We've been together for almost 4 years,we have a 3 year old son.I have a feeling he's going to propose on New Years because lately all he's talked about is marraige,and how he wants us to spend the rest of our lives together.He keeps asking how I feel about marriage and all the other obvious signs of a proposal.He's 27 and I'm 19.(We met when I was really young and I lied to him about my age)Anyways he knows how old I really am now,and I love him.But then again I think I am too young.
2007-12-31 05:37:39 · 27 answers · asked by DiamondXxx 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But I need to get in college,he keeps saying he's not getting any younger.
2007-12-31 05:41:46 · update #1
Your immaturity is showing here. If you both were 19 then yes but since one is over 25 (best age to marry) then this should succeed. Isthere any reason why you cant go to college when youre married? Many married couples do. I think whats bothering you is the lifetime committment to him when youre beginning to think of what youre missing not being a single unattached girl of 19. This is where being a new adult comes into play as youre being forced to make an adult decision based totally on you. You two will always remain together because of your son no matter what happens now. Tell him honestly that you want to wait to tie the knot til youre alittle older, but youre going to have to come up with a very good excuse, not like his hes not getting any younger. You made quite a tangle web now that you first deceived him years ago. What goes around comes around. Anyway, just be honest with him and tell him what you feel and what scares you here. Hes old enough to fully understand. Good luck and Happy New Year
2007-12-31 05:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your ready, your ready. I got married at 19 and am perfectly happy. I had to grow up at a very young age and was very mature.
2007-12-31 21:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Duncan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have thought about YOUR life when you got involved with him. Now you have a child to support and raise and it's normal that the father wants some sort of stability. If you love him , if you love your son marry him. Thank God you have them.
God Bless & Happy New Year
2007-12-31 15:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please wait until your ready. If your asking this question on Yahoo then your obviously not ready to get married. Don't let him pressure you into doing something your not ready to do.
2007-12-31 14:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by armygurl052000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie at this point the focus she be on you getting you together and to the point where you can provide for you and your baby. and if you and him were to get married you would be able to assist him as a wife should. so sweetie by all means marry him only after you finish college and have a job. there is no need to rush things now the baby is here already. GodBless
2007-12-31 14:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have a child together, marriage isn't going to tie you down anymore than you already are. There's nothing stopping you from going to school after you are married.
19 isn't too young if you are mature and have a realistic idea of what marriage involves.
You've been with this guy since you were 15, so you probably feel like you've missed out on "something"--Whatever that "something" is. But you haven't really. Life is choices and you chose to get with and stay with this guy. You may not have chosen to get pregnant, but you did choose to keep the baby and all of the responsibility that comes with it.
Now you have to choose whether or not to get married. How do you feel about this man you have been with for 4 years, who is also the father of your 3 year old baby. Would you stay with him even if you didn't get married? If the answer is yes, then there is no reason to say no to marriage. If the answer is no, then you shouldn't be with him at all.
Just because you agree to marry him, doesn't mean it has to happen right away. You could have a long engagement if you like.
Sit down with him and discuss what it is about marriage that scares you. What does it mean to you, what will you lose by marrying him. Your goal is to figure out if you really are put off by marriage or just put off by marriage to him.
2007-12-31 14:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. People would say you are too young. But this is a question that you need to answer yourself. He obviously loves you enough to stay with you after you lied about your age. Also, what you need to do is weigh out the good and the bad about your relationship with him Do you truly feel he is the one for you? or is there someone better for you? it seems like you doubt marrying because of that. Not because of your age. College is not an issue because being a wife and a student can be done. I am currently 19, I am married, I work full time, and I got to college more than full time (15 credit hours). So it can be done. Time well managed is good for everything. I got married young, Everyone toldme I was too young, or its too soon. but both my husband and I felt ready for the commitment and so far its been great. yes we've had ups and downs, just like every married couple does. young or old people go through things. BUt as long as the love is there, things will ALWAYS get better! You need to have confidence in your love and relationship with this guy. not your age. You didnt feel you were to young to have a baby with him? so why not marry him if you feel ready and you feel he's the one for u!!!! Rethink where u stand on your life before even getting engaged to this man. He sounds like a good man, who actually wants commitment. You don't find those very often. I was lucky and found mine. and don't plan on letting him go. But we made the decision together and we both KNEW AND FELT we are MEANT TO BE!!
Best of luck to you and your family.
2007-12-31 14:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by DatDrMaHeLuvs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is saying he isnt getting any younger, he is just thinking about himself. Think about what is best for you and your son's future, and college is probably a good idea. You dont have to rush into marriage, you can still be with him, but if he is forcing you to marry him. and nagging, maybe he wants to get married for the wrong reasons.
2007-12-31 13:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 and I do not want to get married in the near future. However, it appears you two have an ongoing relationship and it also includes a child. So marriage seems to be ok for you. If you are living with him and he wants to get married. I can understand you want to go to college, but why can you not do the after you are married. You stand a good chance of losing him if you decide to not get married, but also you should not be forced into it. Sionce you already have a son I think that changes everything about your age.
2007-12-31 13:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by Kayla S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 19, I work and go to school and have 2 little ones.You can do anything if you are determined.
Don't let your priorities slip away by any means.
If you feel ready to take this challenge on, then go for it.and just because he proposes doesnt mean you have to get married right away or that you cannot change your mind.
2007-12-31 13:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by cherokee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋