It teaches you to bear their shortcomings and be patient till the changes come.
When you communicate your thoughts to her, don't blame or criticize. Tell her how you feel and remember to say the good things as well. She may feel as if she can't do anything. If you feel lonely, start taking sometime to fill your days by doing certain activities for yourself. But then also set up dates with your wife and little surprises.
Believe me everyone goes through up's and down's during the first year. The trick is to hang on, and don't think about the "D" word. Stay positive and always look for the good.
Best wishes
P.S. Remember - "Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails."
2007-12-31 05:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so... when you are bored or don't get your way with anything else in life, do you just walk away from it? This is your wife, your marriage, 6 months are you are ready to call it quits. Maybe you should not have gotten married to begin with. You haven't mentioned anything about marriage counseling either before you married or since, why wouldn't you turn over every rock before you walked away? In the words of the bald Texas guy on tv, you have to earn your way out of a marriage, meaning you have to try everything you can think of to fix the problems before you walk out.
2007-12-31 05:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by Do I need a mint? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are MARRIED!!! For better or worse?!?!
You need to grow up. People are not disposable or replaceable.
Have you tried marriage counseling? Have you tried self help books? Have you STOPPED complaining?
Yeah, go ahead and get a divorce. Then get remarried and be unhappy again.
2007-12-31 05:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit being so 30 days and over. These are the times that you have to work through and make your relationship stronger. If you just give up, thats all you will be in life, just giving up the first onset of something being hard...Be a Man...be a Husband... Be something other than hear and now....
2007-12-31 05:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isnt for quitters!You want to leave cause things are hard? Are you kidding?Thats very immature.The first year of marriage can be difficult because you two are learning each others habits, good or bad and have to co inhabit a home and work together. You are speaking like you've been married for 10 years. Think back to why you married her, think of the qualities you like and float on those when you go through hard times. Divorce is a BS excuse for people anymore."You burnt the toast, I want a divorce"
2007-12-31 05:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by cherokee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please get some counselling with your wife together and communicate. Sometimes you might even want to take the time and treat her the way you want her to treat you. A woman is more affectionate with her man when he makes her feel beautiful ,sexy, vibrant and loved. How do you maker her feel? The change you may need here might need to start from you. Don't give up without trying, you married this woman for a reason.cheers
2007-12-31 05:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by Versacetica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋