she isn't getting alone with her parents b/c she curses them out....and she has a small baby.....i'm a working woman in a relationship..bringing her into my small 2 bedroom wouldn't be a good idea right?
2007-12-31 04:53:46 · 17 answers · asked by =lost soul= 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
btw she is 20 yrs old
2007-12-31 06:56:57 · update #1
I wouldnt do it. Especially if she cant respect her parents, what makes you think that shes gonna respect you. You also work and you are in a relationship, a two bedroom apartment is going to limit the amount of fun you have. Plus with her having a baby, MORE THAN LIKELY you will end up dealing with the complications of it. You might end up babysitting when you dont want to and paying for most things. That in the end, will cause unwanted problems, and you could risk losing your job and/or damaging your relationship.
2007-12-31 05:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not a good idea. Unless she has respect for her own parents her respect for you will dwindle as well. She has a small baby, what shape is it in? That is emotional black mail. I'm suprized she still has custody of it. You work; what will she be doing when your at work? Not only will she be using, but when broke you can count on any loans you give her as being a gift and items go missing from your home.
Just tell her "No", and that if she were to use in your home or have any of her 'friends' drop by; any use of, dropping off of, or picking up of drugs she will lose her baby to Children's Aid. And believe me, she will do all of the above. YOU CAN NOT TRUST A JUNKIE!
If you get emotioanlly talked into having your cousin with you, you will be sorry. Practice tough love.
2007-12-31 13:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
nooooo! don't do it. She isn't mature enough to be living with you and she will disrupt your life. If she can't get along with her parents she isn't going to be able to get along with you. You sound mature, she is not and you will clash. She will wear out her welcome too quickly with that kind of attitude. You don't say how old she is but she needs to grow up and stop being so selfish. Tell her she needs to make an effort to get along with her parents so that she can work to get herself a life and her baby a life. She is being very selfish. She needs to stop acting like a selfish baby and raise her own baby. Her parents need to take some responsibility too and that's not your job. If you let her live with you, you will only be prolonging her growing up and you will be enabling her to use you and continue on in her pattern of immaturity. Don't be mean or preachy but be matter of fact when you tell her. Good Luck!
2007-12-31 13:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sherry T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say NO! Refer her to some programs in her area that can help her get off drugs and be a good mom - and while she is at it, she ought to get a job, job training, etc.
2007-12-31 13:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by petra 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The baby has no fault in this but unfortunately do to her lack of responsibility she's putting both at harm. Obviously she lives w/ her parents cause they allow her to stay there otherwise she would have been thrown out, right? She needs to remain at her parents home and stop being selfish & immature for the sake of the infant. DO NOT allow her to stay w/ you and other family members should get involved as well she needs to realize, wake up and get off that cloud and stop throwing tantrums. You know how many unwed girls/woman do not have their parents support when they discover their pregnant. How old is she?
2007-12-31 13:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by Laura S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she has no RESPECT for her parents ; who are you ?
NO NO NO
2007-12-31 13:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Linda B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No! The fact that she's your cousin means nothing. The fact that she's a junkie means everything. You should not take her in.
2007-12-31 13:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just say no! It's your home and your right.
2007-12-31 13:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by pinky 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just say no.
2007-12-31 12:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Instantkarma♥♫ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's never a good idea to move someone into your home that you don't like. That's just asking for trouble. Also having an immature person and a small baby in the house suddenly is going to disrupt your life AND your relationship. She was old enough to make a baby, let her find a way out of the parental home...or on the other hand she may be too young and rebellious, with a baby she needs to settle down and do the right things and that does NOT include cussing out her parents.
She is NOT your problem, you have a life.
2007-12-31 12:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋