but i have that feeling of missing something i wnna to find my self,i want to fall in love and feel that i am a pretty woman and free not ordinary mam and wife.iam stucked here.??!
2007-12-31 05:02:33 · 6 answers · asked by Nona l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you are stuck, might as well make the best of it, when you chose to have children you chose to make them more of a priority than yourself so you have to focus on their lives and not the fact that you are leading a boring life (that you chose by the way)
2007-12-31 05:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been married long? Do you get couple time? Try the date your husband thing. Pick each other up at a bar or social function and completely "ACT" like you just met.
Becareful or one of you may stray from your marriage.
I have been married for 20 years and we started doing this and found out we were bored with each other and started doing new things together it has helped.
2007-12-31 05:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by cocolia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal at times to feel that life is passing you by, but you are talking about divorce and starting over alone. The things you want, to feel loved, exciting and pretty, can be accomplished within your marriage if you work at it. You fell in love with your husband at some point, and you have to work at keeping that alive and fun. A lot of psychologists say that marrieds should continue to date (each other) after marriage. They should set aside time to go out together, spending time on their appearance, going to romantic places, flirting and touching, taking walks and holding hands, going on weekend retreats to renew the romance. It doesn't happen by accident that you remain excited about being with your husband. Talk to him about renewing the romance in your marriage, tell him you are feeling purposeless and unhappy. He isn't a mind reader, but if he loves you he should be willing to spend some time getting to know you again and talking about your self-doubts and changes you can make.
2007-12-31 05:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did change your lifestyle when you got married....and again when you became a mother. You're not lost. You just don't like where you ended up. It's a little late! Children need their mother. Their father. You'll never be free because mothers who are worth a damn don't desert the needs of their children. Even animals know better than that! What does being "a pretty woman" have to do with it. All that means is you want to prowl and you want someone to notice. Well, someone did notice. And he married you. Spend more time making your home a wonderful place for your husband and children and less time on wanting to cat around.
2007-12-31 05:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the kids for a weekend and you and the hubby go away....Have alot of sex have candle lit dinners, jump into a hot tub naked and eat strawberries and drink champagne watch adult movies dress in more sexy....If you can drive to the beach and have a breakfast picnic while the sun rises (if its to cold stay in the car) go back to the place you had your very first date with your husband.....
2007-12-31 05:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your marriage is in trouble - these are the "bad times" which you referred to in your vows.
Try some counselling, for starters.
2007-12-31 05:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by banana6464 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋