2007-12-31 05:18:56 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a little ridiculous after 17 years, it's always been pretty routine...I guess I'm afraid he'll ask, who's teaching you this? He's a little closeminded.
2007-12-31 05:28:19 · update #1
It's gotten easier over the years partly because our trust in each other has grown, but mainly because I've grown more comfortable in my own skin and in being who I am...less concerned about how others might perceive me.
Having said that, it's still tough - I always worry that she'll read too much into a request or idea. For example, if I wanted her to wear a Catholic schoolgirl costume (probably second in popularity only q French Maid uniform as bedroom costumes go), might she think that I'm into minors? That sort of thing.
Having said THAT, it's way tougher, and more dangerous, to NOT tell your spouse what you do/don't like in bed. The worst they can say is "no", or possibly "That's clever, but techically I don't think it's physically possible."
2007-12-31 05:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by edthespartan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YUP, we comunicate with moans, grunts,screams, and try it this way, "no prob" 15 years of fun
2007-12-31 15:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only if I'm in the mood for a huge fight.
2007-12-31 14:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I couldn't at all with my X-I tried one time and he just degraded me. I realized then that the relationship was stifling.
Current, my guy is sooooo open, but I still find it a little hard to talk about. I don't bring up the subject at all, but if he asks; I answer him honestly. Thankfully, he likes to know and is concerned about things like that. And doesn't take anything negative I may feel as a bad thing, he's uses the information constructively. We've even discussed how so many men out there aren't open about sex, and are easily defensive; therefore closing the door to so many wonderful experiences with their partner. He said he could never imagine being like that, because if I'm not enjoying myself then he's not enjoying himself.
2007-12-31 13:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
After seventeen years, I think it is good to think up new things to try in the bedroom. When a couple has only been together for a short time, they aren't as imagative as couples are as they get older. We all have to find a way to add spice in the B.R. I don't have a problem telling my partner, what I like and what I don't like and we have only be together for 18 months. .
2007-12-31 13:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sure....one should share those personal things with the spouse
2007-12-31 13:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should be honest with or mate no matter what even if it is a uncomfortable subject I'd rather my mate tell me then do something she dose not want that would make me feel bad
2007-12-31 13:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by Bobby T 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I tell him what i want and he does the same if you want to be closer to your partner then you be honest and about how to enjoy your sex life better together. Because he probly is thinking the same thing. It is always good to change it up once in awhile. Talking is the best LOL
2007-12-31 13:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by sugar_woods 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes because if you don't tell them they might not realize how to make you happy.
2007-12-31 13:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by cocolia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes
it makes life better and more worth of it .
2007-12-31 13:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mahesh Kawle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋