Some of my few friends are not talking to me. And have not been for a while now. No calls, texts or emails. Which is super weird as we didn't have a falling out or anything.
Last time my one friend spoke to me was 2 months ago. She sent me a FWD. I sent a fast note to see how she was. Her response was one sentence. We used to be close, and i've overlooked a lot of things with my friends, like their fibbing, fishing and gossiping and so on. But, they've been acting super weird in the last few months especially. And earlier this year, my one friend did something super rotten to me, that my mom said makes her no kind of friend at all. Same with the other one who is always talking crap.
All of my friends lie, i'm the only one that doesn't. Even so, they are my freinds, and i still care about them, even if i know that most of what they say isn't true. I figure, they have their reasons for doing so. I believe in forgiveness and friendship takes work, but Whatever.
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2007-12-31 04:57:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Anyways, my best friend and i don't talk all the time like we used to. We're both grown, and have lives. Which i do very much understand. So we will touch base every few months or so, and get together for lunch or dinner or shopping or something.
But, all of my friends have been acting super weird. Especially in the last few months, and like, not talking to me at all. Granted i still kinda talk to someone they don't particularly care for, but why can't i be friends with different people, even if they don't care for one another?
Also, all of my friends only seem to talk to me when my life is going good, and it super sucks right now. So, that is playing a small part i think. To me, if soemone can only be my friend when things are going good, then they are no friend at all. As i am not that way with them.
So... long story short, should i just drop them and say/realise they are not my real friends if they are being like that?
What would you do?
2007-12-31 05:01:07 · update #1
Also, i don't have very many friends, which my mom says is why i put up with so much and keep them.
All of the few friends i have, i have been friends with for about 6+ years. Some 10 -12+ years. So it's not like the friendships are new. I'm at a loss for what is going on.
But if they can only be my friend during good times, then they are no friends at all correct? And i'd rather have no friends then friends who can only talk to me when things are going good; and of whom cannot 'socialise' with me when i am going through a difficult time.
My mom says i should drop them. What do you think?
2007-12-31 05:05:09 · update #2
nana4: yeah, i don't like to drop people either. that's part of the problem.
Also, friendships take work, and maintenence; and well tons of overlooking. On both ends, as what is good for one, is good for the other.
Problem is also, that i believe in honesty. I'm grown, yet i do not lie. I understand that others do, but well.... i feel as there is no reason to. AND i just don't appreciate some things. Anyways, my best friend (whom i've known for 14yrs) is the kind i can sit and chat with about stuff. She tells me what upsets her, and vice versa; and we work it out which is why she has remained my best friend for 14 years. We are both grown and have lives which is why we only chat every few months or so, as our schedulles allow. But she has been different towards me in the last few months, since the last job she had. I may call her though.
Anyways, these other friends of mine, are important to me; but i wouldn't simply drop them for no reason. IDK what to think really.
2007-12-31 07:38:11 · update #3
I'm a Mom too, and I agree with your Mom. You really want be loosing friends the way I see it. Chalk it up to experience, now you have a ruler to pick and choose who you want to be your friends.
2007-12-31 05:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by tictak kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can do is tell you how I feel on the whole thing.
Every person I have met, befriended or associated with, has had at least a little bearing on the person I am today. I am not very quick to cut people out of my life.
There are people that I have known for 30 years or more that we loose contact for several years and then one of us will track down the other and we have a blast reliving old memories.
Things may not be going well for you right now with certain people but they may be having a hard time or going through things that you don't know about.
I say, let them have their space and when they are ready, they will contact you. It may not be right away, but I lost contact with a friend about 3 years ago and looked up her address and sent her a Christmas card a few weeks ago. We have been on the phone every night since Christmas day.
When the time is right, your friends will contact you again.
2007-12-31 15:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll say "Let the chips fall where they may".
For the things you can not change,leave it up to your maker.
Those things will be taking care of,soon or later!
*Happy New Year* hon!!!
2007-12-31 14:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by Babygirl S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you ask me,I will say,leave them but still talk to them once and try to sort everything out....and if nothing happens,then leave them but dont leave your best friend,you dont find them so easily....so,be careful,you might lose something very precious....Take Care
2007-12-31 13:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ananya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If these people cannot be trusted, and are not accepting and supportive when you try to do positive things, you have destructive relationships with them. Better leave them be, wishing them well, praying for them, but forming good relationships with true friends, asking God for His Guidance in your choices.
2007-12-31 13:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if they treat you that way, then no they aren't your friends. I know how you feel though. I've had friends who I talked to a lot last year and now this year for some reason some of them didn't talk to me at all. Did that stop me? Nope. All I had to do was make new, real friends that wouldn't ditch me, and I did and now my life is a lot easier. Try making some new friends. Trust me, being a new kid at my new school last year, I found it was very clicky. But this year there were a lot of new kids and kids I hadn't met before, plus the freshmen. And so far, most of my new friends have stayed my friends. Good Luck, hope this helps.
2007-12-31 13:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by mjvast1014 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should call them and try to work things out if not drop them...
2007-12-31 13:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Promise 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋