What is wrong with me?

Question

Since i was little i have always been VERY shy and it still hasnt gone away. Im 18. I also have no confidence at all in myself, looks or personality wise.

Its like i have a little voice in my head all the time telling me im stupif and worthless and everything is going to go wrong so dont even bother.

Im very shy even around family i havent seen in a while and i try to avoid going to certain places if i know i will have to talk 2 people.

I spend alot of time on my own.

I avoid going palces all the time, even though i no it will be fine when i get there i jsut cant phisicly make myself and choose the safer option of staying at home.

Im really loud and happy at home, but anywhere else im shy and just want to go home.

Im never comfortable in what im wearing, even if i think i look nice when im at home if i look the same while out ill feel discusting like the ugliest freakiest person in the world, even though people tell me i look like a model.

I obsess over everything from being paranoid im too skinny, or my nse os gianorous, thinking my bone structure is to small. I used 2 have an overbite and had jaw surgery to correct it(for a medcal reason not because i didnt like how it look, although i did) I thought it would help though but its done nothing for my confidence sometimes i think i look worse.


Im so bad at socialising and dont know how to hold a convosation and i think i come across to peopple as being a bit wierd.



Sorry for the long post id be so grateful for any replies.

Answer 1

All I can say is that when you feel this way it is easy to think that you are not like others and that there is something wrong. But remember that there are many others like this.

Think of it as that you are more sensitive and self concious than others that you are thinking of as normal.

You may think that you should be a certain way and that you are an adult now etc, but you have much life to see yet. You are still finding your place in the world.

Answer 2

Sounds like you have depression.
See if you can see a doctor and just tell him everything that you just said here.
And, if you are too shy to tell him/her,
Then just print this out.
They could help you to feel better about yourself and your life.

Answer 3

Is this the reason why you wanna kill yourself? if so, please don't do that.... if your really hearing voices in your head then please go tell someone about it so they can help you, really.

I'm a year younger than you, I'm 17 years old and I'm like you too. I can't go anywhere alone and need someone like my mom to be with me everywhere I go because I'm so shy being around people and being alone. I too am loud and happy around home and around friends I really like, but so quiet around people who I don't know very well. Always at school, around lunch time, I don't walk up to the cafeteria to buy food because I'm scared and shy about people looking at me. I don't have much confidence in myself as I should and that gets in my way alot and I can't stand it. People tell me too that I have the looks of a model, but I don't really see it either.

:) See? your not alone.... sorry about talking about myself soo much but just trying to show you that your not alone. So please.... tell someone around you if your hearing voices cause that's not a good thing. This happened to someone I love very much and she finally got help. She's still with me today and feeling better than ever.

If you want to you can talk to me if you'd like, I don't mind at all :D

Answer 4

Maybe a good counselor could help you gain the self confidence that you need in order to accept yourself and relate to other people. You must have to go out for some things -- school, work, errands etc. How do you handle that?

You are very self centered in that you are always thinking about yourself when you are out. Begin to think about other people and look for ways to complement them, help them, laugh with them. listen to them etc. etc. Start with people that you already relate to and then begin to venture forth. Don't worry about what you are wearing -- get someone else to go out with you.

Answer 5

I was exactly the same when I was younger. For me it was a result of years of abuse and natural shyness. It's something that takes time, so be patient. This may sound strange, but what I found helped me most with my shyness and nervousness was weight training.

If you were to talk to people who knew before I started training seriously they would tell that I was a completely different person. I used to hate the way I looked, I always second guessed myself, never hung out with people, and all I ever wanted to do was be alone at home.

Exercise is incredibly powerful because it floods with your body with endorphins and testosterone. Yes even women have testosterone, and it's a good thing. It gives you more energy and more confidence. As your body gets stronger and more attractive your self esteem will go up as well.

I used to hate my body and going out in public, now I love it.

Answer 6

You are describing exactly how I felt when I was 14, except I didn't avoid going places, particularly. I have always been a "feel the fear and do it anyway" kind of person. Getting out there gave me experience, which gave me confidence. You get confidence by getting out there, unless there's something else wrong with you. Which, I guess, is kind of the point of your question.

I don't know if anything is really wrong with you, but if you are over 14 years old, this is probably not the most healthy way to feel. You might talk this over with your primary care physician. If you haven't had a physical, you might get one and see if there are any primary health issues that could be causing this situation for you. You never know--maybe you have a heart problem that's causing a nervous system problem and making you anxious and depressed. If everything checks out with the physical, ask your doctor for a mental health referral. It would help you to get into therapy and talk through this, so you can get out in the world and enjoy life. I'm not a hugely social person, but I like myself, and I can be sociable when I want to be. Good luck. Don't just suffer with this. You can certainly improve things for yourself, and actually, you are the ONLY one who can improve things for you!

Answer 7

For me, the best way to overcome shyness is just to dive in. I often have to meet a lot of people and have to talk over important things with random strangers. Overcome the shyness and your confidence will grow.

Answer 8

This is tricky. You think about yourself too much. We always think other people are far more interested in us than they really are. In effect people don't notice the things you would perceive as physical faults in yourself. I know, I used to have the same problem when I was younger, very introverted and lacking in self confidence. You will emerge from this in your own time. It is useless to offer advice, you have to find your own way. I remember people telling me to 'snap out of it ', yeah, right, would it were that easy. Now I look back and realise I was building walls around myself. What seemed terrible then is trivial now. Good Luck and Happy New Year !!

Answer 9

I think you have low-self esteem. You try to comfort yourself but that little voice in your head tells you otherwise. And on top of that you are shy. Maybe when you were little your parents didn't really take you out all the time to meet new people or at school you were bullied for something

Answer 10

you should pray to get the baad spirits and demons and stuff out of you and away from you. Thats what I do.