Suicide? Due to being 30 yrs old, in pain and tired of others controlling my life.?

Question

I am 30 yrs old. I have a fiancee. I have 4 herniated discs and have been on pain medication for 7 years. My father and my fiancee huddled up behind my back and have decided I shouldnt be taking them anymore. So now I face an ultimatum from my fiancee and meddling from my father. I have never abused these drugs. Ever. Period. However due to news stories of abuse, they assume I have done so and will not listen when I say no. So now, they firmly think I abused them and I am under house arrest of sorts. My fiancee monitors my entire day 100%, I cannot even take a dump with the door shut. My pockets, cellphone, belongings are searched for "hidden pills". Of course there are NONE. I am angry at them and their controlling nature. I am 30, in abject pain physically and I know that life isnt going to get better for me. I am contemplating suicide as the only way to escape my physical pain and the control being placed on my life. Why do people meddle so?

Answer 1

Don't u dare! Those 2 people LOVE u, ADORE u SOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH! You are lucky to have two people like that so willing to worry about your well being. Even if you don't agree with them, you KNOW they're doing this with the BEST intentions, thinking it's for your good.

Now, your pain..that's different. Who keeps refilling your prescriptions? I mean..why does the doc keep refilling? Next time you go to the doctor, take you fiancee with you and have her listen in on the conversation. Maybe she needs to hear from the doc that you need some form of medication.

There's a middle grownd to make both sides (you and gf & father) happy! How about all three of you make an appointment with a new doctor, at a reputable, big hospital. All three of you go and let them be part of the conversation with the doc. It's YOU that shold let the doc know you have taken so and so pill for 7 years.
Have the hospital run all the tests on you!!!!!!
If the answer comes back that you NEED medication, than you're right. Fiancee and dad will hopefully be convinced. Maybe the doc will give you diff medication.

If this reputable doctor, armed with all the tests, well..says you don't need such strong meds, man...compromise! Be willing to try their way! Get into a program to help you give up the old pill. It's possible, ya know.


Anyway...the withdrawal symptoms you're suffering from WILL pass...just a little more. Think about how much these 2 love u. Man, they are sooooooo worried about you! Forgive them! Understand them! Be willing to listen to them.

Answer 2

They obviously care about you.
But, if you can't handle it,
You should tell her that it is over between the two of you.
And, your father can't control you,
You are a grown man.

But, if you love her and can't do that,
Then you need to try to have a talk with her.
Tell her how you are feeling.
If she loves you she will understand.
She wouldn't want you to kill yourself.
So, if you tell her this,
She will try to help and change the way she is acting.

Please don't kill yourself.
The people who love you will be devastated.
I hope I've helped you.

Answer 3

Please consider seeking help through a counselor, self-help group, etc. It may get your father & fiancee off your back but the most important thing is that YOU could find help in dealing with your pain. Someone wise told me once that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Seek help for your problem before you consider suicide, please.

Answer 4

Set your Fiance' down and Explain to her what you've said here. If in fact you are only using your meds. to control pain, and NOT abusing them, then there shouldn't be a "need" for Constant Monitoring. Also, Sounds like you've got 2 people who REALLY LOVE YOU !! And it today's world that makes you a very Blessed person. Is there not Any sort of surgery that can be done on your back? Medical technology has come so far these days, seems like there Should be some sort of Surgery that can be done to ease your constant pain. Don't Give Up. Make it your "mission" to find a solution to your Back Pain. Make your Doctors Work for their money !! Good Luck !! Life Is good !! You are just on a Bumpy Patch right now. Take Care !!!

Answer 5

I would start by calling off the wedding and kicking your stupid fiance out of the house, or moving out if it is her house.

Then I would ask my dad to take me to the doctor for alternative treatment if they don't want you to take the pills anymore.

If that doesn't work, then I would contact a lawyer to sue (or at least threaten to sue) your father and fiancee for deliverately keeping you in pain, which has ABUSE written all over IMHO.

Listen, you need to get control of your life. Move away and try to do something on your own if you can, there are people and places that can help. Search online for help.

Answer 6

First, get rid of the Fiance.....she is controlling. No one needs that no matter what her intentions are, good or bad. You do need your space. Everyone does. Then discuss this with your Father, and bring in another Family member, or close friend as a mediator between your Father and you. And Remember, the Fiance...is now out of the picture.....There is hope for your disks....as My Mom takes her friend for a New Pain Management Treatment....for this same thing. Shots to kill the nerves that go to the disks. This has to be done under Xray and she is knocked out for the treatment. She has gone for 2 disks and has 2 more to go in January. OMG this treatment works and she is feeling wonderful and is back to work......SO DON'T GIVE UP.......Research this in your area.....it is a NEW treatment.......!!!!!

Answer 7

ermmmmm i wouldn't marry a control freak sorry.... you a grown damn man do ya thing! you don't need that from anyone... take care of youself!!!the hell with her!!!

Answer 8

Quitter!

Answer 9

The worst thing you could do would be suicide. Don't do it! You are only 30?! It's not always easy, but you have to keep going. Don't give up. I strongly recommend that you find a good church to get into, and seek Jesus. God loves you so much, and wants to be there for you, if you'll let Him in.

Answer 10

Suicide is never the answer. Taking pain pills everytime you are in pain is never the answer either. Pain meds for 7 years is unhealthy and thats the bottom line. Forget the fact that you are not addicted nor have abused them. But 7 years on pain meds is not something you should be proud of. Regardless of the pain.
you need to find a different way to deal with your pain, you are killing your kidneys and liver by constantly being on this medicine. You think a herniated disc or 4 herniated discs are bad. It will only be a worse time in your life is you need dialysis and are on some transplant list.
Your father and fiance are meddling, yes it can be annoying and frustrating because they cannot feel the pain you are in and do not understand how this has ruined your life and how upset you are inside dealing with the struggles you are dealing with. But they wouldnt be doing it, if they didnt love you. Be grateful you have someone there to love you and look out for you because they care and dont want you hurting yourself.
Direct your anger where it belongs. Direct you anger at the demons inside of you that are trying to destroy you and fight back! Fight for your life and your will to live. Suicide is never the answer, because when you decide to give up you are giving up on what could have been. The influences you could have made on someone else life and the changes you could have made on the world to make this place a better place for someone else.
If you cant be happy, make happiness for others. In it you will find self worth and you know what....thats a start. So stop being angry at the wrong people, they love you.
And you would break their hearts and cripple their lives for the next 10 or so years or the rest of their lives if you committed suicide. There is more to live out there... fight to find it.